I have been called a misogynist and I have been called a male feminist. I am neither. My stance is the rational one: That anything capable of choice can be good or bad regardless of gender. I want the choices made on both sides to be the right ones. I want men to be good to women, and I want women to be good to men. I judge it wrong to take sides with one half of humanity against another half of humanity. Among both men and women there will be ones who choose to act rightfully and those who do not. It does not make sense to take the side of men against women, and it does not make sense to take side of women against men. It makes sense to take the side of men and women who choose to be good people against men and women who do not choose to be good people. It makes sense to reward rightful choice both by men and by women and to confront wrongful choice by both. In recent times, we have seen the opposite on both sides. On one side of town, violent and truly misogynistic men brutally abuse women who, for the most part, have good will toward men and are willing to be good to their partners. On the other side of town, nasty women viciously attack men who, for the most part, have good will to women and believe in women's rights. In both cases ugly behavior gets rewarded and goodness gets punished. And this teaches everyone – both men and women – that it pays to be a jerk. The result is a worse world for everyone. I have known a man in Tucson who went to jail for “beating up [his] wife's fist with [his] face.” I also know a woman in Kansas whose husband broke her skull so badly that she needed over 40 stitches and walked away with the child. Both the man in the first case – and the woman in the second case – were good people. They were the last people in the world who deserved such treatment. I would much rather see Eminem or Ayatollah or Michael Murphy in prison than the first man. As for the woman in the second situation, she was kind, hard-working and beautiful. But even if she had been Andrea Dworkin, she still would not have deserved either to get her skull broken or to lose her child. When scoundrels win and good people lose, we see a wrongful set of incentives in society. People – both men and women – decide that being a jerk pays, and being good gets you abused. This makes everyone worse, both men and women. Men become violent and corrupt, women become vicious. Everyone becomes the worst thing that they can be. I believe that we can do better. No; not can; must. We must do better than that. We must be better people than either the followers of Andrea Dworkin or the followers of Eminem. We must be better to our partners, and we must be better to those of the other gender with whom we interact outside the home. We must resolve to be loving and kind to our partners. And when some scumbag of either gender tells us that we owe it to our gender to either (in case of men) control women or (in case of women) be ugly to men, then we must have the strength and the courage to tell them to **** off. And if they press on, we can tell them that absolutely nothing is owed to a gender, and that rather things are owed to those who have been contributors to humanity in all aspects, whether they were female or whether they were male. At the stake is nothing less than what kind of world our children inherit. Do you, as a man, want your daughter to be a punching bag for some idiot? Do you, as a woman, want your son to be maliciously abused by Dworkin - McKinnon feminists or falsely portrayed as a misogynist or a sociopath when he is not? Do you want your children to live in a world where these are the two possible options? Or are you – and your children – better than that? In their single-minded push for equality, the leaders of feminism have denied women things that may in many cases be more important than mere equality, attacking such things as family, love and religion. In their psychological deconstruction of men, they have taught women who listened to them to suppress their best qualities and turn from kind and compassionate human beings into vicious monsters. For a long time they have denied women the right to family life even if the woman was choosing such willingly. And this was in many cases more oppressive to women than much of what we see done by men. If a woman wants to be an Amazon, fine, let her join the military or the police. But do not deny women the right to family life or beauty or romantic love or children or Christian religion if such be her deliberate inclinations. As for the reaction against feminism – led by people such as Eminem, Osama Bin Laden and Michael Murphy – it has taught men to be brutal and corrupt. It has told men that real men beat women and then sneakily cover it up in court while subverting the police and the social services to maintain the deception. I can think of no more contemptible standpoint. It takes absolutely nothing for a man to beat up on a woman. It takes a lot more for a man to love her. And I, as somebody who can do 200 fingertip pushups at age 41, am hardly weak for my age. In both cases the bad guys won and the good guys lost. This is the case for both men and women. The solution is not the gender war. The gender war is the problem. The gender war teaches everyone – both women and men – to be the worst thing that they can be. The worst choices are being taught and encouraged, and the better choices put people into ugly situations. And this sets up a dynamics by which everyone becomes the worst thing that they can be. The solution to the gender war is the opposite. It is to inspire men and women to be good to one another, and to give them the courage to stand up to the scoundrels on both sides of the gender war who exploit people's failure and misery to advance a destructive agenda while making the world worse for everyone. It is to give men and women the courage to love one another and treat one another rightfully. And it is to respect and reward the men and the women who choose to do so while confronting the men and the women who choose to treat their partners – or people of the other gender in general – like dirt. It makes sense to side neither with men nor with women. It makes sense to support the men and the women who are willing to treat the people of the other gender right. It makes sense to encourage, reward and support kindness toward one's partner and confront abusive behavior. It makes sense to support the better choices in both men and women. And it also makes sense for men from the first side of town to get together with women from the second side of town, resulting in matches in which each party will be treated better than it expects to be treated at home. The last of this, I call the economic solution. A major theme in economics is that, when left to their own devices, people will seek what benefits them, and that competition among the producers rewards those who can deliver the best product at the best price. Here, people will naturally gravitate toward those who are willing to treat them rightfully. The men will go to women who are willing to be good to men, and the women will go to men who are willing to be good to women. This will reward rightful behavior by both men and women, resulting in more people choosing that rightful behavior. And this will do more to correct both injustices of which I have spoken than either government-enforced feminist action or man-on-woman violence and court abuse. So this is the solution. Reverse the incentives. Make it pay for men to be good to women and for women to be good to men. Create a large-scale flux between the side of town where nasty women abuse men who have goodwill toward women and the side of town where nasty men brutalize women who have goodwill toward men. Let men who are willing to be good to women get together with women who are willing to be good to men. Create better relationships for the participants. But more importantly, improve the incentives within society, rewarding good behavior and punishing ugly behavior both by women and by men. The result of this will not only be better relationships. It will be a better world.
