there are a couple of things that have not been identified as contributing to the increased divorce rates when compared to our "golden" age 50's & 60's.

one is increased mobility. no longer were people remaining in the town they grew up in surrounded by their famility and friends that they had known forever. there was a stigma against divorce because it would shame the whole family, as with out of wedlock birth

the nuclear family during the golden age consisted of a working father and a stay at home mom who kept house, cooked, cleaned and cared for the kids. a second income due to mom working made a huge difference in the standard of living (at least financially). over the course of one generation families evolved into two wage earners and that became the means to an average income rather than a superior one. women, with an ability to support themselves, could now afford to divorce their husbands

so with economic independence and free from the bonds of societial and family mores inhibiting divorce, changing spouses became more pervasive

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"I like to watch the news, because I don't like people very much and when you watch the news ... if you ever had an idea that people were really terrible, you could watch the news and know that you're right."

Frank Zappa

Sexual liberation (and good contraception) has allowed women to be as sexually free as men once exclusively were, without being considered whores.

It's been a boon to lesbians and gays. If heterosexuals had a sexual liberation--then gays and lesbians were freed from slavery. Now, I am able to legally marry in my state. My license arrived in the mail yesterday to whoops of joy.

That's a long term effect of the sexual revolution.

We still have a long way to go IMO. We are very split in our culture still.

(*)(*)(*)(*)! I wanted to read the threads and build up some outrage.

Failed

Don't worry young fella, your time will come.

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Well let’s see I would say the men are far superior to women in all regards, except I have this lovely wife that is one of the smartest people I have ever met. Her brain and work is so highly valued that she actually has to turn down work every now and then.
And my 9 year old daughter is the only fair skinned redhead in town that speaks Chinese.

I can't agree on this one. Its pretty obvious that women and men don't think alike, communicate alike or have all of the same needs. The point feminists were trying to make is that women are as capable as men in the workplace.

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Ignorance is treatable. Stupidity ain't.

"The world is a dangerous place to live, not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don't do anything about it." ---Albert Einstien

A major part of the problem with marriage these days IMO is companies are much more likely to make relocations a requirement of career advancement and in todays two income families that means someone has to give.

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Ignorance is treatable. Stupidity ain't.

"The world is a dangerous place to live, not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don't do anything about it." ---Albert Einstien

This wouldn't be as much a problem if not for some cultural lag.
People still think of marriage in romantic terms. Of course they also view marriage as something for the self.
Women are still often brought up to fantasize about a big wedding that is an extension of her ego. Men and women alike fall in love quickly and marry for passion without thinking over lasting emotional intimacy and the ever important commitment factor.

Divorces would be reduced if people cut out the overemphasis of romanticism and thought more about commitment and talking it over before marriage.

The divorce rate is now stagnant and overall I expect downward movement as the generation raised on divorce looks to learn from mistakes of the past generation. People are putting off marriage.

Then again, I've seen some studies suggesting that this makes marriages less stable. It causes the raising of children to be more hectic because it follows rather than preceding or coinciding with many high points in life. But I've never seen that connected with divorce directly, just marital unhappiness.
And people need to realize that marriages will contain some unhappiness. Getting through that is how a marriage becomes strong and worthwhile.

Once our population adjusts to this reality, we'll likely see more stable marriages.

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That information is classified and to be given only on a need-to-know basis...

And I do not need to know.

yeah, I share your frustration. How come these sex threads are never sexy?

I'm not building up what I was hoping to build up.

But look on the bright side, Z. Your litttle carpal tunnel problem is certainly getting better.

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