Even though the Brittney Spears – Kevin Federline train wreck happened a long time ago, there are lessons there that are still relevant for many people. One is what I call the Brittney Spears Syndrome. The Brittney Spears is a super-attractive woman who, being super-attractive, gets lots of male attention. She finds this attention to be fake, shallow and hormone-driven; so she is responsive to a message that she finds more genuine. Message such as that she is a piece of dirt and deserves to be treated as one. The other is what I call the Kevin Federline Syndrome. The Kevin Federline is a man from humble background who hates the elites and believes himself to be their moral superior and to understand life better than do they. His solution is to get together with the most attractive woman out there and treat her like dirt. This way he gets to be a part of the elites while also considering himself their superior and wiping his ass with their finest product. When a Brittney Spears and a Kevin Federline get together, it is not just them who suffer. The children get the worst of it. The Kevin Federline destroys the child psychologically and sabotages whatever sensibilities the Brittney Spears tries to impart the child. And the Brittney Spears undermines whatever structures the Kevin Federline attempts to create for the child. The result is children who are confused or much worse. Now Brittney Spears never did much for me; but my younger brother was in love with her. And if you love a woman, the last thing you want to see is for her to be in a situation of abuse. There are two main reasons for it. One is that you care about the woman and do not want to see her suffer. And the other is that you are offended that the woman has passed you over and married a jerk. How do we avoid the kind of train wrecks we see with Brittney Spears and Kevin Federline? It is for the parties to be conscious. The Brittney Spears needs to get over herself and realize that there are people who actually love her – good people like Justin Timberlake, who is a good person and is willing to treat her rightfully even if she finds him familiar or boring. And Kevin Federline needs to get over his Nixonesque hatreds and go for a woman whom he can actually respect as a person. A Kevin Federline could be a good husband – but not to a Brittney Spears, but to a woman whom he actually respects as a human being. As for a Brittney Spears, she stands to be dream-come-true for someone who is actually good as well as to have an amazing life with such a person. So both need to get a grip on themselves and figure out what would actually make them happy. In both cases there is a vast potential for happiness, if they make choices that are right.
Obsession with another person is far from Love. Obsession can also take on other forms. Brittney was a short phenom of pop singing cultural icons with many male equivalents. Hardly even a footnote in History, much less inane ramblings.
That's something we hear from anal retentives. True love is passionate, and the anal retentive will see it as being obsessive.
