Age difference in a relationship?

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  1. milorafferty

    milorafferty Banned

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    Huh? :roflol:
     
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    The fact is, you two are in different stages in life. You are nearing retirement and she has at least 20 years before she even thinks about it.

    First, I would want to know what her credit looks like. Then, depending on what her financial situation is, I might want to discuss a prenup before even getting started.
     
  3. Lucifer

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    Wow...this thread is hilarious!

    He hasn't even asked her out!


    Meet outside of work a few times, then move onto the weekends, then start debating (if there's still a debate at that point) whether or not your age is a big deal or not.

    For all you know, she just may be interested in a non-committal relationship. Nothing wrong with that. Take it one step at a time. Ef what other people think!
     
  4. Troianii

    Troianii Well-Known Member Past Donor

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    The appropriate age difference continually widens as you get older. I remember when 2 yrs was too much. Now for me it's about 5. But I figure you should be fine. Imo, it's simply a matter if she thinks the age difference is too much.
     
  5. MrNick

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    I think you're both adults and can do what you want.... It seems you have a lot of personal things in common too so that will help..

    Me, I'm 35 and generally date woman from 25-45, but I have made some exceptions in the past....
     
  6. MrNick

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    Well getting involved with someone you work with isn't the smartest thing to do, management may have a problem, things get weird, eventually everyone else finds out over time, oh and if there is a breakup - then things get really really weird... Then of course jealousy can always be an issue "hey you were looking at that other chicks ass" type nonsense that causes a mini-fight and eyeballs rolling...... Then sometimes the relationship can lead into conflicts of interest depending where you work and what you do..
     
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    I'm going to be blunt. My mom is in her early 40s and my stepdad is a retiree and it works. Unless you're past your 20s and dealing with a teenager, nobody that matters gives a (*)(*)(*)(*).
     
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    That's how you do it!
     
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    My wife is 11 years older than myself....I've never been happier. Mental maturity and personality compatibility far outweigh any possible age difference.
     
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    Age can make a difference with those things for sure, but that's not a rule that's set in stone. The OP mentioned they share a lot of the same values and seem to think alike. That makes much more of a difference than a number does. And as I tell my children, being a certain age does not in any way mean you are a certain type of person. Grown ups can be children and children can be grown ups.
     
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    I can't believe Natalie Portman is 34. I just watched the Star Wars prequels again the other day. Makes me feel old to know that much time has passed.
     
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    Go for it..... I cant tell you what she will think about it but it wouldn't be "wrong"...

    I'm 36 and I consider woman from 20-50... Well mostly not 20 but...

    I think I'm the perfect age - I can get me a MILF or catch me some younger chicks...

    Is it wrong? hell no - she is 34 an adult....

    If you're both single then go after it....
     
  13. Aleksander Ulyanov

    Aleksander Ulyanov Well-Known Member

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    I remember when she was giving a whole new meaning to pedophilia in "The Professional" God, Gary Oldman was just a KING bastard in that

    A 90 year old man is about to marry a 22 year old woman. His doctor advises against it. "Death might occur very soon after the ceremony" he says, "She dies, she dies," replies the old man
     
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    According to the 1/2+7 rule, you are just barely in the 'no, this isn't creepy' range.
     
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    The short answer is no, not if the goal is a lifelong relationship/marriage. He's 70. She's 51.
    What kind of a life is that for her? Will she stick around and become his isolated caregiver?
    Or will he find himself alone in his old age when he most needs someone? Are either of those
    tolerable to him.

    Time will cause such a huge difference in energy levels it will take its toll for the worse.
     
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    Whats creepy is dating someone you work with...

    35 is not a baby so the issue isn't with age. lol

    1000 years ago 35 was an accomplishment if you made it to that age.... Hell 100 years ago 50 was pushing it...
     
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    Gary Oldman is the greatest actor in the history of the world. He can play anything. I mean, the dude played Sid Vicious and Commissioner Gordon. With a resumé like that, he could probably play Natalie Portman, himself.
     
