Age difference in a relationship?

I'm 53 and I work in an office with a woman that's 34. We get along very well and anytime we talk about non work-related issues, we always think alike. We have the same values. In so many ways, we are matched extremely well. We are both divorced and we both have two kids. My kids are about five years older than hers.

The only problem is our age difference, which at 19 years is huge. To give you some perspective, I'm the exact same age as Tom Cruise and she is the exact same age as Natalie Portman.

What are your thoughts? Do you think a relationship would work? Or is the the age difference too much?

 

Use the crazy hot matrix.

 

Since she has already reproduced with someone else, why not.....of course if this works out, you will be dead by the time she is your age which may make it hard for her to find a replacement you.

 

Go get her tiger. If she is attracted to you she could care less about your age, you seem to be more worried about what other people think, well screw that!

 

It has its risks but ultimately it's a decision for you guys. Good luck!

 

hey and the bonus if it works out is he has someone to take care of him in his old age

 

I'm 11 years older than my first ex-wife and 19 years older than my second ex-wife.

Go for it, might work.



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It's entirely up to you 2 - your lives and your business. If someone comments negatively about your relationship, ask them why it's ok for celebrities and other public figures to marry whomever, regardless of age diff, but not ok for you and yours.......

If you 2 truly love each other and want to be together.....go for it.

Just love each other's kids........that's important also.

 

There are stages in life and if you are in a different stage than your mate it will lead to turmoil.

 

This is basically a math problem.

Take your age, 53, divide by 2 gives you 26.5. Add 7 to it gives you 33.5. That's the youngest age someone of your age should date, so the math says to go for it.

I realize she's no Ann Coulter, but she's more age appropriate.

 

I'd suggest the relationship with someone you work with is a bigger concern than the age difference. It can always be made to work if the couple both really want it to though.

 

Love is not logical. It's the one thing in life where emotion trumps reason.

 

Actually I'd say the problem is underlined.

 

Interesting. Where did you get that formula?

 

I'm transferring to a different department and a different building next week. I'll still be at the same office complex, about a football field away.

 

My two kids are in college/high school and her two kids are in high school/middle school. It's no big deal. And her ex-husband lives in Florida, so he's not a problem.

 

Thanks to everyone ... I didn't get one crazy response.

 

Good luck. Your choice is no one else's business to judge. If you feel a connection there is every reason to try, life is lonely trying to always do the perfect thing.

My wife is 10 years my junior and I sometimes worry about how she is going to handle it if my health begins to fail. But in my case its a minor worry, most of the males in my family don't linger at the end so I doubt I'll be a burden. Morbid I know, but realistic.

In your case you shouldn't let things like that worry you. Give it a shot and see where it goes, life's a lot more fun that way.

 

She's a mature woman at 34. It would be different if she was 24. But there is a big difference in maturity by the time she's 34. I think if the magic is there between the two of you, it's fine.

 

I honestly don't remember where I first heard it, so I Googled and apparently it's fairly well known, it's called the Half your age plus 7 rule. Hey, it's science so it sounds valid to me.

 

It's a way bigger deal than you think, which is why Christ said marrying a divorced woman makes her an adulteress.

 

I'm 51. You would need to consider if this gal is interested in starting her own family with you. Nothing personal, but I think those of us over 50 certainly shouldn't consider having kids any longer.

Having children, like war, is a young person's game.

 

Well, it doesn't have to be. As long as each adult treats each other's kids w/respect, kindness and treated equally, they can be a happy, functional blended family.

 

You got that right. You need energy to raise kids. Never tho't it was fair to a child to have a parent old enuf to be his/her grandparent......

 

So.....I'm trying to find logic in your answer and can't.

The subject of kids came up and you're comparing them to their divorced mother whom you claim would be an adulteress if she re-married. What do kids have to do w/their mother's marital status?