Hi, i can understand your point of veiw, but i dont think you've got it quite together yet.
I don't get controlled by anyone, its quite the contrary.
I don't like to do anything my youthminister says, teachers say, government say or anyone says, including mum and dad, nan and grandad, King, Queen, Bully, friend. you get the point anyway.
I'm a christian. Which means i love God and put HIM before everyone else.
Of course it involves control, we christians give our all to God, so he can be glorified in us.
I don't care what God does to me or with me, because I trust God so completely.
Its only HIM that i let direct me. And where ever he wants to go, i will follow. Whether it means losing my whole family, my pride, my selfishness, and everything that i hold close.
Its simply the fact that i love him, and there is nothing else to it.

I don't let people tell me to do things unless it says in the bible that god wants me to do it. Or if i know that God doesn't like it. I don't care what happens to me, its Gods wish that i want done.

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same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present."
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