C.S. An excellent observation. If I may expand a bit, I think that many who write on this subject do not take in the totality of life, relationships, how God has set relationshps to be. I believe that men and women are equal, but have different and very unique roles in a relationship.
I believe that if an abortion (for justified reasons; i.e. health/life of the mother/fetus for example), then both who helped to create that life must be allowed to make the choice, as anguishing as it may be. I would hate to have to make such a terrible choice as to end a life. I am a fool before God and I cannot see beyond the end of my nose. In Gods eyes, there may be a reason; unknown to us at the moment, as to why a deformed child that is affecting the very life of the mother who carries him/her should be allowed to take one or both lives. Only God knows that; and that takes a extreme amount of faith.
How could a husband give up the life of his wife and child? Trust and love of God is the only reason I can see.
Since we have technology to tell us the conditions of the woman and child now, we make life and death choices based upon that. So, is technology a gift or horror? I do not know. All we can do is pray and ask God to guide us in our choices in these matters. Choose wisely and with love; but let God, father and mother come to that choice themselves.
I am but a fool in these matters since I am not a father. I share the best advice I can. Many of you who have had childeren; mother and father, who have gone through abortions (murder, in my view) and have families some; with children with terrible birth defects, have a far more experienced knowlege of this matter than I . So please, do not condem me too harshly if I seem a fool to you. What I share, I share out of love of God and mankind, young and old alike.
May God guide us all, grant us wisdom, forgiveness and love.
Merry Christmas to all of you.

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Christian, moderate conservative, willing to consider other points of view and compromise when appropriate.