I can't stand it. I just can't figure out what it means to flirt with someone. I've asked every one of my friends. I've read books on it. I've witnessed people doing it. I've read EVERY SINGLE website on the subject. I've read every tip, every success and failure story, every example. EVERYTHING!!!!!!! I still can't figure it out. Everyone says, "well, you just have to go out and do it yourself to understand." That doesn't help me at all, because I have no idea what flirting with a woman consists of. I've been going out of mind these last couple of months. it seems as if everyone knows what it is and how to do it, and I'm the last one who hasn't figured this thing out.... and no one can explain it to me!!!! Someone please, do you have written examples of typical flirtation conversations, or videos of people doing it, or movies where guys do it. What the heck does it consists of!?!?!?!


aaaaaaaaaaaahhhhh!!!! Its 4 AM in the morning and I can't stand it anymore. Simply telling me "expressing your sexual interest in the girl" does nothing for me. I am here willing to throw myself down as a loser who has no conception of what flirtation is, JUST AS LONG AS SOMEONE EXPLAINS THIS CRAP TO ME!!! I'm going out of mind!!!!

and whats sad, is that every reply, if I get any here, will give me nothing that I haven't already heard before, and this is so (*)(*)(*)(*) agrivating.

Flirting, IMO, is stupid in the extreme. I was told that the fact that I have never been on a date in my life is caused by my unwillingness to flirt. Well, then I shall die without dating, if this is the idiotic junk that precedes dating (blech):

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flirting

There is a detailed description. I think it is ridiculous and often immoral, but my opinion is irrelevant. You wanted a definition. You got one.

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My husband is/was a pathetic flirter and he managed just fine.

It's more important for you to recognize when a girl is flirting with you than for you to try to flirt with them. Eye contact, teasing, laughing, smiling. Flirting does not have to be slutty. If a girl laughs and reaches out to touch your arm while you're talking, just realize that she's interested in you. Don't try to overanalyze every move. Flirting just shows an interest in getting to know you better, not hopping into bed.

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just be yourself ... be friendly and engaging ... and relaxed.

flirting is a game, with very nuanced rules. like any game, if you have a weak understanding of the rules, you will not perform well. so, my advice is to forget about flirting, as it probably will not help your situation.

instead, be confident. confidence is to women what sex appeal is to men. first, be a friend. if there is chemistry, the friendship could lead to benefits.

good luck. avoid the game, and win anyway.

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12thMan is right, Printer. In our society men (for the most part) do the asking out. So women pretty much know who is and who is not interested. So you don't need to flirt. Which is good because a lot of what constitutes flirting is subtle. Men, in general, are not good at that. Women, however, largely need to express interest without just coming out and saying it. So they flirt. You need to learn to pick those signals up. Looking at you and then looking away if you notice is a good first sign. Always trying to get closer to you without making it seem that way is another. Making an effort to talk to you when other people are in the room is good. As it moves on you have playing with her hair, body lean toward you, touching, laughing, teasing, etc.

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Just make a game of talking to 3 or 4 new women a day. Don't ask them out, or say anything creepy. Just talk...next time you see a woman in line at a store or on an elevator just make a friendly comment. Soon you will lose your anxiousness and it will be easier to "flirt".

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Some girls are just "touchy", friendly people. They may display the exact same behavior as another girl (who is flirting with you), but they're just being friendly. They don't mean anything by it.

And even some of the ones who are flirting... they may just be trying to see if they can catch your attention. To that type, it's just a game for a tease. But now, you may find that the girl is interested in you. So let's say you start dating. Then you notice that she still flirts... with other guys. And what do you do when you find that the woman who likes to flirt most with you is married? Do you keep flirting with her, keeping it strictly on the friendly tip? Or do you start becoming a little colder, to keep her from getting the wrong idea? But if you do that, what if her (single) girlfriends begin thinking of you as a harsh kinda dude? Wouldn't want that.

Whew! I think I'm beginning to see it Force's way. Time for me to stop dating and swear off women forever! Or until the next set of big brown eyes comes along...

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Where have all the Conservatives Gone?

I find the calm, cool way is best. You need to reel the fish in before you can wack it with the paddle.

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"In individuals, insanity is rare; but in groups, parties, nations and epochs, it is the rule." - Nietzsche

After a typical 14+ hour day, I guess I don't do as much "fish whacking" as I used to.

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