Thread: Your child is sleeping with a member of a different race. What do you do?

Originally Posted by cassandrabandra

its a combination of things. if you have economic insecurity and a destabilised society, you get more in group-outgroup scenarios where group violence is directed towards outsiders (gangs, turf wars etc). This is often the case in neighbourhoods with a high ratio of black americans for a whole range of reasons which are not related to anything intrinsic to "blackness", but may be related to historical factors and internalised issues as well as economic factors.

Anyway you cut it, there are wayyy more black on non-black crimes than there are non-black on black crimes annually.

you get poor parenting in communities where people have been marginalised, or have historically experienced forced family breakups etc, and of course, this carries on down the generations.

To me, the past is the past and it shouldn't have anymore bearing on the present and the future. If black parents just raised their kids better today, their communities could change in a relatively short time.

Motivated young men from the village may well leave, butthey have a sense of obligation and send money back to the village ... there is also the concept of family shame if people go off the rails. This means a lot more than it does here. You do not shame your family.

That's my point with most asians. They feel shame and actually CARE about their image and what people think of them. Compare that to many blacks who don't care AT ALL and have little diginity or self respect and they keep committing crime and doing other things that make their race look bad.

But then if anyone should ever call them out on it, they call you a 'racist'. That's like a get out of jail card for them. No matter what they do, just call whoever challenges them a racist to gloss over whatever bad behavior blacks display.

Also - the socieities are very patriarchal, and even among adults there can be real fear of the father/senior males.

even so, there is still a lot of crime in cities.

Crime is relatively low in most parts of Asia despite the majority of them living in worse poverty than any black American as ever experienced in the last several decades.

obviously there is a lot more to this - but historically (you can look at data over a number of centuries) you see crime rates (especially violent crime rates) are higher during periods of economic upheaval and instability in the society. historically, young men during these times have been recruited to fight wars (the hundred years war, the thirty years war etc), but still crime rates have been high.

Of course crime goes up during times of hardship and instability, but my question is why when most people in western countries and asia can live civvily and in relative peace that blacks can't do the same ANYWHERE?

Its not IQ as such, as the capacity for reason which is more likely to be found among people who are more educated, or who have been taught to respond rather than react to situations they find themselves in.

And going by many blacks and their behaviour, most really aren't that educated. As I said, many blacks don't seem to reason, but rather act out physically which is why so many of them die over nothing incidents.

And just to keep a tab on the flash mob phenomena, it happened AGAIN yesterday, this time in DC with an ALL FEMALE black mob this time robbing a convienence store. What's the total now? A dozen or more black flash mobs vs ZERO non-black mobs? And I love how black people interviewed TRY AND JUSTIFY THE CRIME rather than speak out against it. And this is why very little changes in black communities and they're falling behind.

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WhLn3zRhGFA"]Black female mob hits DC - YouTube[/ame]

Originally Posted by ian

Yes, i read that article too. I wonder if environment isnt the main factor in the devolopment of the amygdala in this way.

that would make sense.

I don't mind interracial relationships for the most part. However, to be honest, if I had a daughter, I would be concerned if she all of a sudden had a black boyfriend. If he is a good person, then I will understand, but my first thought would be that he is just using her for sex. White girls are like trophies to many blacks. It's a symbolic "(*)(*)(*)(*) you" to whites — a kind of retribution for years of injustice.

As a parent, you have every right to encourage your child to marry within her race (or outside of it) and no one--not the schools, not the PC police, not your neighbors, not the liberal establishment--have any business interjecting.

If you don't feel comfortable about your white daughter dating black men you are not required to explain yourself to people outside the family. It is your prerogative as her parent. It DOES NOT make you a racist to insist that your daughter date and marry within her own race.

Originally Posted by SigTurner

As a parent, you have every right to encourage your child to marry within her race (or outside of it) and no one--not the schools, not the PC police, not your neighbors, not the liberal establishment--have any business interjecting.

If you don't feel comfortable about your white daughter dating black men you are not required to explain yourself to people outside the family. It is your prerogative as her parent. It DOES NOT make you a racist to insist that your daughter date and marry within her own race.

Whether or not they listen to a given parent's encouragement is another matter.

Would be nice if the youngsters made a decision bases on love not hormones.
Color doesn't play any role in how I feel about sex, or the lack thereof.

Joining this late....but ill chime in and hope it wasn't already touched uponn.

I want to have sex with a black chick.... its on my sexual todo list
I do not want to marry a black chick though...to many issues and problems I just don't want to deal with.

Now as far as my child doing it....if I'm going off the initial statement of them being 15/16 and she's sleeping with a black guy, its not the black guy part I'm worried about, its the teen mom thing I worry about and (*)(*)(*)(*) right I stop it regardless of race.
The next concern I have is the fact that in a perfect world, it shouldn't matter, but we don't live in a perfect world and white girls with black babies face even more discrimination than being a single mother would. And even though teenagers think they know everything, they don't and life experience lacks in understanding what problems will occur is a real concern any parent should have.

Hypocritical point aside that I would do a black chick and then tell my kid not to is the difference between being an irresponsible child and an adult who has knows how to prevent pregnancies.
An adult child though....well I'm sure my parents wouldn't approve of me doing a black chick, but I'm an adult. I'm not sure they approve of many of my sexual partner choices but they stay quiet about it

Originally Posted by Yoruichi878

Black female mob hits DC - YouTube

'young people'... 'young women'... 'teenagers'...

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[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E1AyrS3y_f0"]'TEEN' MOB OF 50 - YouTube[/ame]

Originally Posted by Brewskier

It's a symbolic "(*)(*)(*)(*) you" to whites — a kind of retribution for years of injustice.

What injustices? Affirmative Action? Section 8? The United Negro College Fund?

Bull(*)(*)(*)(*) like this does wonders for my sex life. It makes my white ass want to bang my half-asian, half-latina wife even harder. BTW, we haven't experienced much in the way of discrimination, even when visiting my home town . . . a famous hotbed for the KKK in Texas that wasn't desegregated until 1997. And there is no way in hell I'd have let "but other people might be mean to us" be an excuse to not date or marry her.

Originally Posted by SigTurner

As a parent, you have every right to encourage your child to marry within her race (or outside of it) and no one--not the schools, not the PC police, not your neighbors, not the liberal establishment--have any business interjecting.

If you don't feel comfortable about your white daughter dating black men you are not required to explain yourself to people outside the family. It is your prerogative as her parent.

There is no question that you have the right to do this. I don't think anyone is talking about taking that right away from you. If you are going to make that decision public, then be prepared for public scrutiny. You don't have to care about what others have to say, and you don't have to answer to them, but they have just as much of a right to (*)(*)(*)(*)(*) about it as you do to raise your daughter the way you see fit.

It DOES NOT make you a racist to insist that your daughter date and marry within her own race.

By any and all reasonable definitions of racism, yes, this is racist. Telling your daughter that the color of a person's skin is the determining factor in whether she can date or marry them is racist. I doubt you even believe yourself when you say otherwise. If your daughter is only attracted to guys of her own race, whatever, she doesn't get to choose who she is attracted to. But if you tell her that the color of someone's skin is more important than her love for him or his own personal character, you are definitely racist. Sorry. You don't have to care, but you can't possibly deny.