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Originally Posted by C-D-P
As I said before. My youngest son was born at 21 weeks gestation, he weighed one pound nine ounces and was 10.6 inches long when he was born. I was deployed shortly after she got pregnant. She was high risk since we first found out she was pregnant. She was bed ridden before she got into the second trimester, and I mean sponge baths and using a bed pan.
When he was born early I was sent home to help her out. He spent four months in the NICU, and a month and a half in the transactional ward. At three days of age they took him off the vent and placed him on a CPAP, two days later he developed nymphomania. And had to be placed back on the vent, he spent the next two months having a machine breathe for him.
Her life was in danger the whole time. My son will be two years old soon.
Should she had gotten an abortion?
And if you would read my post again, you will see that I did not judge her, but I did tell her what it sounded like.
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Ok no you weren't judging her perhaps - but it kind of sounded a bit like that!
And my pregnancy is in high-risk category as well. Which is why I am being monitored closely the whole way through it. But that is due to my extremely high risk of developing post-natal depression after delivery and because of some medication I'm on, not for a more common reason such as pre-eclampsia or anything like that. I also have a low-lying anterior placenta, which could mean a caesarian delivery.
I'm not aborting (obviously) - not all high risk pregnancies should abort.
What I'm saying in this woman's case which is different to your own is that she does not have the support network, the relationship with her husband, the security or anything else that you had to be able to make your extremely difficult situation tenable. And that does need to be taken into consideration - absolutely. If you are already at risk, and the circumstances of your life place you at even more risk - which does include mental and emotional risk, which does affect the health of the baby - then abortion is an option that should be considered. It's not the best option, but that's life sometimes. We have to judge each case on its individual merit and I still believe that the life and well being of the mother can and should sometimes outweigh that of the unborn child.