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    Too funny!!! Laughed my a$$ off!! :roflol:
     
  19. Sab

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    last year I was going out with a 19 year old and I am 46. It worked on certain levels but utterly failed on others. Yes she was very very attractive but it fell apart

    Now I am going out with someone only 8 years younger and it works much better
     
  20. Aleksander Ulyanov

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    No, no, no, no, no. Those are averages highly skewed by the fact that there were so many infant deaths. Then, as now, if you made it to 5 you were more likely to die from accident rather than disease until you reached 70. There weren't a whole lot of people over 70 and many more people did die in their 50's and 60's than now, but the idea that everyone just keeled over at 35 is a misconception. Refer to the 7 Ages of man or the literature of the ages.
     
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    What's creepy to me is when people criticise two people who are in love with each other and happy, The age difference might be the very thing they find attractive. Barring pedophilia, we should mind our own (*)(*)(*)(*)ing business. I always wonder why so many conservatives don't see the vast contradiction between constantly screaming about the "nanny state" and then being worse busybodies than Miss Grundy.
     
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    Who is being a busybody? The people who responded in this thread?
     
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    I think when a man is over 50 things change in a major way.They view life
    differently.They are now entering a phase where nearly every day the
    notion of mortality seeps into their mindset.It is almost a requirement.Because
    as one nears their senior years they have to cope with the dread of finality
    or Dr.Death.Because eventually it will come a knockin'. No one gets out of
    life alive.
    So it is almost good and natural for a male to think in terms of a partner
    more in terms as a soulmate and also a possible lover.Because there is still time
    for a 50 year old male to have a love life.Not so when one nears 80.
    Like in the Movie - Titanic - {1953} where 2 elderly folk { a distinguished couple }
    would not hear of it.That the elderly female spouse get aboard a life raft,
    forever doomed and separated from her most precious and adoring hubby.
    The couple would not hear of being separated.They will go down with the ship
    as loving and adoring soulmates.
    Decisions ... decisions. Not exactly. Just go with the flow.No,not really.
    Follow your heart.Yes,by all means.
    Anton Chekhov said " Man is what he believes ".
    Man is also what he feels.
    It has also been said that women are more like each other than men.
    yes,Love hurts.But without it ,it may spell a man's early demise.

    " Hunger I can endure;love I cannot. " - Claudian { Greek-born,Latin poet }
     
  24. MMC

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    For those 55-65.....I think it is the 7yr rule. At least with those in the Midwest and who I have been around. That would be younger. Only 2-3 yrs if older. At least most of the guys that I worked, lived, or hung out with. Relationships that they would consider marrying again.

    Its a lot harder to date once over 50-52. I think for men moreso than women. At least I had more chances back then to meet people. Divorce after 50, its a lot tougher getting back out there after being with someone for 20 yrs or more. That or a widower. Since I would never rent it was about getting another house and then it was taking on more work for the money. Which meant moving to the night-shift. Side jobs and then taking care of the house which included the dog and cats. Not a lot of time to meet people.

    Now dating in itself doesn't have to be about any serious relationship. There are plenty of women in their late 40s and up that don't mind dating if it isn't something serious. Most have their own houses, businesses, travel and have acquired most materialistic things they want. Had their kids and are now grown and don't live with Mom anymore.

    I have a couple of buddies. Both were married over 20 years to the same woman and ended up getting a divorce after 50. They thought like myself it would be difficult to start dating again. But both met a few women that they became what they call.....Friends with Benefits. We use to call them swingers back in the day.

    But he has a couple of women that drop in on him from out of state. Stay for the weekends summer, winter doesn't make a difference, going out and whateva. Same women for the last 5 yrs I have known him. Now he says he won't ever get married again.

    Either way.....over 50. Having people or someone in your life. Its a Good Life!

    [video=youtube;jZhQOvvV45w]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jZhQOvvV45w[/video]
     
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    Yes, - The Seven Year Itch - { 1955 } which was made into a wonderful
    comedy starring Marilyn Monroe and Tom Ewell.Ewell was perfect.Billy Wilder
    had to chose between a complete Unknown like Walter Matthau who had only
    Stage experience { albeit good } and a true comedy guy like Ewell.
    A Seven year Itch is when a spouse years for something more in a Marriage.
    Or a shot at another spouse.
    The Much younger woman and much older man Itch is more what Anna Nicole
    pulled.Or tried to as a goldbricker.Marrying an Octogenerian { 80-89 yrs.old }.
     

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