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What is your notion of an ideal mate?

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  1. cirdellin

    cirdellin Banned

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    Physically of course but also what qualities do you insist upon? I’m not talking about practical considerations but your wildly idealistic and unlimited romantic visions.

    Is there anyone that you can think of that even comes close?
     
    cirdellin, Jul 27, 2020
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    MJ Davies Well-Known Member

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    I don't believe there is such a thing as an ideal mate. We tend to gravitate toward people that make us feel good about ourselves and things spark from there. I think many divorces could be avoided if people didn't caught up on having some kind of checklist of ideal characteristics in a mate.
     
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    Can I nominate myself?
     
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    Someone who will bear me children and help me raise them without being emotionally dependent upon me while doing so.

    It doesn't seem like a lot to ask... but apparently it is :/
     
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  5. cirdellin

    cirdellin Banned

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    Totally agree. Very few women out there like that but when you find them hold on tight and spoil them like crazy cause they will never take advantage.
     
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    Someone that doesn't run away screaming. :banana:
     
    (original)late, Aug 10, 2020
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    This chart has NEVER failed
     
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    Much agree, but my ideal woman would be Ms Peel of The Avengers tv show. It's terrible that she got old.
     
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    I guess I agree. Too many people I know who think that once the magical spine tingling goes away it’s time to move on and that seems adolescent at best.
    But one thing I can say with assurance is that when a woman comes into a man’s life, she’s going to make it much better or much worse.
     
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    That applies to men as well.
     
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    I’m sure it does but I’ve only been with women.
    But women express to me their own special frustrations with guys. :)
     
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    She was hot, hot, hot.

    A long, long, long time ago..
     
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    This beauty meets all your requirements.

    [​IMG]
     
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    I like an old fashioned girl, with traditional values....and no gag reflex.
     
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    Except that I’m straight.
     
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    But for Trumper leadership sex doesn't matter, if it's the Man of Bronze. The majority of the Republican Senate have had sex-change operations in hopes of fathermothering a new generation of MAGAnauts anyway.
     
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    The one I have been with for a decade, we had all the arguments I can count on one hand. Till death do us part. Not officially married but you may as well call it that.
     
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    Must every damn thread here be trolled by obsession? Give it a damn break already.
     
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    I could post a thread on antiquing or woodworking or the battle of Hastings or the break up of Pangaea and anti Trump rhetoric would be flitted in somehow. :)
     
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    It's not gender-based. A person can either make things worse or make them better. I guess a third option would be "no impact" at all but what would be the point in that? We gravitate toward people we hope will enrich our lives.
     
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    Equal partners, each putting into the relationship what they do best.

    Common goals, but willing to learn new things to involve themselves in each others dreams, hobbies, and enjoyments in life.

    Looks, clean and healthy. An excellent, frequent smile (with dimples, please!) is priority.

    Which, BTW, is my current spouse. :)
     
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    Finding someone who is strong where you are weak is a good thing. Also, as alluded to by @MJ Davies, someone who makes you happy in yourself. Romance is kindling - only going to get the fire started. In order to keep it burning, you need someone who respects you and one you can also respect. Someone who wants the best for you and has no need to tear you down.
     
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    I think the genders impact each other differently. It is said that men seek women hoping they will not change while women seek men that they can mold them. This has been my life experience. Also both men and women are perennially frustrated by their lack of success in both ideal pursuits.
    I also think that there is an orthodoxy that there is virtually no difference in gender (outside of obvious anatomy) or demographics other than what is assigned by cultural mores. And I find this astonishing.
     
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    Sorry, but in partial excuse that big statue of Trump apparently made of cheese was just too much not to comment on somehow
     
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    I think men and women are intended to complement each other and not to reiterate each other.
    It’s all about balance to me and the ensuing natural arguments are a force of balance as long as both parties listen to each other.
    That’s where growth comes from.
     
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