My Second Life and other Secrets

Since you have no experience in the matter I'm not surprised. But I've made a fair effort to explain it. So read and learn. I've poured out my heart and soul here because I know it is an important subject for a lot of men. I've been thanked more times than I can count and a couple of men even said I might have saved their life; that they were right on the edge like I was and I helped a lot. [I've been talking with other men about this for four years now]

Also, it is a really interesting world that a lot of people know almost nothing about. Once I started to learn, it was like getting hit by a tidal wave. I had NO idea how much goes on. It was shocking at times.

 

How old are you anyways?

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So says you. We only get to hear your side of the story though, if any of this is even true which I doubt.

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What do you think these young ladies find attractive about you? According to you, none of them are obviously interested in sticking around. Why is that do you think?

 

Sex is important, but there's a lot more to relationships than just sex, and that's what your lifestyle lacks.

Personally, I'd be very depressed knowing the only reason a woman is sleeping with me is because I have a few hundred dollar bills for her. But if it works for you, it works for you.

 

Oh yeah, without a doubt it explains the need so many have to "get laid" and the overall power of the sex drive. We exist to reproduce, essentially.

 

I have no doubt that there are a lot of men out there trapped in loveless, sexless marriages and the idea of bedding a laundry list of prostitutes is a welcome change in their lives. I imagine there are a lot of people who are grateful to get started on using crystal meth as well, which can help some escape the pressures and boredom of their daily lives.

 

Speak for yourself. That's not why I exist!

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I would only want to be with someone who cares about and loves ME. Not everyone else too.

 

A figment of some atheist pseudoscientist's imagination, crafted to legitimize selfishness by associating it with the otherwise innocuous human genome.

You haven't helped any of the women they're copulating with, that's for sure.

 

Just past 50.

Of course you do. And what does this have to do with anything beyond trying to discredit me?

Answer: Nothing. You are threatened by what I do so you make it personal.

It is a friendship much like FWB. Number one and I got much closer than that. And I spent 18 months looking for that special connection again. I'm a very loving and kind person. I treat my sb like she's the most important woman on earth because to me she is. I'm a considerate and giving lover and have improved my skills in bed dramatically since this all started. I am adoring and a hopeless romantic. Most women like being adored. The bottom line is we enjoy each other. But that doesn't come easy. It takes a lot of work to find. I've connected well with three other women since number one left but it wasn't quite right. But I am still hopeful that my current sb and i will last for years to come. We certainly have the right chemistry.

But it would be silly to expect a woman so young to stick around for more than a few years. It I happen to find one that is truly open to a LTR with a man my age, I would definitely be interested.

I've dated women raging from 20 to 40 or so years of age. What matters is how I feel when I hold her in my arms, and how she feels. That is the whole ballgame.

 

You clearly don't read what is posted. It is about a lot more than sex. If you are just going to ignore what I say then you can just make up things as you go I guess.

Do you think they will sleep with just anyone? Do you know what percentage of marriages end in a divorce initiated by the wife, because of money? Same thing. If a man isn't bringing home the bacon, before long he will soon be alone, married or not. But yes, it works for me far better than marriage. We have much of the good and almost none of the bad.

I was giving all of my money to my wife and getting nothing for it, not even sex. It was like a hole I could never fill. The more I made the more she spent. And I didn't give a damn about most of the crap she bought. One day I looked around and realized I was working myself to death and getting NOTHING in return; nothing but a bunch of grief and a bad attitude from a heartless b.

If I can fall in love with her it works wonderfully. As it turns out, when you really love someone, as long as they care about you, that is enough. If I can find one who falls in love with me then the sky's the limit. But she will have to knock my socks off before that could happen.

 

Part of my message to men out there is, before you go on drugs for the rest of your life and let people mess with your brain, or before you kill yourself, if you have been living a sexless life, try sex. You might find that you simply can't live without it and be happy.

 

I have upped the game with my current sb. She has expressed the explicit desire for me to romance her more than I do. It is tough because different women want different things. With some, the last thing they want is to be romanced. But my sb knows how I felt about number one and I think she wants to be adored in the same way. She knows I didn't fall in love with her yet but I told her I might.

One thing is certain. When I hold her in my arms I am swept away. We have that special magic that leaves me floating and experiencing true bliss. So tonight I spilled the beans. As number one would say, I went John Denver on her. I sent her the video that says it all, And I told her very truthfully that this is how she makes me feel when I lay next to her and hold her closely. This is the feeling I spent a year and a half trying to find again. So I its official and I have gone sappy. I hope I don't regret it.

[video=youtube;2XOzG0lX0AI]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2XOzG0lX0AI[/video]

 

This (*)(*)(*)(*) is so weird. Lol. I'm just glad I don't have these "issues."

 

Right, and most prostitutes don't even pretend they like you, they just lay there like corpses with a bored "thousand-yard stare" sneaking looks at their wristwatch and saying stuff like "what are you doing down there?... will you be much longer?"
So I've been told...

