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My abortion is scheduled for Monday. I'm not happy about it. I've never cried so much in my life. I'm terrified. I take comfort in knowing that it is the best decision for me.
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I guess I’m too late, Bell. I apologize for sounding insensitive, but your decision definitely wasn’t best for your son/daughter. It pains me to hear of how an unborn life is trivialized because it doesn’t conveniently fit into peoples plans. It is also troubling to hear that people use the potential loss of money as the reason to justify abortion. If you aborted every baby that put their parents under financial strain or below the poverty line many great minds and amazing people would have never had the chance to do the great things they’ve contributed to this world.
Please, next time (and I pray there isn’t) talk to an adoption counselor or maybe to some families that have adopted babies. They will tell you that adoption is great option for the baby and for the couples that cannot have children. There is no BCP that is 100% effective. Anytime you have sex there is a possibility to create another life. If you are sure that you don’t want children then you should consider a tubal ligation or a hysterectomy.
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As said above by Bell, she is/was barely treading water to survive. If she had a child, she would most likely go into Poverty. Now think of this. It is well known that children who grow up in poverty, end up criminals. It is true that if the mother cant give the child a place to live, bad things will result..
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Vinyar, are you saying that if you have a baby and he/she causes a couple to become impoverished, that they are forever destined for poverty??? They can never rise out of their poverty because of this child??? You’re joking right? And, Did you ever consider that children born into poverty may also have more drive and passion to be successful than a child born into wealth because they have nothing? Your reasoning (if you want to call it that) is pathetic. You have a defeatist outlook on life. |
Roux-en-Y, I appreciate your thoughts. A few comments:
Yes, I know it wasn't the best decision for a potential son/daughter (not far along enough to know, thank whichever god you wish to thank) but it was the best decision for me.
Yes, it's terrible how much financial status (or lack of) influences these grave decisions. It's horrible, I agree. I wish it were not so.
More specifically to what you said, it's not that it would put me into poverty for I am already there. Does society need another poor, single mom?
That was also not the only factor in my decision. It's selfish, but I am on the cusp of accomplishing something I've worked my whole life for. I'm sure you would find it a worthy cause. Also, when I was pregnant, I was sick, very sick, every single day. I was wasting away, and it felt like cancer to me. There's no way I could have worked, and that would have led down a dangerous, narrow road.
I'm quite familar with adoption, as it 'runs' in my family. I've seen the results and it was not the correct answer for me.
As far as birth control from now on, he is getting a vasectomy.
My post abortion thoughts are such that it is a horrible, terrible procedure. I will never go through it again, and I wish no one ever had to. It was such a nightmare, and my immediate thoughts were "this should be banned. It would make everyone's decision just so much easier." But that's such an idealistic thought. If we lived in a different society, where money flowed freely to those who needed it, where stigma was less, where people believed in altruism, then ban abortion, yes indeed. Of course if we lived there, we wouldn't need to ban abortion.
I'm not so sure how I feel about abortion in cases or rape anymore. And I'm not so sure how I feel about abortion in cases of incest, or physical abnomality.
Lots of thinking to do.
Thanks