My Grandmothers health recently deteriorated to the point that we felt a nursing home was our only option. She was putting too much strain on her husband and even with a 24 hour nurse we would have needed to perform major renovations to their home. She picked the home and within 12 hours of moving passed peacefully in her sleep. For some leaving the family home can be too much.
Originally Posted by Blingmo
Her sister and brother in law spent 12 years together in an assisted care facility, the fact that your parents are going together is surely a great comfort for them.
As far as gifts go I think that photos etc of the two of them their children and grandchildren are the best present, some nicknacks from their own home, sweets, drinks? I know here many nursing homes keep a Liqour cabinet for the family to leave whiskey etc to be given to the patients. My grand uncle is kept well stocked with Jameson.
Really anything to help them feel at home, if you discuss with the nursing home staff what can be brought what they are prepared to facilitate?
The most important thing you can do is to visit. It is very important even if it is only a five minute drop in or even a phone call. If your children are old enough maybe drop them in for a few minutes as well.
at the end of the day you are acting in their best interests and I am sure they are aware of that.
Last edited by ryanm34; Aug 10 2012 at 07:20 AM.
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