 

So you've seen a lot of prostitutes? I doubt that! In fact I know better.

 

It was a choice. I fell into the first relationship almost by chance. It was so rewarding and gave me so much happiness that I had to confront the truth of the matter. I had never been so happy. So why change? As it turns out and as I always believed, I was given a cosmic gift when I met number one. Was she a one in a thousand? One in a million? I would bet the latter. And I admit that at times I have gotten a bit discouraged. But the time I've spent with other women has proven to me that this can work if you put in the effort to find that real connection. In the mean time, while I continue[d] the search, I get [got] to have sex with lots of beautiful women who normally would be out of my league. That alone has been an adventure. I have had many fantastic dates that never would have been possible in the normal dating world.

Note, the last time I broke out John Denver it almost cost me the relationship. Too much too soon. I hope I didn't blow it again. But she has been insisting that she wants me to show her my feelings. And I've warned her. So here we go.

 

I had the idea in my late teens of visiting a different prossie each week but gave up on the idea after visiting 4 because it was such a terrible loveless thing without any love and warmth or friendship.
Some men like it but not me, yuk..

 

Well, what a teenager can afford is probably scary. There are many levels ranging from street prostitutes, to high end models who pull down $10K a night or more. I have had some great experiences with high end prostitutes but they cost some serious bank. At the top end, some of the most elite agencies will only hire women who are highly educated, cultured and well traveled. They have to be gorgeous and fantastically charming. I have met a few who are charming beyond measure. They understand men. That is what I noticed first and foremost. And they know how to connect make you feel like old friends very quickly. You don't have a bad night with one of those women. But $3K a night is pretty much a starting point. And it isn't legal where I live so I had to travel.

 

So why are you advocating for this lifestyle on this website? I don't think anybody here who makes the kind of money you presumably do will want to get into the prostitute business.

 

The only thing I'm really advocating is that men consider sex as an option to drugs or suicide. It could make a huge difference in your life. We often accept a life without sex. In my experience, that can come with a price that is too high. Beyond that I am just telling my story and sharing what I've learned about an entire world out there that I, like most people I think, only had vaguely conceptualized. My level of sophistication in these matters was on par with an episode of Starsky and Hutch. But once I dove in I found it all to be quite fascinating. Human sexuality is far more complex and varied than I had ever imagined. And this sort of thing is far more common that I ever imagined. What many think of as a seedy underworld is really going on all around them in the light of day. And the internet has changed everything.

Note that I have had one poster in this thread who thanked me and I've received a few other compliments about it being a great read. I have found that many people find my story quite fascinating. In fact my best buddy has been pounding on me to write a book for a few years now. So I just tell it like it happened and let the chips fall where they may. People will judge me. Others will understand. Others will be shocked. But that's the way it happened. It has been quite an adventure. Not bad for a guy who came within a breath of being dead.

 

Just curious, if is it okay for your wife or does she know about it,
and is it okay for you if she will do the same thing if she also have the same needs?

 

The day after my near suicide I told my wife I want a divorce. That was five years ago.

I never cheated in spite of ten years with no sex.

 

Something else that comes to mind are comments from other men who finally broke down and started seeing prostitutes. I too felt this way. You quickly grow think of them as angels. You REALLY do! And it doesn't take $3k a night to find that. I have had wonderful experiences at the $300-$500 an hour range [always a few hours per visit].

For my first experience I started with one woman. I was feeling like I was on another planet and had no idea what to expect. I thought I may well walk away feeling like scum. I wasn't really nervous, just lost and determined. After talking a bit, we got undressed and got in bed. At that point I felt I should explain that I hadn't had sex in ten years so my performance is going to be pretty bad. She looked at me with great compassion and expressed shock. She had never met anyone who had gone so long without. She then rolled over so we were face to face and asked, "What is your wildest fantasy?". WOW! I didn't expect that. I had to think... think...think... What a question! Finally I said, do you have a friend? She said she sure does and asked if she wanted me to call her. Why not?!?! So we played around for awhile. Her friend joined us later for the rest of the evening, and again the next night. And OMG we had a blast!!! Contrary to my expectations, I didn't feel like scum. I felt like a new man. And I was,

 

Okay that explains it,
have fun and still enjoy life,
I could say happy hunting chap or else be joyful for being hunted.

 

There are plenty of people in open marriages [in fact, I've met a few escorts and sugar babies who are married]. To me it seems pretty clear. If your partner has lost interest in sex, they have no right to demand loyalty. But a lot of people do. My sister is that way. She cut her husband off years ago and readily admits it [probably gets off on the power of controlling him], but scoffs at the notion that he would chase other women. It is also clear that my lifestyle threatens her. And it should.

 

Yup, we always have that right to be happy,
an no one not affected should divest it from us.