In the off-topic chat, a poster has been arguing that homosexuals should use willpower to change their sexual orientation. Therefore, I ask all people on this forum, whether, apart from moral considerations, you could, if you so chose, change your sexual orientation. In other words, if you are straight, could you make yourself attracted to your own sex? If you are gay or lesbian, could you make yourself attracted to the opposite sex? If you are bisexual, could you make yourself "monosexual" (attracted only to one sex or the other)? I take no particular pride in being straight, but as a straight man, I am certain that I could not, with any amount of effort, be attracted to another man. Therefore, I answered "no" in the above poll. I appreciate all votes and replies. Thank you very much.

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its all in the mind-u dont have to be attracted to a person of your own sex-like i dont get attracted on seeing either men or women-its in mind

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Of course I couldn't. I could always choose not to have sex. But I hardly see the point in that. Regardless, no matter how hot the dude is it's not happening.

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No, sexuality is an instinct the main purpose of which is the propagation of the species. As such, feeling attracted to someone is not a choice. Acting on the attraction is, but feeling attracted is not.

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So you are saying that you could make yourself be sexually attracted to men if you wanted to?

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That's a very interesting question. There's "orientation" and then there's "serious long-term orientation", know what I mean?

I voted "yes" because, in a moment of strange animal frenzy, it's remotely conceivable that I might be somewhat compatible with another man.

But, in general, men simply don't "turn me on", and women do. So that's the "longer-term" piece.

So, I voted "yes" just to cast a vote in favor. I'd be interested to hear from some of our gay members, how that's played out in their lives.

If you're gay, have you ever gotten it on with a woman or become interested in one? When you watch TV, do you occasionally say, "wow, that's a fine chick", or is your interest pretty much confined to the men you see?

Great question. Well, hopefully we can all be honest here....

That isnt the issue though. The issue is about CHANGING your orientation.

In other words, if you are already attracted to both (even a little bit) then there is nothing to change. You already had attraction to both to begin with.

If you are only attracted to women, but not men (for example), you would have to CHANGE to be attracted to men instead. Because you were not attracted to men to begin with.

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That isn't true if homosexual tendencies are inborn... unless you are actually bisexual (no offense, but that is relevant). If you are bisexual, then as I wrote above, the poll asks whether you could become monosexual.

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Can men control their erections and women control when and how their nipples get hard? I think not, we are just animals with slightly bigger brains. Goooo Democrats.

So, you're talking about a "deliberate conscious change", like maybe a sex-change operation or something?

Nah, in that case, that definitely wouldn't be me. I just wasn't sure exactly what the question was.

Believe me, I've been all over the universe, and seen she-males and all that stuff, people in mid-stream of hormone treatments, and so on.

If you're asking whether "I'm" bisexual, I think I could fairly answer "no".

But, I've been in, um... "group situations", shall we say, where things get a lot looser than most ordinary relationships. Not lately though, now I'm comfortably married and we have a beautiful baby boy, and that's where I'm at.

But I could probably think back to a few episodes back in my teenage and college days, where I "might" - "maybe" - be reasonably able to say that participation required some conscious effort on my part.

Does that help clarify my desire for specificity in relation to the question?