This is damn sure not something easy to write. But monday i have some hard choices to make.This weekend I have some hard things to admit. I worked end stage myself for 27 years and now I face it. In home care VS assited living centers. I am post throat cancer 15 years and post lymph cancer 15 years. Post stroke 13 years so I have no room to complain. Hands down the most stressful thing I have ever faced other than the cancer itself. I'm not looking for pity but am asking the question if any other member here has faced it or is looking at it. I managed to keep all my bad habits (Cigars) all this time. I took to the net and posting when my vocals left me. A tablet is my voice and has been for over a decade. i HAVE had the honor to play some of the largest forums and blog sites in the world. Can't even begin to tell you how fun it is to crank out 200 screens a week. I want to thank some internet buddies that I have made over the years. Thank you to.... @TNHarley @waltky @Moonglow We put together some great shows guys. Who would have thought we could beat out a political forum for usage/screens and donations 4 out of the 6 weeks right before the elections? WE set records guys, WE DID and some if not many that still stand today! One week WE set a 500 screen week! And Sonny Clark can confirm that. @Moonglow @TNHarley go ahead and link this to the other if you want. When you survive cancer you survive death and when you survive death well you just lose your fear or at least I have. I built Honky at another site and brought him here. But God bless Fury because that dude made me famous. He stunned crowds no doubt and nobody could touch him walking the fine line. A site owner Jay Pressley once said when it came to rules Dark Fury was a WORLD CLASS SKATER. I GUESS when I built Honky this site would be my final curtain. Alpha Ego FiresBreath DarkFury Honky KONG. PLAYED boards/forums world wide. And loved every minute of it! Tim
I want to thank Ben Ogden for giving me my first gig. Adam Howard for my most outragous gig. CK for my BEST gig. I want to thank Blue Buffalo and Atomic Turtle for breaking me in to the world of forums.
Bless you and I hope you have a comfortable exit... ...would be nice if there were a way... ... to continue our online contact.
In home care, and try to cure cancer with family while you do it. Do you have a car battery, jumper cables, a board with two nails driven half way through? If so I would be trying to replicate the research done at UCLA, research done on the effects of electricity on cancerous cells. If you do, hook the battery to the bottom of the nails via the jumper cable. Start grabbing the top of them 3-5 times a day and hold on for as long as you can (15-30 seconds was the time used at UCLA) If you can help me prove the research done at UCLA on hairless rats works, we may solve the problem of cancer. They killed this program and never gave a reason why, just complete silence on it, even after extremely successful trials on the only animals they tested it on, rats. Seems like a morbid thing to ask someone, but I will be doing it myself if (more likely when, I live next to an Atomic plant) I ever get cancer.
Good subject and EVERYONE needs to think about this part of life and what they plan to do when it comes. I don't want to be in a nursing home or with my now almost senior kids. So been studying on this for awhile now. Hubby will take care of me if I go first but who will take care of him>
Honkey Kong, Im sorry to hear you are so ill. I think in the end, the bottom line is where you would feel most comfortable in your surroundings and also the care you will get there. My mom passed away fairly recently. Growing up she always said she wanted to die in her home. I promised her I would take care of her at home. The time came that she started to fail. It was hands on 24 hours a day for a very long time. What I learned was the amazing help that the Hospice gave us. When the time came they basically took over her care. 24 hours a day they were on call for any questions I had. They supplied all the necessary medical information and medications needed to keep mom comfortable at the end. The first person I called when mom passed was the Hospice nurse. She was at the house in a half an hour to guide me though and prepare mom before the undertaker came. I am forever in debt to those people. If you choose to stay in home and get care and the time comes that you may need Hospice the thing to research before you sign any papers is how much care they can give. In my state, different companies off Hospice care. These different companies offer different amounts of service. We interviewed several. The care ranged from 2 hours a day, 2 days a week to 7 days a week and as many hours as needed.
Thank goodness some of us can care for our dying parents. I did the same only mama would not allow Hospice to help care fro her, so I rented hospital bed, oxygen tank and had potty in her room and bed pan. My sister helped sometimes but mainly it was me and hubby when he came in from work. Hubby helped undertaker put mama into the body bag to take to funeral home. I checked her pulse, gave her meds and took her back and forth to radiology which only made it easier to breath. I was very blessed to be able to spend those last days with her. Although her pain was terrible , lung cancer. Thank you for putting up info on hospice care. I will check out our Hospice here and see if that can be an option for me or hubby whoever goes first will be cared fro by the other. Don't want to move to where our kids are want to die here where we have put blood ,sweat and tears into this land and home.
I wish you and your's the very best of all things - and that there is peace and contentment in your life. Remember, it ain't over until it's over. Life isn't quite done with you yet. Keep us informed, ok?
I hope they do too and I think it will be better being around people than living alone so good luck and take care. Make sure you can have online service there.
Good luck Honkey. I lost a parent recently to cancer so I know this road is bumpy and has many different exits for those on it. My parents were adament about never being in a home so I vowed to ensure that never happened. Everyone is different. We went in home and for us that was best. A lot of work and tough on everyone but in the end I was so glad I was able to keep my promise.
I am sorry to hear this and hope I'm not too late. As you know, hubs has terminal lung cancer and had been given 2 months....that was 03/2016. He's been thru chemo, radiation, immunotherapy and I don't know what all else since. But we recently (3 weeks ago?) got the word that his tumor is growing and has spread to his kidneys and bones. There is no more treatments available. He is now on oxygen and a Hospice nurse is coming in every week. He will probably stay at home, but also depends on his level of need for care. Right now he has good days and bad, though his bad days outnumber the good. The choices we're faced with as the end draws near are to keep him as comfortable as possible. I will always remember the fun times we had as 'stupid teenagers' that was so long ago, only to reconnect on social media just a few short years ago. Take care my friend and may your journey be an easy one. I am just another nut.
WE WERE HERE!!!!!!! I don’t know you, but I just wanted to wish you good luck on your journey. The quote is from the Nightwish song “the greatest show on earth”.
If you don't mind my asking, I recognize all the names you said. What is your screen name "over there"?
There's not a *******ned day I don't think about it but I am always hoping I can go out with a massive stroke or a car splattering my fat ass on the highway. I gave you a lot of shyt over the years but it was all in fun, albeit a little sadistic at times. I will be thinking of you.
Just go out happy as you can, it's all mental really. I know my days are limited and appreciate every damn one of them while I can....this is all we get dude, make it worthwhile. I will now do the standard "Only the best" bit and make you feel all warm and fuzzy...…………………………………………………….. There, now go rock till you drop.
