Larry Flynt's recent death reminded me of the battles he endured during the 70s and 80s. Even by Larry's own admission, today's porn is far more than he ever published. Today, you can access just about any sort of sexual perversion you want with just a couple of keywords and clicks. With such ease of access, and most of it free, I have to wonder, how do parents today prevent, or discourage their kids from finding porn to satiate their curiosity?
I went with..... We pray to God for guidance 1 vote(s) 100.0% Do nothing, they'll figure it out as they develop their own sexuality but in some ways I am closer to "Do nothing, they' figure it out as they develop their own sexuality" because I kind of delegated discipling the kids to my wife..... and in my opinion she did a phenomenal job of discipline. Far better than I possibly could have done.
I couldn't vote a single thing : Softwares/limiting access/Speaking with children of how porn might be toxic for their own sexuality and also about human abuse that can happen behind that. Basically, everything but the last point, I don't believe in God, but whatever, if you want to pray him, go.
They're too young, but I'm among people who grew up with omnipresent and normalized pornography, my parents were good willing but not knowing enough about technology, even if they didn't managed things that bad because I saw my first pornographic content around 15 YO. When I hear that some kids see it first at 8/9YO, that seems decent.
~ The parents may have to guess and assume that their kids will be exposed to pornography at some point before they should be. I worry more about the kids. How capable are they to figure things out ? I think the way things were explained to us as children in elementary school is a good start. KIDS : "Where do babies come from ? What's sex ?" TEACHER : " When two adult grown-ups love each other they hug and kiss and things happen naturally until a baby is born " KIDS : " EWWWWWW ! I never want to grow up ! "
what is porn??? when i was a child the most risque thing readily available was the women's section of the sear's catalog. playboy and penthouse were tame compared to today's standards and even oui was a far cry from what is readily available today. we sexualized pre-teen girls in the eighties and further confused sexuality as time went by. we have noralized casual sex to the point where bestiality has become the final frontier. we live in an age of instant gratification, so why should we expect our children to to do otherwise?
i have hope, but i am also a realist. a society that trivializes the act of procreation is counterproductive.
So you think kids should be taught that sex is filthy and disgusting? Thank god that porn is now free and everywhere. Maybe soon sex itself will follow and society will be on its way to becoming sane.
Objectively, I think this is only reasonable answer We've had a discussion about porn and how it differs from real life You can't prevent access and if a god could fix all problems we wouldn't need parents. And you certainly don't want to leave kids to figure things out on their own. The only reasonable response is to have open and honest discussions. The suppression of natural drives through religion and Victorian morality has kept the US sexually dysfunctional for generations. Even now after 60 years of sexual revolution, many people are still not truly comfortable with sex. People just need to relax. Admit that virtually everyone uses porn and everyone masturbates. This alone would relieve a lot of kids of a lot of guilt and open the door to healthy discussions. Some of the biggest roadblocks to healthy attitudes about sex are the historical taboos. And let there be no doubt, many young men are in trouble and young women know it, The men have been exposed to very hard porn from an early age with no guidance.They think this is what women want. They have spent far too much time in a dark room on the internet. And they don't have the ability to connect to real women. I know because I date the women who should be dating them.
It's a complex issue and is never going to have a single answer. A combination of some of your answers are likely to play an role in the best (least worst) option, changing as the individual child gets older and matures (physically and psychologically). At an early age, only allowing access to the internet with parents and blocking any kind of inappropriate material should work but that will become impractical as the child gets older (very quickly these days). That will be where having age-appropriate open and honest discussions about sex and sexuality, including porn, would be most beneficial. The aim would be to have the child as comfortable as is realistically possible asking their parents about it. Ultimately, you're never going to prevent children encountering porn, even if it is only when they leave home, so the important thing is not to try to pretend it doesn't exist or present it as a naughty mystery but to make sure they have a full understanding of what it actually is and cut through the surface perceptions and manipulations (good, bad and indifferent). I do think the answer here is pretty much the same for almost any aspect of adult life you can think of.
I'm sorry, but I don't get this comment. Sex is not just for procreation, so your negative attitudes based on that falsehood simply don't apply.
I don't think he does. Our natural sex drives as human beings is to be downright freaky, including such things as group sex, oral sex, same-sex sex, and pretty much anything goes. Now, that natural proclivity can be altered by how you are raised.. If you are raised by very religious parents, or very prudish parents, or whatever, that can affect your opinions as an adult (unless at some point you manage to walk away from such things), and can, and frequently does, end up with you wanting to impose YOUR standards onto other people. His point that porn being prevalent is absolutely right. We like to pretend as a society that post-pubescent people are not sexual animals, but the truth is, they ARE, and that is one reason they are heavy users of porn to begin with, even for those in religious/prudish households, or whatever.
Do I stutter? What I wrote was about as clear as could be. Porn is good and so is sex and even children should be taught that and anything else is insane religious fanaticism. If we followed a sane religion, like tantric yoga, the Western world too would have a lot less death, misery, and neuroticism
~ Good point. This seems to instill too much unnecessary guilt on some. Homosexuality is an example. Understanding and accepting individual "kinks" is one thing. Encouragement is another. Pedophilia is considered "porn". There should be balance. ~ Remember we are talking about children - not adults . ~ Sadly those days are long gone ... ~ If you had a sense of humor you could be dangerous . Enjoy your pornography.
Me, dangerous? I am the human marshmallow, an Army of none, the Pope of cowardice as a religion. I admire brave people but am definitely not one of them. This is why I always advocate for increased pay for police and Army, I am woefully inadequate at protecting myself.
