Thread: *-* My grandparents moved to seniors living *-*

Recently we have shifted our grandparents to the aged care nursing home and the reason was that they were very much ill and they can't even do proper look after for each other and for such reason one of my friends parent advised my father to shift them to the aged care center where at least proper care and treatment must be available for them... No i do really miss them and really wanted to spent some time with them because hey are very nice and always caring for each other but now they have been surrounded by many diseases...
I m not managing my time out of my daily routine work and looking after my family ...... How to manage time and went for a visit.. and provide them with gifts so that they might not feel that they have been abandoned..

I am not joking when I say this to you. The humane thing to do would be to euthanize then.

What is the point if you have no quality of life? Sure you can live a few more years if you take enough medicine but that is not living.

Originally Posted by WatcherOfTheGate

I am not joking when I say this to you. The humane thing to do would be to euthanize then.

What is the point if you have no quality of life? Sure you can live a few more years if you take enough medicine but that is not living.

Everyone should have the choice, for sure. But in this instance it seems euthanasia isn't on the agenda.

Blingmo, make a regular appointment for visits and keep them. Your grandparents will be very happy to see everyone.

Blingmo, sharing your time with them, if only for short periods, is the best "gift" you can give.

I encourage you to do so. You too, will be rewarded for the effort.

Take care, and good luck.

Originally Posted by Blingmo

Recently we have shifted our grandparents to the aged care nursing home and the reason was that they were very much ill and they can't even do proper look after for each other and for such reason one of my friends parent advised my father to shift them to the aged care center where at least proper care and treatment must be available for them... No i do really miss them and really wanted to spent some time with them because hey are very nice and always caring for each other but now they have been surrounded by many diseases...
I m not managing my time out of my daily routine work and looking after my family ...... How to manage time and went for a visit.. and provide them with gifts so that they might not feel that they have been abandoned..

My Grandmothers health recently deteriorated to the point that we felt a nursing home was our only option. She was putting too much strain on her husband and even with a 24 hour nurse we would have needed to perform major renovations to their home. She picked the home and within 12 hours of moving passed peacefully in her sleep. For some leaving the family home can be too much.

Her sister and brother in law spent 12 years together in an assisted care facility, the fact that your parents are going together is surely a great comfort for them.

As far as gifts go I think that photos etc of the two of them their children and grandchildren are the best present, some nicknacks from their own home, sweets, drinks? I know here many nursing homes keep a Liqour cabinet for the family to leave whiskey etc to be given to the patients. My grand uncle is kept well stocked with Jameson.

Really anything to help them feel at home, if you discuss with the nursing home staff what can be brought what they are prepared to facilitate?

The most important thing you can do is to visit. It is very important even if it is only a five minute drop in or even a phone call. If your children are old enough maybe drop them in for a few minutes as well.

at the end of the day you are acting in their best interests and I am sure they are aware of that.

Originally Posted by Blingmo

Recently we have shifted our grandparents to the aged care nursing home and the reason was that they were very much ill and they can't even do proper look after for each other and for such reason one of my friends parent advised my father to shift them to the aged care center where at least proper care and treatment must be available for them... No i do really miss them and really wanted to spent some time with them because hey are very nice and always caring for each other but now they have been surrounded by many diseases...
I m not managing my time out of my daily routine work and looking after my family ...... How to manage time and went for a visit.. and provide them with gifts so that they might not feel that they have been abandoned..

Go visit them asap, then if possible set aside at least one day a week just for them - you'll never regret having done that ..... and take pix of all of you also.

I have a friend who had worked in a nursing home for quite a few yrs and heard stories about many lived w/great loneliness b/c their family had pretty much forgotten them.....

Also try to keep tabs on your grandparents care by the staff.... many nursing homes aren't what they're cracked up to be and patients are abused and mistreated....