Alex Youseff on Hookup Culture

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  1. kazenatsu

    kazenatsu Well-Known Member Past Donor

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    This insight comes from Alex Youseff.

    Now more than ever we're seeing a ton of guys abstain from relationships, and abstain from dating as a whole.
    And on the surface, this makes zero sense, because hookup culture is more prevalent than ever. And hookup culture is said to be exactly what guys want, right?
    So what's the deal?
    The deal is that this is proof that guys don't want hookup culture. And most guys are actually pushed away from dating because of it.
    The harsh reality is that most women don't want to date most men.
    So what ends up happening is like only like this really high standard of a select few men get to actually date, and experience hookup culture, and experience the intimacy of relationships.
    And when those few guys have a plethora of opportunity in front of them, they end up being pompous. So what ends up happening is that most women only have dating experience with d(*)(*)(*)(*)(*)bags. And then the problem arises when women see that as all men; and then go to what's actually all men, and start creating this narrative that all men are trash, they're scumbags, and they only want one thing.
    So then you're left with the remaining 80% of guys being told that they are the villain in a story that they're not actually even a part of.
    Because of that, we're seeing this Moses-like exodus of guys fleeing the dating scene.
    And the craziest part is that this promised land that they're trying to find is simply peace of mind and being told that they're not the bad guy.
     
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    And most men don't want to date most women. And if they truly understood what most women are like when they get control of the relationship, then most men would not want to date any women.
     
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    When men or women don't respect themselves, and think that life is one big no strings attached sex fest, then they will attract the same.

    I'm not saying that a little bit of fun shouldn't be had, but dayum, it seems like there is some sort of competition going on as to how many and how often.

    Glad I'm out of that market, and happened to find a decent person as a partner.
     
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    There are some rules for sexual behavior.. they're in this dusty, tried and true ol' book called "the Bible" .
     
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    Never tried dating women. Sounds like I dodged a bullet. Good luck fellas.
     
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    Sometimes, its kind of humorous, watching straight folks mimic the culture... Hook up culture is essentially the experience of gay men in america. I find it more amusing that for so long straight america condemned this behavior as shallow.. and yet, here y'all are... LMAO...
     
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    Enjoy celibacy.
     
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    I've watched a lot of videos and read a lot of articles by women in their 30s. Particularly single women in their 30s that haven't met Mr Right yet. My curiosity with this started with Tomi Lauren carrying on about how that men are. It seems she was picking the wrong guy probably for all of the wrong reasons and it makes me wonder if this is the case and most of these people's lives.

    I really only ever hear one side of the story because the guys that hook up with these ladies don't really talk about it. At least not on social media where I can see I've talked to several friends that have tried dating women in this age range is half a dozen people don't really make up and get enough sample size to go with it.

    Two prompted by that is entire found more than enough information on this so I've been really rather curious about this ever since. I wonder if this has changed in recent time or if it always was this way. I haven't been able to find any articles or media from women earlier previous generations so at least talking about it openly hasn't always been a thing.

    What it seems to me from what I've heard and my experiences with online dating before I met my partner a lot of women act as though they don't really have to bring anything to the table. So guys aren't interested in spending their life with them I wouldn't be either.
     
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    Do you mean when Lot had sex with his daughters?

    And how did Adam and Eve's kids have kids? Did they have sex with each other or their parents?
     
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    LOL! Obviously true love.
     
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    What is supremely gobsmacking about this particular post is that somehow this toxic male culture is the fault of women :roll::roll::roll:
    Not sure what site you got this from but I suspect……..
     
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    Goood point!
     
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    Of course Cain wasn't able. [pun intended]

    According to the Mormons, God turned him black and made him the first rapper.
     
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    Ye Gods! I hope not! Have you actually read that thing?
     
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    Flees room holding her nose :p
     
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    Ironically even the Old Testament style way of doing things (though backwards in some respects as it was) was probably more functional than the way things have grown to today.

    Women seem to have very low expectations today. As long as they are able to "f(*)(*)(*)(*) like a man", that's supposed to be enough for them.
     
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    He said the bible is the example to follow. I cited a couple of examples from the bible. Why are you having a hissy fit?
     
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    Seriously, the mormons believe god made Cain the first black man. He was marked for the sin of killing his brother and led to the line of Canaanites. But again, who did he have sex with?
     
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    No, he was specifically referring to the recommended relationship dynamics expressed in the Bible.
     
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    What is wrong with young men? Given that I date the women they should be dating, I have heard all about it.

    In short, young men have spent far too much time in a dark room playing video games and masturbating to insanely hardcore porn. They don't have the ability to socialize. They can't relate to a real woman socially or sexually. And the number one complaint: They all want anal sex and expect women to like it.

    As one young lady told me when I asked why a young beautiful woman like her is dating a much older man like me, she said "I'm dating men your age until the men my age grow up".

    I've been dating women 20-30 years younger than me for 10 years.

    Every young man should watch this. And it is great information for everyone.

     
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    and I listed two of them. Sorry if that upsets your world.
     
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    Oh yes guys, no matter what a woman says, if you ask for a pegging, she will never look at you the same way again. A lot of women have told me that men they've seen have asked for this. It seems to be quite popular with the young guys. And for many women it does seem to change their perception of the guy; and not for the better.

    They also want a man who is more successful financially than they are. This is a catch-22. If women are competitive in the workforce, it seems to make their universe of potential mates much smaller. Women tend to be better students and often do better than men in the workplace now. And as they become more successful, the standards continually increase, and fewer and fewer men are acceptable.

    And yes, at a glance, the majority of women find the majority of men to be below average. And the opposite is surely true - men want beauty queens who are like their favorite porn star.
     
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    Are you calling that member that insult?
     
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    I realized long ago that I fall in love with beauty. So I have decided to forego another traditional relationship and only spend time with THE most beautiful women.

    But I was engaged twice and married once for almost 30 years. I am at a different place in life than a young guy. And I have no interest in getting married again.
     
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    I see it as a different issue. Or maybe just another facet. Romantic love was, until quite recently in historic terms, viewed as a mental illness. Thats not to say it cant exist, its just not normal. But it is now the normal expectation. Emotional codependency rarely works. But everyone seems to be looking for it, unhappy when they cant find it, and even more unhappy when they do. Love isn't sposed to be crazy.
     
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