Just to debunk one of the claims here (haven't examine the others):
Here's a full NYT story on Lt. Murphy and his actions that day, which ran the day the medal was awarded:
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/10/22/us/22medal.html
And a follow-up story on his parents that ran 3 weeks later:
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/11/11/ny...parenting.html