I copied this from a thread I started in the gay rights forum. I want to support complete social equality. I personally don't see a reason a homosexual person should have any less right to adopt than I should (though I'd be too crazy to make a good parent). You see my dilemma above, however, and I need advice and input on this subject. Thank you very much.

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Well gay adoption is certainly not normal in the traditional sense, but certainly doesn't make it wrong. Should every that stands as abnormal based on the status quo be banned? Tattoos? Extreme sports?

I would ask your Mom to show some evidence that gay adoption "wreaks havoc" on the children involved. I would say that there hasn't been enough research to make such a claim or even enough cases of gay adoption to make such researcg credible.

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. "You have found the secret message. Do you have too much time on your hands? ...Let it go."

Both my parents claim that, since there is no proof that gay adoption doesn't harm children, it shouldn't be legal. I can't find any unbiased study on the Internet, moreover.

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It all boils down to levels of what is best for the child. Gay adoption is no where near the bottom, and is much higher than a state run facility.

Any couple or single person that would love, nurture and provide for a child is ok in my books.

I think my mother is afraid that gay adoption might destroy childrens' senses of gender identity. I'm not stating that, but I need to see her opinion confirmed or disproven before I take a stand one way or the other.

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I completely agree.

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. "You have found the secret message. Do you have too much time on your hands? ...Let it go."

But do you have any evidence that gay adoption won't hurt children psychologically? Again, I want to support it, but my mother becomes so upset about the topic that I assume there must be some reason for her feelings.

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First of all, a negative statement cannot be proven, so your question is unfair.

Even if that is true, so what? You're the one who hates men and thinks women should be in control of the world. One might say you suffer from a destroyed sense of gender identity, which begs the question: When you mention your Mom, do you mean your other Mom?

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. "You have found the secret message. Do you have too much time on your hands? ...Let it go."

My major was psychology and being gay is not considered a mental illness. What normally causes the lost of gender identity seems to come from two paths. One is they were born that way and the other is tragic sexual abuse during early childhood. There are many gay couples that have childern and their childern do not become gay over the average.
Gay couples also do not preach that gay is the right choice. They raise their children in the gender that they are. They are happy when their sons get a girl friends etc.

A bad couple gay or straight is bad either way. Same as a good couple gay or straight is still good to their children.

That logic doesnt work because we believe that people are innocent before proven guilty. Gays are good parents by default, until it can be proven otherwise.