I know this guy, he is a real piece of work, I (and everyone else) would rather die than work with him. He is abnoxious, arrogant, argumentative, and stupid, some time ago he moved away with his family to work in another city. But now his wife told him to move back and take back the old job. As he loves his wife, he did that and now he is back. He knows that we all hate him. How does he survive this, for his long term future? How does this psychology work, do you think? How would you continue the rest of your life doing ~8 hours every day where everyone hates you? I think this is such an interesting psychology ... is there a way to make sense of this? What would you do?
It depends on the wife, if she is really breath taking then it would compensate and he could even use it to his advantage when dealing with coworkers by using that pent up energy after he clocks out. But if she is not worth it, he will end up like those guys on the news that take their familes with him.
Not sure why this question is that difficult to answer. Quite obvious, if im working at a place where no one likes me and my wife is ok if I quit and go back to the other job, I of course would quit. The only things that would keep me from quitting are if everyone hated me because im so good at my job and I could be promoted. If I was only a year or two from retirement. Or if going back to the other job would result in a large paycut that I could not afford to live off of.
What can you do if you want to keep your job? Apparently, this guy isn't bothered by the hatred and dislike shown towards him...... if he shows up for work every day and is a competent worker - give him credit for that.... other than that, I'd avoid him as much as possible if he's that aggravating. I could say 'kill him w/kindness' which is what I've done when I was dealing w/someone whom I wasn't getting along with and sometimes it worked and sometimes it didn't... You wonder why someone can't see themselves the way others see them, but they don't......
Well, his wife is not that beautiful, I must say. If he gets promoted, it would be in a VERY distant future, I think, this is a very small company. I am somehow sooo uncomfortable that this guy is coming back to work with me. His talking down to half the people, including me, is really irritating. Also, I don't want to become like that, and I read at a few places that the most influence on everyone is the workmates, because that's where most of our time is, not at home/friends. I will get dumped if I quit, so I don't want to quit, what are my options to handle this? You all have had good ideas that I use successfully, give me some more ... this is a REAL puzzler, and the most irritating kind.
I am not sure, because I had never thought of it that way, but she told me recently that my financial support is an important foundation of her comfort with me, and she also said that if she can't count on it then she thinks she will be better off striking out on her own, and she said she meant that without me. (By the way she is hotter than all the other women I know and I like her friendly nature too.)
I've been working for a long time and in all kinda companies... big & small. They all have one thing in common... there's ALWAYS a person like you describe. An outcast. Somebody everybody wishes would just go away. In fact, it's so common, I'm not sure work groups don't APPOINT their own outcast. MYOB and be thankful to have a job and a life outside work. This too shall pass... it always does.
Wow... I would probably tell her to pack her stuff and go. If all she is concerned with is being able to live comfortably and not you.. then she is using you.
I'd have to second that. Guess I'm lucky to be with a gal who's with me through thick and thin... even though she could do much better than me where looks and money is concerned.
