Why today’s young men are terrified of sex... Any truth to this, or are y'all geezers outdated...

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I laugh at dump crap like this. Are there issues with 'intimacy'? Kinda? Sure guys are supposed to be sexually aggressive, and that negatively affects cis guys. But the issue comes from having to be masculine and having to always assert and control, when sex is about communication. Seriously, the best sex I've ever had is because of effective communication between what everyone wanted. You want sex, ask for it and learn how to ask for it.

 

Bullshit. Just more victim narrative. I'm definitely one of the men who they would put in that "below average" column. I still got laid by women in the "above average" column. Even married one.

If men actually believe this nonsense, maybe they should grow a pair and actually try talking to women instead of sitting in chatrooms and mourning their fantasy about having no chances.

Take care of yourself, your surroundings, and your appearance no matter what you look like. Project confidence no matter what you look like. Develop a sense of humor matter what you look like. Get out and actually talk to women. You'll be fine. One day maybe even talk to a woman about what they find sexy and you'll find out it is about a lot more than just whether they would rate a picture of you as above/below average. If all women care about was how sexy a prospective partner looks at first glance, almost all of them would be lesbians.

 

Western society in general has become hyper-feminized and emasculating toward young men.

Girls are outpacing boys in most academic and workforce demographics. That is intentional and by design from the left.

The result is weaker boys, weaker families, weaker society, and stronger government.

The long term goal is to transform people in the west from independent, educated, informed, freedom loving citizens - into ignorant, weak willed serfs who are easily manipulated and controlled by the ruling elite.

There is decades of leftist literature and labor dedicated to achieving this. Karl Marx states plainly in The Communist Manifesto "Abolish the family".

 

We know that the testosterone level of young men has been dropping for over 40 years, almost a percent a year.
We know that the preoccupation with distractions such as video games has been expanding for about the same length of time.
We know that pornography has become so prolific and available that anyone can see it-
And we know that pornography does not teach people how to be lovers or good intimate partners.
We know that the recreational use of pot, which far predates that- has become commonplace during that time.
We know that the number of young men in their prime who say they haven't had sex is the last 12 months is about 25%.

Looks more and more like we have an increasing percentage of adult-sized boys and a decreasing percentage of men in our society.

 

There are far less smokin' hot women around is the reason.

 

Why today’s young men are terrified of sex?

Maybe we should stop drugging 20%+ of young boys with Ritilan or Adderol starting at age 8, and let them be normal boys.

The side effects of America's drugging of our boys doesn't exactly make them the most socially assertive or attractive to the opposite sex.

"48% OF SUBJECTS OF ONE STUDY WHO TOOK ADHD MEDICATIONS EXPERIENCED SIDE EFFECTS LIKE SLEEP PROBLEMS AND "MOOD DISTURBANCES." IN ANOTHER, 6% OF CHILDREN SUFFERED PSYCHOTIC SYMPTOMS, INCLUDING THOUGHTS OF SUICIDE."

Children, particularly boys, are being treated like lab rats today.

https://www.esquire.com/news-politics/a32858/drugging-of-the-american-boy-0414/

 

In case anyone was wondering, it's this mentality that makes it so guys can't explore things sexually. Notice how guys are supposed to be the ones in charge and how it relates to power via the idea of how guys are supposed to behave politically. Men have to be in charge, and can't do anything else, even if they want to try something else.

 

Sex is dangerous, it is like a gateway drug, before you know it you find yourself in a relationship. Then comes marriage and kids, not necessarily in that order. You wake up one morning finding yourself buying a home and driving a mini van. Then comes divorce, your new life is destroyed, your old life long ago sacrificed. All to fulfill a primitive desire to have sex with some crazy woman, and all women are crazy.

It's no wonder why young men are afraid to have sex.

 

I see the problem more as one of an increased and unreasonable expectation of romantic codependency in relationships. Its only very recently that it wasn't considered emotionally unhealthy to depend on other(s) to validate ones self-worth and provide happiness. Anecdotally, though I'm no gen z-er, I see them most often looking for and complaining about not finding someone who makes them feel special or valued. People are supposed to be able to do that for themselves. The family unit only ever came into being because it was the most conducive environment for raising children into successful adults, not because adults needed help feeling good about themselves. However, technology and society now make it as easy for unsuccessful people to survive and procreate as it does for successful people, and the purpose of the family has become, from the adult perspective, centered around emotional support, codependence and romantic or dramatic interpersonal entertainment. This creates more people that are more dependent on such things, without creating more people who enjoy being depended upon for such things. The innevitable result is a decreased sense of contentment in relationships as more of them involve a codependency that isn't equal- the emotionally needy are disproportionately more dependent on the success of the relationship (because its now just as easy to survive and accel alone as partnered, in the material sense) which either makes them feel more like a burden to their less emotionally needy counterpart, or makes them an actual burden to their less needy counterpart, or both, leading innevitably to insecurity, animosity and instability in the relationship.

 

Yep. It's an attempt to be "dominant" that has more to do with being insecure than anything else. Real confidence is a lot more attractive than fragile egoism.

 

Exactly! Tell a guy he can be beautiful and he won't know what hit him. It's okay not to be in charge, it's okay to listen to yourself and be scared. That's where confidence comes from.

 

I can attest. I have a good friend who decided to let the doctor "diagnose" both his boys with ADHD and then prescribe them Ritilan. I cringed but hey, his decision. They are grown now and totally socially inept.

 

Have you considered the possibility that the original issue for which the father took the children to the doctor, just might be the actual reason for why they are socially inept?

 

No reason to. The drugs made it so that he didn't have to use discipline. The drugs mellowed them out so he didn't have to.

 

Discipline doesn't work with every child.

 

You are probably right. Are your kids on medicine?

 

Nonresponsive, anecdotal. None of my post was anecdotal, but was full of facts about the prevailing culture, the above OTOH is platitudes and chest-puffing. But Q.E.D. of some of the terrible advice men get on attracting women. Also Q.E.D. of the types of "man up" shaming men get from feminists and LW men. Thanks for making my point.

 

I don't have any kids but I have watched while some parents literally try anything and everything to "fix" their kids.

 

Apparently some people paid attention to the Kavanaugh confirmation hearings and the wild, uncorroborated accusations of a plain liar that were still allowed in Congress and on national television. Was that atrocity of injustice a "paranoid fantasy?"

Are unjust campus sex abuse tribunals that deny young men due process, ruin their lives and are getting creamed in court a "paranoid fantasy?"

https://www.commentarymagazine.com/articles/campus-sex-crime-tribunals-losing/

https://www.theatlantic.com/educati...rtable-truth-about-campus-rape-policy/538974/

Are persistent feminist efforts to get burdens of proof relaxed in sexual abuse cases a "paranoid fantasy?"

https://www.mindingthecampus.org/2014/11/04/lets-do-away-with-the-burden-of-proof-in-sex-cases/

Yeah, there's some "fantasy" and delusional thinking going on all right.

 

Speaking up against InCels and MRAs makes you a good man -- and you will be richly rewarded for it.

PS. When feminist men are accused, only MRAs still defend their Presumption of Innocence.

 

Fortunately, relationships in 1970s were still based on mutual Love and Respect. Not on the view of men as Oppressors. Not on Presumption of Guilt.

 

Indeed, most American women in 1970s were intelligent and strong. They viewed men as equals.

In 2020s, the EAP teaches Society to view men as oppressors.

 

False accusations are not rare. As I discuss in an old post:

 

Thank you very much. Women who stand up against Presumption of Guilt give hope to Humankind.

Men themselves have no chance of overturning Presumption of Guilt -- those who try are seen as abusers.