I was recently talking to my wife about this, and I wanted to know... How many submissive women are in here, and what exactly do you think it benefits by being submissive? My main question is that she met a woman at a play date for our kids that was an openly submissive woman. They talked for a while, and the lady didn't (from what she was telling me) believe that the way I am, was natural... I thought that was quite funny and wish I could have been there. I told my wife that if she was submissive to me, I'd make it worth her while (and then she hit me). I just don't see how giving up your freedom, and being bossed around like you're a child seems like a good idea. I mean, if you think about it, you would be getting told exactly what to do like you were just another child in the house right? I am just looking for the other side of this, to see what and why people think it's a good idea. I mean, if the husband is a complete dick, and agreeing with him is the only way to shut him up or put him in a good mood... shouldn't you just get out of that relationship? Anyway, please chime in.
Not a female, but I'll say this: Being submissive is easy. You don't have to think and make decisions. Provided the other person isn't abusing you, there's nothing really wrong with this. I think it works for some couples, but a relationship feels like less of a partnership when one partner is really submissive. I'm not really sure what's natural - I suppose the female being submissive might be the default historically. But saying something is natural isn't really a valid argument in favor of or against it.
I think there are different levels of submissive. Letting the man make ALL The decisions while you stay home barefoot and pregnant, over riding everything you say, not letting you have an opinion or a say in anything, handling all the money.....not my cup of tea. Realizing that the man is the man in the relationship and the head of the family, ok, I can deal with that. He can value my opinion, treat me with respect and I can still be the submissive one....just not the doormat. I have to trust that he will make the best decisions for us/the family as the head of the family. I have a career. I have to make the decisions at work for me and the 38 techs under me. I handle government contracts and am in charge for 50 hours a week during the day. I wouldn't mind coming home and giving up some of that dominant side when I walk thru the door. Make sense?
Women are naturally submissive in the context of social interaction due to biological differences. When a man acts like a man women naturally "submit" to him. "Submissive" is not the same as "controlled" however. Societies which attempted to "control" women and outright dictate submissive "roles" were just an attempt to give beta males control that they could never have acquired naturally - and no they haven't been the "default historically" - they've only been the norm in certain tribal or religious fundamentalist societies. Societies such as the ancient Greeks, and even hunter-gatherer societies dating 10,000s of years ago were more egalitarian than Muslim or Christian fundamentalist societies.
This is a joke right? Well I guess I know who wears the pants in this relationship :lol" If you study body language then it's shown that submissive body language from females is what ignites male sex drive (and vice versa, dominant body language from males ignites female sex drive). So I'd say a woman should be submissive in the sense that she should know how to act womanly - but I say this in the context of interaction style rather than literal "roles" enforced by society. The idea that a woman should be forced to follow a rigid set of "rules" and that society should "make" her unequal - ex. that she should be not allowed to have a job, etc I'd say is false. If a woman is loud, foul mouth, and cussing like a trucker that's just going to be a lot more unattractive if a woman is doing it than if a man is - just like a man screaming and crying like a little girl is going to be a bigger turn-off. That doesn't mean that in a relationship someone should be completely dependent with no rights, or that someone should maintain their "dominance" through force or abuse rather than personal character.
