I don't really disagree with your potted History or the literal fact of NATO being almost at Federation borders .
But let' s move on from NATOs Cold War policy.
Now NATO is the US and vice versa , I believe you and Putin , more importantly , must see matters in the ways which define present US Geo Political Strategy , as clearly stated and documented .
Russia does not figure in it . If the Federation had been able to get rid of the little psychopath six years ago , say , Russia might have been able to bring itself into the NATO umbrella and actually create a real economy .
But that's wishful thinking .History that did not happen . More's the pity .
The only way that NATO will impinge on the Federation is by taking Georgia ( presently it has) and Ukraine ( presently Moscow is driving it to the US , coupled with a simpleton cipher President who is losing the plot ).
These are vital countries for pipe lines and the Gas/Oil under the Black Sea .
But the idea of one country invading another to conquer it by military action is History .Anyhow , Russia is far too weak presently in conventional terms to take on anybody but a small country like Georgia -- not enough professionals and outdated equipment .
Today you control countries by strangling and/or controlling basic commodities --- Energy , Food and Water .See Russia versus Belarus and Ukraine .
Russia may be" needed " in terms of an enlarged Umbrella in fifty years time but the Federation will have collapsed well before then
Presently , Putin gives no idea that he has the remotest idea of how to form or obtain a working Geo Political Strategy . His mind set is locked in his formative years -- KGB and substitute family , and all he can think of is selling a bit of Oil and Gas to the East and a bit more to the West ... no long term vision , other than a tin pot local Customs area which he forces countries to contemplate -- Belarus and Ukraine .
The West knows that Russia is not developing , and , in fact , is running backwards due to Putin plus huge population decline and health problems .
If only Putin were not myopic and tunnel visioned , he could work that out for himself and develop a vision suited to the desperate needs of Russia now .