nothing new here they've always been there, you just weren't aware they existed...they probably weren't aware of it either, the internet made it possible for all those dysfunctionals to discover they weren't alone...
women have a lot of disadvantages in life when compared to men...sex is their equalizer, an average women can have sex any time she wants, an average man cannot...if a man wants what a woman has then he needs to play nice by her rules...
my son in law was thought it was grossly unfair that many women automatically reject internet suitors under 6' tall...my daughters response was, it's as fair as men demanding no fatties on their internet searches...
Its basic human physiology. Women do typically have a pick of the litter and guys have seen movies like Beauty and the beast which make them think the "2" can get the "10".
or a famous celebrity , powerful politician or an elite athlete... it's biological behaviour is hard wired into all of us...our women ancestors chose a mate based on his health(appearance is an indicator of health), strength, and ability to be a good provider and protector, being pregnant or carrying an infant were detrimental to their survival... so a healthy powerful hunter who could consistently bring home the bacon, build a shelter, protect her and her offspring from danger, in exchange for something they have that men want ...transfer that to today and nothing has changed, women are in control of the whole mating thing and there's nothing men can do to change it...
beauty and ugly being subjective to the individual and one's culture...personality/confidence can override appearance or hotness as you put it...biologically being different from the pack can be a hindrance or it be an attraction that helps the individual stand out from the pack... I've noticed that some physically attractive people become less so when you get to know them(they're butt holes) and some less attractive people become better looking because they're great people...how many people in long term relationships even notice if their partner is attractive or not?
Supply and demand. Women know that most men after a drink or two would mate with a mailbox if it was wearing lipstick makeup and winked at them. Women are a bit more discriminating. Which is of course quite unfair.
when you consider that men are statistically the most likely cause of their premature violent death...being more discriminating as to which man they choose to be alone with becomes understandable...
The sign of a successful man is the one that can pay for anything they want. The sign for a successful woman is to find a man like that.
Women are now dominating medical schools and colleges. It used to be easier for a woman to find a more educated man and men liked women that were uneducated.
The ugly women have to "do it for themselves". Women who look like Bezos' mistress can land a billionaire.... Meanwhile, an Uncle Fester looking mofo like Bezos can land a hottie as long as he has cash.....
I think it's because of online dating. Where all you get is images. It forces you to judge looks first. Where an average guy may be charming and charismatic it's impossible to pick up on that online. I think a lot of people avoid such social situations for fear of being judged. This seems to be a big deal for people in my generation (millinnials) because we were told that we are good just the way we are. Meaning there is no need for self improvement, which means any criticism is not taken well. This leads to many problems, i.e. people thinking because you criticize some aspect about them that you hate then. So this inability to take criticism as constructive pushes people to seek dates online. I think this is destructive on all fronts. We don't want to take risks when we should, we are unwilling to take opportunities that are not the absolute best. It's frustrating as hell when you are trying to help. It's a lesson we have to learn. It's easier to do it as a kid but with the "everybody is special" mantra stole this from millinnials. Gen Z I'm not so sure about.
It wouldn't be that big of a deal if women weren't trying to Excuse every undesirable trait. I've seen anti fat shaming, anti slut shaming. They want men to accept every one of their toxic unacceptable Behaviors