Should my daughter visit her mom who is in jail? Is there a benefit to visits over ph

Well you are, and prison has it's own politics - its not society it's prison. For some reason it's clear your wife has figured that out.

IMO, you should really look at this as a life experience or education instead of a problem....

I don't know you or your wife, however I will say - you're not morally superior to your wife.... I promise you - you're no saint either and I'm sure you have done something in your life that could have landed you in prison - regardless of how you rationalize the bones in your own closet.

 

Yes, I would let her visit. It's her mom. People make mistakes. Hopefully mom learned her lesson. It's ok to teach your daughter that if you make mistakes you have to pay for those mistakes, but that doesnt' mean your mom is a bad person.

 

She said bring her if she wants to come but don't if she does not

 

I say let your daughter visit her mother in jail if she wants to go and if mom wants her to visit. This is part of your family's legacy and kids can understand a lot more than we give them credit for. Maybe a visit would help your child understand the whole situation better and maybe your wife will benefit by having to actually explain her actions to her daughter who will probably have some pretty pointed queries for her mother. This will also be enlightening to you to see how your wife reacts, whether or not she accepts responsibility and has a clear understanding as to why she did the crime. Just my free opinion. Good luck with this.

 

I have one more thing I must ask about before I decide to take her. My daughter will no doubt want to ask her mom questions about what it is like for her. Is that a good idea? Out of curiosity what questions would you ask to an inmate in jail? Should that or certain parts be avoided in conversation?

 

Let your daughter ask whatever she wants to ask. He mother is in jail and is both curious and concerned. The truth is much less than what your daughter probably has running thru her head due to TV shows nowadays. An open honest discussion with your wife is probably what your daughter needs. She probably has a million questions from what she eats every day to how she is treated by other inmates and COs

I teach in a male prison. Its not as bad as you may be led to believe. Well, not all prisons. I am sure there are horrible prisons too but they are hardly what is portrayed on TV and movies.,