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Originally Posted by C-D-P
I have a scientific mind. So yes I would. But does he? That is a question only he can answer. Ask him. Odds are he will tell you that he is just there to hold your hand and let you know everything is going to be OK.
Define rude. That is on the person. Some men would say yes, some would say no. Knowing most men, I would say no it is not rude.
Darling, the midwife, or berther always acts shocked. It happens. It is what they do. If they have been in the game long enough, there is nothing that they have not seen.
He is going to come even if he is not interested, because he loves you. You asked him to go right. Yeah you did or he would not be there. Even if you said. "Honey, do you want to go to this?" He took it as go or no more food beer or sex. It is how things are.
I hate to be mean or rude, but would you rather him sleep? Because I am sure he would rather be sleeping.
He is there supporting you by being there. Be thankful for that. Many men would have simply said no. He is showing his love simply by taking time out of his day by being there learning about something he will not even be a part of.
There are no everyday average guys. We are all individuals, just as you women are. We all do our own things for our own reasons. He is there, be thankful. If he said no, then you would have a reason to be mad.
Guys know their surroundings. They all knew their wives were watching them while they were watching him.
As I said. I am interested in science. This is a science. I love to learn, some men don't. I pay attention when I think I may learn something. Some men don't. It does not mean he does not care about you, or your child. It just means that he may MAY feel useless at this point. Because up until the kid is born, most of us feel useless.
Well except the going out to get ice cream in the middle of the night.
If you want him involved, get him involved. Let him know that his role is important. But do not force him, or he may shy.
Regardless of what you read in Cosmo, we men are complex animals.
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Eewww. I don't read Cosmo! Puhlease.
I don't know about the men you know but I don't know any men who would consider this being forced upon them, or who would consider not showing up. I didn't have to ask the Chesboy. He was the one who organised the classes. He is intimately involved with everything - interested, supportive - and not just for me, for him. This is his child. He loves her, he wants to do everything he can. He can't help himself.
He didn't come last night because he is sick, and it was me who told him not to come. He would have - he loves it. I haven't had to ask him to do anything. He is an adult, and recognises his role in this experience.
Now, I know there are no everyday average guys - that was your term, not mine!
But that guff about `showing his love by coming' is just ridiculous. It's his baby, too. He was half responsible for conceiving the child, and he will be half responsible for raising it. Therefore he also has a responsibility to be a part of the pregnancy experience. That's not just up to the woman. And the guy isn't some superhero if he's involved. He's just doing what he should be doing.