View Poll Results: Does someone's weight affect your perception of them?

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  • Yes, I think a person's weight is a reflection of them.

    29 35.37%
  • Yes, I wish I didn't but I do unconsciously judge them.

    27 32.93%
  • No, I wish they would take their health more seriously, but I don't judge them.

    18 21.95%
  • No, weight is cosmetic and many overweight people simply can't help it..

    8 9.76%
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    Quote Originally Posted by momrobare View Post
    Most obese people do not need other people to tell them they're fat and they should lose weight. Almost all of them already know that and have heard it several times over. I would walk away if a stranger came up to me (which is why...in my previous post I said I don't approach other people). You don't really do anybody any good by pointing out the obvious and making them feel horrible.
    Thank you, that was my main point. I have never been overweight (but I only recently turned 18, so there's lots of time for that to happen,) but I am a little on the skinny side. I would hate it if a stranger came up to me and said I was too thin and I should do something about it. As you quite rightly point out, everyone knows when they are over or under weight (like we all live in houses with mirrors) and we don't need someone to make us feel inadequate by unnecessarily drawing attention to the fact.
    I hate the idea of causes, and if I had to choose between betraying my country and betraying my friend, I hope I should have the guts to betray my country. E.M. Forster

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    Why does this fat crap keep staying near the top of Opinion Polls?
    "If Republicans wanted to Destroy America, they would Vote Democrat."
    Coolwalker

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    Quote Originally Posted by PatrickT View Post
    I had an elderly acquaintance who was lonely so I took him to a buffet, his choice, once a month. Every time we were there a cuople came in who were in oversized wheelchairs because they were too fat to walk. The buffet would assign staff to run food to the table for the two huge parents and their three fat little kids. The adults disgusted me but when I saw the kids following in mom an dad's wheel tracks I got angry.
    What is most sick and sad about such ignorant arrogance shown in this post is that The exact REVERSE is true of the hateful statement made that "they are in a wheelchair because they are so fat".

    And MANY of those conditions create LOTS of PAIN, so distraction is even more desired than it is for the avarage American who sits on their butt 10 hours a day watching TV with GOOD legs, spines, etc.

    When a physical problem confines people in a wheelchair, the lack of movement makes it virtually impossible to control weight, and often the physical problems that got them there make movement a problem anyway!

    Further, when you are confined like that surround with a--holes like this, what else is there to live for but a good meal? Are ya gonna live on 600 calories a day in order to keep sitting in a wheelchair another 5 years until the age of 45 instead of 4 to die of an embolism instead of a heart attack?

    I have come to the point where i hope people who think like this get to find out what it is like before they leave this world.
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    Quote Originally Posted by momrobare View Post
    As stated in the gastric bypass post...I had a gastric bypass in 2009! And though I'm ashamed to admit it ...when I see an obese person the first thing I think of is "There's a good candidate for gastric bypass surgery". I know how hard it is to lose a large amount of weight. I know how I felt when I was grossly obese! I know how it felt to walk into a store because you HAD to buy new clothes not because you wanted to and to walk over and see what kind of shapeless elephant clothes were the least horrible of the bunch! I cannot believe I ever let myself get this way and yet I'm not really sure how I got that way! I tried to watch what I ate but there came a time when I gave up and just ate. Never left the house due to agoraphobia and OCD! And I ate and ate and ate...until I was 237 pounds on a 5'1" small frame! And I hated myself! I tried diets. I joined weight watchers but couldn't afford the weekly payments on Social Security! I tried to exercise but thought I was having a heart attack and I couldn't breathe!

    So I know I shouldn't look at obese people as simply candidates for this life saving surgery but I do. I feel sorry for them and I want to go over and talk to them about gastric bypass surgery but I don't! Then I feel bad because I think maybe I should have done so!

    Sometimes I'm selfish and tell myself "hey people judged you for so long now it's your turn" but I feel horrible after I think that!

    All I know is that since I lost over 100 pounds people are nicer to ME! I went back to college at the age of 54 (I'm 55 now) and even the kids there are nice and kind to me! The teachers also. Nobody treats me like I'm on the edge of society!

    So I don't really know if I judge fat/obese people per se but I do know that I was judged and treated harshly because of my weight simply by the way I'm treated by society as a whole now that I weight 109 pounds!
    I would say, sure, walk over to people you do not know and tell them about gastric bypass surgery, IF YOU OFFER TO PAY FOR IT FOR THEM!

    Otherwise, don't pass on the cruelty and evil done to you!

    You know, you could simply say "Hi! I hope you are having a good day!"
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    im fat and i donít like looking at other fat people but i donít avoid people who are fat and that doesnít stop me from likening them if there otherwise nice then I donít care so much

    on other hand some people are to skinny when the bones tart sticking out enough at some point i donít like that any more either

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    Quote Originally Posted by CoolWalker View Post
    Why does this fat crap keep staying near the top of Opinion Polls?
    people have opinions about it

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    Quote Originally Posted by submarinepainter View Post
    Some overweight folks like me are very successful judge me on what I have accomplished



    Mak I was normal weight til I was around 40 and it just came!! watch out



    totally untrue , while caring for my wife I gained a lot . it happens all the time .


    the good news is I am getting help , a dietician , walking at lunch and the evening . 19.5 pounds gone in 5 weeks!
    Way to go Subby! I maintained 5'11" 175 lbs for most of my adult life (53 now). Between having reduced kidney function Gout (Feet) and Peripheral Neuropathy of the feet I am 5' 11" 245 lbs. My limited capacity for exercise due to my feet and my failure to adjust my diet helped me hit 340 lbs. I changed my diet to almost exclusively vegetables and some fruits and lost 95 lbs. Unfortunately, even though I live on 1000 calories or less, I hit a wall that seemingly can only be broken by exercise.

