Or why did you divorce them? It's an honest question (call it social research) as I've always been curious as to why many relationships break down, especially when they were head over heels in lurv with each other at first. Personally I never got married or had a longterm relationship because I like being on my own, so the subject is a mystery to me. For example the guy who runs a local pet shop is about 35 and one of the nicest guys in the world, and when I asked him if he was married he said "I used to be but we divorced". "Sorry to hear that" I replied, "what happened?" "She went evil" he answered. I could see it was an emotional subject for him so I let it drop. Do most women (and men) go "evil" after a few years of marriage or what?
As a person that has been married only once, and for 23 years so far, but also has a fascination with people and how they tick I'm anxious to hear the responses.
I divorced her but our marriage had been a joke for a long time - like over 10 years. I slept on the couch for ten years. We were together over 25 years. Went evil is a pretty good description. I couldn't believe someone who allegedly loved me could be such a heartless btch. I went into the divorce wanting to make it as easy and mutually beneficial as possible. I wanted to be sure we would both be okay. We agreed to an amicable divorce and to work it out without getting into a big legal disaster. Then she came after me with all hooks and did everything in her power to destroy my life. I also grew to suspect that she was trying to rush me to the grave. At times I honestly wondered if she was trying to do me in. When we divorced I discovered she had taken out a second, secret life insurance policy on me.
Still married for over 20 years--you have to work hard to stay married. If you don't maintain a marriage, it will eventually fail.
I've never been divorced, been married almost 10 years, but I can tell you some things that caused us to come very close to it a few times, and it all boils down to the exact same thing every time: A total lack of communication, or, refusal to hear the other person's perspective. Arguments are going to happen in any relationship. What's important is that you work through them. You might not necessarily agree, ever, with whatever the argument is about, but you need to give ground. There have been times both of us have neglected to do that. But like all things worth fighting for, we're still plugging along.
After we split I met this gorgeous young lady, a model, staggeringly beautiful, over 25 years younger than me [she was 21 when we met], who became my sugar baby for three years. I fell madly in love with her and they were the three best years of my life. When that ended I started looking for my next sugar baby. After seeing about a dozen women for a few weeks to a few months each, I have a new sb [25 yo] who makes me happy. I'm not madly in love but we have a wonderful relationship. I'm hoping this lasts at least a couple of years.
I don't think it should be necessary to 'work hard' to keep a marriage going: as usual I have a rather different perspective - generally speaking I believe the male and the female of the species are totally incompatible except in the sexual sense (leaving aside the very rare incidents of Platonic friendships), therefore when that physical attraction fades, disinterest or boredom sets in, so I daresay that's when the 'hard work' to keep it going becomes necessary. The chances of meeting 'the one and only', where one feels that the other person is a part of oneself, is literally a chance in ten million, and those who do find their true soul mate ought to consider themselves extremely lucky.
Hard work relationships are the worst - I mean, probably not as bad as the holocaust, but they are terrible. Want to ensure a divorce/end of a romantic/intimate relationship? Easy: Start out as just-friends. Next, convince yourself that relationships are 'hard work'. I think soul mates are all over the place once we get our minds right. My divorce is the logical result of what we put into the relationship. She is a terrific woman, but terrible for me. I am a terrific man, and awesome for her, but she was too dumb to see it
I have had 4 long term relationships. The first one was during 10th and 11th Grades in high school. We were too young to stay interested in each other more than 1 year. This was puppy love. The second one was in college during Freshman year with a girl from back home and there were just too many young ladies on campus to stay interested in her. It was like a starving man being led into a food cafeteria and wanting to eat everything all at once. The next year I moved out of the dorms and into the frat house and then there were girls girls girls willing and able at all the Friday frat parties. The third one was unfaithful towards the end of a 1 year engagement after a 2 year relationship. Good thing we waited. Most people make the mistake of rushing into marriage therefore the divorce rate is close to 50% in the USA. This girl was a lying flattering skank. The fourth one was a mean bitch even though the sex was great. Even though I put up with her she thought I was too stubborn because she could not manipulate me. I am guessing she was bipolar and did not know it. She and her dad did not get along. He bailed out on her and her mom and she forever hated him for it. Since then I have enjoyed freedom, peace and quiet.
I divorced my first, because there was no getting her off the streets. She let Heroin kick the hell outta her. When I saw her recently, while visiting my daughter in Crossett Arkansas, I couldn't believe it was her. At least she's off the Horse though.
If you find someone from a common activity group then you will have at least that thing in common. Most of the women I have met have been at hiking clubs. Sometimes at tennis clubs. Sometimes at scuba clubs. So I disagree about having nothing in common other than sex between couples.
Well she must have been a beauty then if she hooked you. I knew 4 married babes like that whose goal was to fokk all the other guys on the block. And they were all beauties. The first was an Auzzie babe married to a Sailor. The second was an Irish-American babe also married to a Sailor. The third was another Protestant babe in her third marriage to a neighbor. The forth was another Protestant babe at the office. They were all nympho's although their hubbies were true to them.
The male and female of the human species are meant to join sexually and procreate. Since babies are incapable of defending or feeding themselves, they need both a father and mother to protect and teach them. Society has created the marriage contract in order to try to preserve the family unit at least until the kid can fend for him/herself which is 18 to 30 these days. This USED to ensure a strong society with strong families. Today with government support for single mothers, abortion on demand and some radical feminists that shun traditional sexual roles, the family unit seems to under assault. If you commit yourself to someone and they to you, when physical attraction starts to fade, the couple finds ways to keep their interest in each other alive based on a long life history experienced and handled by both. Perhaps you don't understand that and I don't blame you because today, women are generally taught to dislike men and men are taught to act like women.
When we hooked up, she looked exactly like Fantasia.... Oddly enough, Fantasia won American Idol that year. We were together 7 years. Don't get me wrong. I was no Saint. I was essentially playing Cap'n Save-a-Ho, I knew what I was getting into, I was in the game too, we were destined to fail really, but boy, what a ride.
Early to mid 20's -- not 18. But 18 is the law. You can kick them out at 18 if need be. They can join the Army etc at 18 if they want.
Herodotus tells us that many if not most ancient Greek girls did temple tricks and saved money this way until they finally settled down with an older guy about twice their age. Then they outlived the old man and lived high on the hog. Not much has changed in Europe or America since then. If you want a faithful babe you need to find an Asian -- preferably Japanese or Vietnamese.