Let's face it, if men could keep their hands to themselves, they would, yes? Looking forward, it is a bad relationship angle to beat someone, as there are relationship penalties and legal ones too, as well as losing friends and maybe even distancing yourself from family members. This means that when men get stressed and take it out on their wives, which is the most probable and common of all abuse, it is something that could be avoided. But, it is not something that the men do control! So, it is up to the women to diffuse the situation as best they can - it is them with the immediate problem of actually being abused and it is up to them to deal with it, as, the men seem incapable. No need for counselling, it is a 'cure' that is needed, not a 'vaccination.' So, what can the women do? First, they must listen to their husbands when they get in, they like to feel welcome at home, and, being of the 'alpha syndrome' want to feel they matter, at least at home, after being bossed around all the time. Most men spend the whole day being told what to do, and, feeling lesser - they need to feel superior. This is common for a fantasy where the men want to 'feel strong,' that they display strength of society, that they are leaders, yes? If the husband or abuser gets home, comfort them. Tell them nice things about themselves. Listen to them. Nobody wants to hurt those close to them except in rar cases where they need to be separated from the abused. They want to feel like they display strength, okay? Many men fantasise about leading, so have the news on. Let them recline and day dream. Suggest they take up a new hobby, and explain to them why - it is a fantasy all the time, to think of doing something new, as everyone has hopes of excelling, yes? This will be your safety! If you were to refer to their dreams, tell them to try it, but do not rush them, they might be lying! If the father wants security, give it to them. Speak about the men that you have met, and compare them to him, saying he is far better by citing the reasons for him excelling, and how they were inferior, and forget about the rest. This will make him think of the women he fancies in day to day affairs, and try to keep a secret about it, or brag about it too. If he brags about it, act jealous, or hold him, pretending to find him more valuable. If he keeps mum, do not badger him, it is his secret, and, this will 'put a lid on it' immediately - he will feel it is his secret and he will feel a cold feeling on his loins, replacing stress with fear through his secret, of course. Then, if you greet him with a offer of dinner - do not have supper ready for him, as, this will continue the monotony of work and day to day life - ask him, as treating him like the patron, what he wants, out of a menu of sorts? If he ever raises his voice, say you are not ready, or his hand, just flop on the floor. Tell him how much you need him in your life, tell him how sorry you are, do not say "no!" If you say no, he will think about himself saying no and not getting no, he will think of himself as a symbol of strength getting to the bottom of things, he will feel like a hero in a fight! "I love you" if far better than threats and denying him or fighting back, and, then you will be prepared for the next time.
In case you were not aware of it, women can be abusive spouses as well. Furthermore, spousal abuse can exist among homosexual couples.
Sounds very strange. Almost excusing domestic violence. "Let's face it, if men could keep their hands to themselves, they would, yes?" "If he ever raises his voice, say you are not ready, or his hand, just flop on the floor." Then asking Women to flop on the floor ? Wow ! Just Wow !
It may be a troll post but, sad to say, there ARE some people who feel that way....if something bad happens to a woman it's her fault, they excuse men as being too stupid to control themselves so it must be women's fault.... Unfortunately even some women think that way...."if only I had His Royal Ass's dinner ready on time he wouldn't have had to beat me.""
Many people, mostly men but some women, fit the stereotypes posed by the OP. We find these types of excuses mostly, but not all, in lower educated homes in evangelical or fundamentalist homes. And, yes, spousal abuse can be horrendous among the same sex relationships.
What a Crock'O Lotta fish cakes. Spousal abuse has nothing to do with Politics or Political Parties, it is truly the best example possible of Bipartisanship bar none. Perhaps Education is a topic best left alone.
JakeStarkey said: Many people, mostly men but some women, fit the stereotypes posed by the OP. We find these types of excuses mostly, but not all, in lower educated homes in evangelical or fundamentalist homes. And, yes, spousal abuse can be horrendous among the same sex relationships. Disagree all you want. Don't care.
I know you don't care if you spread lies and propaganda, no better than Donald you and him are buddies of the same type.