Opposites attract has some merit. It's what drives us sexually, after all. In some people (myself included, I guess), our attraction to 'the most' opposite is stronger than to those more similar. Eg, I'm VERY straight. On that scale thingy, I'd be 100% straight, with extra straightness. I'm small and very pale skinned (though brunette), and I like very masculine men who have a deep voice, are tall and dark and have a full beard and body hair. The more gritty and male they are, the more I like 'em. I've never fancied dandies .. as any overt focus on appearance beyond soapy clean starts to seem feminine, and therefore gives me the creeps.
Needing someone else to find a way to make your efforts profitable isn't "wrong"... many folks lacking the ambition or skill to be entrepreneurs end up living reasonably productive lives.
I did the smart thing. I never got involved in the game. I'm 52, I've been single my whole life. Never had a romantic interest. And I'm just fine with that.
Agreed...however the questions posed were concerning prospective mates and I am a straight male, thus my reply and opinion must invariably be directed by the females I have personal experience with.
"Pale" people like "dark" people and "dark" people like "pale" people. This just seems to be true for most of the time. The blond/ligh brown guys I know seem to "have a thing" for brunettes/more southern traits whereas I and other "darker" guys prefer blonde/light women. This has been true for me ever since childhood.
You sure about that? According to the Trump minions, all of those supposed angry white men voted for Trump because of the precise reason of "lack of jobs".
Although you gave the exact answer I expected you to, I just don't believe it. Is your spouse of the same racial category as you?
I think it is less about appearance/background than it is about compatibility. I was married to a Russian emigre. It was terrible and ended badly. I caught her cheating on me after 19 years and I just could not go on. Eight years later I remarried to a work colleague/friend who became much more than that. She came over from England very young, at about age 9. We now operate a consulting firm together. Prior to our current career she poured concrete for 20 years and I was always in IT. We think much alike and share most of the same values. Most importantly to both of us the attraction is intelligence. We both need someone to stretch and challenge us. We converse on everything from politics, to cosmology, to quantum physics. We brew beer and wine together and do CNC wood and metal machining as a hobby. Yeah, I know, we're a strange bunch.
I think there is a lot of pressure in the Black Community for Black women to not stray outside. Obviously the same pressures don't apply to black men, but you can see as black women become more successful, their odds of marriage drop because the ratio of "marriagable" black men is skewed. See An Interracial Fix For Black Marriage
[video=youtube;qWGSZC0XBSI]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qWGSZC0XBSI[/video] Probably black women are more nationalistic about maintaining their race and reluctant to marry non-black men, which diminishes their marriage prospects. But white women marrying black men are not looking for a provider and they could be the breadwinner of their household without relying on their black husbands economically.
No it is not abnormal and not the least bit racist. I am sure some regressive SJWs will call it that but it is not. Anymore than EXCLUSIVELY dating outside ones race is racist and some do that. Personally although I have dated outside my race it is true I have not sought any long term relationships with anyone outside my race.
I'm not married. I have dated women of different races. Not only do I not have racial dating preferences it never occurred to me that having racial preferences was even a thing until I started debating racists on the internet and encountered people who expressed these views.
Racist might certainly have racial dating preferences but having racial preferences does not make one a racist.
I've had time to think about it after encountering the issue of racial dating preferences and while I agree that racial preferences do not make a person racist they do reflect on a person's mindset when it comes to race. In my experience people who have racial dating preferences also have racist views or have racial prejudices. Generally when someone says they have racial dating preferences I consider it a red flag because these same people often have these preferences because they don't see people of different races as just people they strongly associate race with identity and have different and often negative perceptions of people based on race.
It reflects only that people have preferences in what attracts them to another. Some people are attracted to others who are tall, or short, or blonde or what ever. Same thing with race and nothing more.
Some people see race as just a physical characteristic and feel attraction or don't feel attraction based on race but many people also have strong opinions on race that go beyond seeing it as a superficial trait. In my experience people who have racial dating preferences tend to have other views on race and are often racist to a degree.
There is nothing strange or unbelievable about anything I have said so why it is so hard for you to believe? I'm not at all surprised that you think this way despite the fact that I have been very open about my views on race and experiences.
That's why. You post exclusively about racial issues. You're obsessed by race, so no, I don't believe "...it never occurred to me that having racial preferences was even a thing..." Based on your previous posts on this forum, virtually nothing is outside of your racial eye of Sauron, so I find it hard to believe that it never occurred to you that having racial preferences in dating "was even a thing." You're like the SJW who insists they don't see color, when in fact color is all you see,