    For those unfamiliar with Peripheral Neuropathy:

    Definition

    Peripheral neuropathy, a result of nerve damage, often causes numbness and pain in your hands and feet. People typically describe the pain of peripheral neuropathy as tingling or burning, while they may compare the loss of sensation to the feeling of wearing a thin stocking or glove.

    Most commonly, peripheral neuropathy starts in the longest nerves — the ones that reach to your toes. Symptoms vary, depending on which types of nerves are affected. Signs and symptoms may include:

    Gradual onset of numbness and tingling in your feet or hands, which may spread upward into your legs and arms
    Burning pain
    Sharp, jabbing or electric-like pain
    Extreme sensitivity to touch, even light touch
    Lack of coordination
    Muscle weakness or paralysis if motor nerves are affected
    Bowel or bladder problems if autonomic nerves are affected

    http://www.bing.com/health/article/m...ral+Neuropathy
    I had lost 45 lbs when I went looking for a job. I had plenty of interviews. I always looked directly at the interviewers face the instant I walked in the door. Their facial expressions said it all. Once before I found the job I have now, I walked in and I could tell right away it was going to be a waste of time. So, I was blunt (I'm good at that). I said I can tell by the look on your face your put off by my weight. Since the job is for a computer network tech, I won't be dealing with your customers just your employees so one would think, you'd be judging me by my ability not my appearance. But you've obviously made up your mind before I shook your hand. So I'll save you the trouble.......Thanks for the interview, but I think I'll take my straight A's in school and go elsewhere. She followed me out to the lobby trying to explain all the way. I stopped and told her I'd rather drink water from a Dodger's Stadium toilet than waste my talent on folks like them.
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    Quote Originally Posted by fiddlerdave View Post
    What is most sick and sad about such ignorant arrogance shown in this post is that The exact REVERSE is true of the hateful statement made that "they are in a wheelchair because they are so fat".

    And MANY of those conditions create LOTS of PAIN, so distraction is even more desired than it is for the avarage American who sits on their butt 10 hours a day watching TV with GOOD legs, spines, etc.

    When a physical problem confines people in a wheelchair, the lack of movement makes it virtually impossible to control weight, and often the physical problems that got them there make movement a problem anyway!

    Further, when you are confined like that surround with a--holes like this, what else is there to live for but a good meal? Are ya gonna live on 600 calories a day in order to keep sitting in a wheelchair another 5 years until the age of 45 instead of 4 to die of an embolism instead of a heart attack?

    I have come to the point where i hope people who think like this get to find out what it is like before they leave this world.
    Fiddler, your ignorance is astounding. I have a huge relatively who will be in a wheelchair shortly. Her knees can't carry her around any longer. The doctors have said that new knees would be pointless is she didn't get down to a reasonable weight but she can't and it's her mother's fault.

    What mmazes me, Fiddler, are the fat enablers. You can understand them but I can't. Remember the woman who sat on her couch until her body and the couch fused? When they removed her the couch had to go with her and be surgically removed. Someone was feeding that woman while she sat and crapped on the couch. So, tell me, Fiddler, what's an enablers thought process? Oh, and Fiddler, if they're paying for their food, they can pay for gastric bypass surgery. Staying fat isn't cheap.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PatrickT View Post
    Fiddler, your ignorance is astounding. I have a huge relatively who will be in a wheelchair shortly. Her knees can't carry her around any longer. The doctors have said that new knees would be pointless is she didn't get down to a reasonable weight but she can't and it's her mother's fault.

    What mmazes me, Fiddler, are the fat enablers. You can understand them but I can't. Remember the woman who sat on her couch until her body and the couch fused? When they removed her the couch had to go with her and be surgically removed. Someone was feeding that woman while she sat and crapped on the couch. So, tell me, Fiddler, what's an enablers thought process? Oh, and Fiddler, if they're paying for their food, they can pay for gastric bypass surgery. Staying fat isn't cheap.
    I remember that story. The woman and the couch. She reached such a state of morbid obesity. She had 200lbs of fluids (urine) in her body.

    Hmm. Apparantly this is not that uncommon.

    Man who sat for 2 years dies on couch. "There, emergency medical workers were called to the home of a 43-year-old man who had sat in his recliner for so long ó at least two years ó that his skin had grown into the chairís fabric. He had been using the bathroom in his pants and maggots were visible, according to a local TV station."

    And the most bizarre. NESS CITY, Kan. Deputies said a woman in western Kansas sat on her boyfriend's toilet for two years, and they're investigating whether she was mistreated.
    Last edited by GeneralZod; May 06 2012 at 12:09 PM.

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    Unless there is some kind of biological metabolic failure... being fat is a choice... just like being a smoker or a drug abuser. Fat by choice is not the path a logical healthy mind takes. Fat by choice points to lack of self control... personal apathy, self destructive behavior. Its 0ne out 100 times I see a fat person at the local 7-11 opt for an ozarka and a bag of almonds over a bearclaw and a 44 oz big gulp.

    Yep... 99% of the time I look at a fat person and think to myself that this person lacks in character.
    "There comes a time when the operation of the machine becomes so odious, makes you so sick at heart, that you can't take part, you can't even passively take part. And you've got to put your bodies on the gears, and upon the wheels, upon the levers, upon all the apparatus. And you've got to make it stop

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