A feminist author claimed that I had women issues because of my former wife. No, that is not true. My former wife is a good enough person. I have an attitude because in much earlier age many people saw me as a monster or a psycho, and I have found it very difficult to get their rubbish out of my mind. Now Christ demands forgiveness; but the issue here is not forgiveness. The issue is how can you remove from your head vile poison that has found its way there and would not go away. One thing I do all the time is refute the source mentalities of the poison. I have done that with things that have been poisoning me, and I have also done that with things that have been poisoning many others. Of course once you do that you are going to incite the people who have beliefs that one is working to deconstruct. And in some cases not everything that these people believe is incorrect. Most people are right about some things and wrong about others. So it does not work to demonize. It does however work to get rid of things that are untruthful and also things that have been messing with you. Some of the people who made these kinds of claims did so in the name of feminism; so I fought any number of things in feminism. Others made them in the name of psychology; so I have been throwing into question many theories in psychology. Of course neither feminism nor psychology as such are bad. However if something is really messing with you, you better deconstruct it. One positive effect of that is helping others who have been wrongfully dealt with by similar things. One negative effect is that of incurring the wrath of people who practice such convictions. My response is that I have the right to get poison out of my head, and if it helps others to get poison out of their heads as well then I have done something good. So no, this is not about my former wife or about anyone else I have been with. This is about wrongful beliefs to which I have been exposed and which, once again, I have been having a very hard time getting out of my head. I have no ill will toward her or to anyone else I have been with. I want to get rid of wrongful and poisonous ideas – both for my own sake and for that of many others. Once that is done, I can shut up about such things and focus on doing what I need to do in my own life.
It might help to start by not seeing women as feminists or not feminists but rather as individuals .your attitudes toward “feminists” is indeed the poison you speak of
Well Renee, I most certainly do see the women I am close to as individuals. Some of them are feminists and some are not. The poison I am talking about here is the people claiming wrong things about me and about the things that I care about. In the first case it's people calling me such things as a sociopath or a misogynist. In the second case it is people denigrating things such as poetry, which is what I really am about. As for feminism, it is a cause that I was willing to support, but you do not support people who keep attacking you. This is like a relationship in which you love and care about the partner only to see the partner go on about how evil you are and how the only thing you are capable of is evil.
You say some of the women you are close to are not Feminists. I don’t know any women who don’t believe in equal rights. I would be curious to know why they don’t think they deserve equality because that’s what feminism is,,, nothing more, nothing less. You are doing it again. You are saying you don’t support feminism anymore because of people who are attacking you....Again you are Seeing women who aren’t nice to you as feminists, not some women who aren’t nice to you.
An Icepick frontal lobotomy ? What an equally insane suggestion, Followed up with a side order of Electroshock therapy, and massive doses of Thorazine and Lithium no doubt..... lol
There is a systematic and powerful way to deal with this, it does however require an advanced mental ability. Blow everyone off. Understand and embrace THE FACT that YOU are in control of YOU and separate what other do or say from yourself, take your power back.