It's just simple Women aren't men and men aren't women. When we let women do women things and men do men things all is great. When you have fake feminists address men but not Muslim men, then the whole thing is done.
Some men are good at "women things" and some women are good at "men things." I have a certification in Aged Care, and some people see men in that line of work as "nancy boys"; but the ones I've known who were doing that work were quite good. Similarly there are some tomboyish women who are in military or police and do a good enough job. I completely agree with what you are saying about feminists' hypocrisy regarding the Muslim men. I've dealt with some of these men, and even the better-natured ones were jerks to their women.
I just don't see a gender war, not from my view. There certainly was, but that war is over and now it's trivial. And it's political. If you are a conservative woman, you are not considered part of the supposed "war on women." This is why it's false. It's merely political and has little to with gender. Liberals hate conservative women.
It's not really about a gender war, it's about the continual progressive assault on morals, values, and the nuclear family. Welfare, liberalism, racial division, college indoctrination centers, and proliferation of addictive substances are all part of that agenda. Losing the gender war for me means a night on the couch.
Yep, and why identity politics is just pure evil. It's meant to divide, it's meant to create tension, it's meant to try and elect one party that drives it. It's done. The Democrats have gone to far. The American people are tired of it, because most people still love their country and still having pride in your country now makes you a racist. That party is over.
We miss those great values, like women being paid less, like married women not able to get credit in their own names,not being able to go to Harvard , no reproductive freedom
You show a wonderful example of sexism. Being a nancy boy (doing what women do) is bad but a tomboy (doing what men do) gets respect. Women are luckier in my opinion because we can be fluffy or we can be tough. Men can't show that soft side....daddy can't handle it. We assign roles very early on and boys are encouraged to be I like girls..hopefully that's changing
What are men things? What are women things? Why do we need to apply roles to people? You seem to be ignorant of all the global movements to address Muslim women’s issues. But let’s keep it here. Muslim women here are just fine . Can I conclude because you don’t fight against child porn, that you support it?
Yea..thank goodness women aren’t being sexually assaulted and harassed and men would just stop. Thank goodness the fight for reproductive freedom iwe won a generation ago isn’t in danger. Yeah..everything is equal...lol
It makes every bit of sense for men from liberal side of town to get together with women from conservative side of town. That way men who are willing to be good to women get together with women who are willing to be good to men and create much better relationships with one another than they stand to have at home.
Funny you should say this. I was never macho, but I am now stronger than most men my age. People saw me as a nancy boy when I was in school, but now I'm in better shape than people who saw me that way. As for what you call sexism, that is not something that men invented; it is something that nature invented. You can give birth, I can't. My mother had a sign on her fridge that said that "women who want to be equal with men lack ambition." I actually find that most women are better people than most men, and that American feminists destroy places in which women are first to put them in a race where they can only be second. And that does not benefit women one bit.
Some women are better than some men and some men are better than some women. I always find it patronizing when me say women are better I also don’t know what you mean when you say American feminists destroyed places in which women of the first to put them in a race but they can only be secondI ps I like your mom!
Wow! That’s so interesting because the liberal men I know are very good to women and have fought side-by-side with them for equalityWhat you are really describing is a yearning for women who will be good to men and stay in their place It might interest you to know that conservative men and women may fight the label feminist, but they are getting all the benefits.
Most people like my mom. She has a lot going for her. I do not know why you would see such attitudes as being patronizing. I would expect the opposite. By destroying places in which they are first I mean the negative attitude they have taken toward qualities such as kindness and beauty. In both of these women are naturally more endowed than men.
I think this one may interest you then: https://sites.google.com/site/ilyashambatthought/what-do-you-mean-by-equality To me the place does not matter. I want someone who will be good to me, so do most women. The Republican women are a trip.
Of course we want people to be good to each other. Why make caring for others gender specific? I enjoyed that article but sometimes I think we over analyze. Equality means different things to different people.
