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Originally Posted by C-D-P
I am not in your situation, so I can not say how I would react. But I can say how I would like to react.
But you are basically telling me that you do not want to put it up for adoption because it is inconvenient.
I do not know of anyone that would frown on you for putting the child up for adoption. And you can, you simply choose not to.
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I don't think that's what she's saying - she also has medical complications that would place her in a high-risk category and certainly any issues with an IUD can be life-threatening. My aunt miscarried and almost died due to complications from a migrated IUD, and I had one surgically inserted three years ago for contraception that got infected almost immediately and I ended up hospitalised because of the problems it caused. I was amazed that I could get pregnant at all after that.
There are mitigating circumstances in this case. It’s not as black-and-white as `convenience’ or `inconvenience’. It sometimes can be, but that is rarely the case. It is not fair to get up onto the moral pedestal and make judgements based on one post without knowing this woman or anything about her or her life.
This is one of those situations where the rights, safety, health and security of the mother outweigh that of the child. I doubt that this has been an easy decision - and I certainly doubt that she thought `oh jeez. This is just such a PAIN. I'm gonna have an abortion cos that'll make my life easier'. I really doubt that.