Confess your weaknesses.

I am very sensitive and easily hurt. I have Depression and Autism. It is hard for me to fit into Society. I do not want to change -- there is nothing wrong with me.

Sometimes I can be harsh in online arguments, and all seven of me have been banned from Twitter.

 

Our Humanity is not in our Strength.

Many people have weaknesses -- accepting our weaknesses makes us Human.

 

Being anti-social means there's more time to get on and do useful things.

 

I think that most of our flaws are also qualities, I'm quite cautious, but sometimes I over react, and I don't take a lot of risks. That's both a quality and a flaw, depending of the situations and how I manage that trait of my personnality.
I get easily interested by theory, but it give me the flaw to not care too much about reality sometimes, and prefer ideas to people or reality.

 

I don't share my weaknesses (is that a flaw?)

 

Then you are insecure

 

That must be it...thank you for your assistance or is it criticism... (I think you should list that one here)

 

It depends on how antisocial. I would be happy to have more offline contact.

 

Definitely. I am proud to be an Aspie rather then a Normie. Moderate Depression may be an indication of Talent.

 

I talk about my conditions all the time. All choices are valid.

 

Truly insecure people would not post anything on this thread at all.

 

That's very brave C, considering there's always an a$$hole around to exploit weaknesses

 

I share a statement my Da gave me when I was very young. Says he, “all your life you will have people offering unsolicited measures of you. Know that the majority of the will measure you with a meter stick that always measures you less than they would measure themselves. Do what you believe is right, use your own measure to measure yourself, and never measure yourself against another... you don’t know what flaws they conceal in their criticism of you.
I have lived with that all my life to the point where I can’t be hurt by another’s opinion of me and I won’t allow the opinions of others to shape who I am. Regardless of another’s opinion of me, I prefer being the recipient of blunt honesty even if not flattering to me and most of my close friends know that of me. Blunt honesty reciprocation in a relationship, IMO, allows each party to be who they are and if you accept that it is a far better glue than constantly guarding what you say to maintain a relationship based on the deception created by false masks.
I have a handful of close friends that share a high level of honesty with me, but perhaps one of my favorite people to engage with is a friend’s autistic daughter, many avoid discussion with her because she is blunt in her honesty and despite most people usually proclaiming they like honesty, What they really mean, is, I will say what I want, but I expect you to affirm the mask I have constructed. BTW, It’s been my observation, she doesn’t express emotion with others, including he father ( mother dead) but when she sees me she always comes to me with a hug, then usually hangs with me. She has a sharp mind, and I find her unvarnished perspective interesting.

 

I don't speak that much about being an asperger. I'm neither proud or ashamed to be one, as it's both things I didn't chose, the same for having a very high IQ, it didn't depended of me, it's just the way I am born.
I am proud of the way I managed my life with my autism however.

 

Thank you.

I can pretend to be someone who I am not, but it is not worth it. I can pretend to be normal -- but it would be obvious that I have a mental condition. I could pretend to be a decamillionaire who opposes taxes. But anyone who pays attention would see through the mask.

In fact I do have $20 Trillion in Zimbabwe dollars. I bought them on ebay.

 

I am a little proud of my condition -- Autism and Depression.

Of course I do not fit into Society. And I do not need to.

 

One thing I often suggest is that there is no normal, just people trying to project themselves to others hoping their projection sticks. And, who wants to target being normal? Target being just one of the herd. Projecting being normal is not unlike projecting their face on a wall behind which they hide their lack of self confidence and by doing so, they are continually adjusting that projection against shifting sand; the consequence of which is the reinforcement of their lack of self confidence. The hardest thing for many is to be who they are, but once deciding that path will likely find their self confidence increases. People tend find self confidence a positive thing and admire people that project they are unafraid to be true to themselves. I am a fan of Decarte, but before he suggested the great quote he is famous for, I like to suspect, he would have said, “I am who I am.”

 

I have an addiction i hate it but it is diminishing over time as i learn self control.

 

Good luck dealing with that. I know it from experience, it's harsh to deal with that. I think it's important to remind yourself that every step is important, everytime you decide to win against the addiction would matter.

 

No don't pretend... you sacrifice your true self, someone unique.

Cool on the $20 Trillion Zim dollars, might get you a slice of bread.

 

Clearly, don't pretend to be someone you're not. Being an aspie is much more easy once you accept that "weirdness" as a part of you. Especially when you're autist, you have to be a very good friend to yourself.

 

I agree 100%. Of course I am unsuccessful. If most people do not accept me, it is OK. I am happy being who I am.

But for tens of millions of people in USA including myself, pretending to be someone else may be an important aspect of boosting social status. I could claim to be a hectomilionaire.

Many people pretend even to themselves. Some prisoners develop delusions of grandeur.

 

As a hectomillionaire...

Any careful observer would know that I am not.

 

I am an unfeeling robot. Relative to most folks anyway. This leads me to come across as harsh on occassion as well, as I don't share a common frame of reference for when sensitivity might be warranted.

I also have trouble bonding with people. People bond by sharing emotional experiences. My emotional experiences are, to put it lightly, dulled. I neither become elated nor despaired. Ever. I go beyond the emotional resilience that psychologists agree is healthy and into the realm if emotional invulnerability which makes it difficult for me to relate with others.

Nothing wrong with me either World takes all kinds.

...only thing I wish was different is if I could find a woman that doesn't value passion, romance or other forms of emotional intrigue, cuz I got none.

 

I am very very sensitive. I can be very harsh online, since many people hurt me.

I greatly appreciate anyone who supports me.

 

I'm a lot like Modernpaladin. I don't make friends easily and most of the time I don't care. Most of my friends are my wife's friend's husbands. I'm a nice enough guy and sometimes go out of my way to help people if I can, but I'm a little judgmental in that I won't help someone who is lazy and expects my help. I have a soft spot for old people. Maybe it's because I'll be there soon enough.