You make me feel (insert feeling here)

Have you ever been told "you make me feel ______"? Was it you who was responsible for how the other felt or is the other responsible for their own feelings? What if any boundary determines who is responcible for the feeling?

 

It was me actually who was responsible for how the other person felt. I directly caused her to feel like a natural woman.

 

What if she said "you make me feel cheap"? Would you still be responcible for how she felt?

 

It probably means I got a good hourly rate.

 

Would you be more willing to accept responsibility for a positive claim as opposed to a negative claim?

 

brand new.

 

How a person acts towards another person does have consequences. You can't ignore that. But people can choose to move on and brush off what ever bad (or good) feeling was solicited. We all have control over our destiny.

 

Here's that tricky word again--responsibility. Hmm...

You force a response, of some sort, but don't force the ultimate action.

 

Indeed, but as that is a two way street what determines who is responcible for how one feels?

If we have control over our destiny then I would argue that it is the individual who is responcible for how they feel.

 

I would say elicit a responce rather than force, but other than that I agree.

 

True, but in this context it amounts to force, in the sense that the person will have a response, internally or externally.

Elicit is a better word, though

 

this thread reminds me of a quote by Maya Angelou...“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

I believe you are mostly responsible for how other people feel, by the way you treat them and what you say to them.... some people will however have personal issues/past experiences and no matter what you do the way they feel is entirely their own responsibility.

 

It is easy to blame another for making us feel bad, but if one changes their perspective by understanding that how one judges another says more about the judge than the judged then it does much to blunt negative comments.

I have found that blaming others for how I feel makes me a slave to the judgment of others. A self-esteem that is centered upon how others view us is a path to misery... or at least it was for me. Self confidence (as opposed to cockiness) comes from believing in yourself rather than allowing others to define you.

I am not saying don't be open to criticism, just consider the source before you take it to heart.

 

The issue here is the whole concept of personal responsibility. In my opinion, feelings are far too complex ever to have one distinct cause, and using the specific example of "you make me feel", that "you" alone contains many factors. The phrase "you make me feel..." isn't just referring to the subject "you", but to a subject-object relationship (otherwise the phrase simply would not even contain two pronouns).

 

People in general are conditioned by experience and environment.

And in my opinion there are far too many people who are incapable of standing up for themselves.

It seems that people have become far too soft as they bristle or cower at anything that is out of their comfort zone.

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HA!!

I cannot remember the last time I saw a person in the general public accept responsibility for anything.

AA

 

People are pretty quick to accept responsibility for good things.

 

Yep!

People have no issue whatsoever jumping up to accept credit!

But as far as responsibility.....hey it's the other persons fault!

AA

 

The older I get the stranger the above seems as I now see being wrong as an opportunity to learn. My ego driven need to be right is one of my greatest weaknesses. Over time I have reduced the power ego has over me, but I doubt that I will ever be completely rid of it.

 

Well I'm 14 years old and attend a school known for being ridiculously and unhealthily competitive, sooo...perhaps my experiences are not representative. But I can definitely relate to you. I hate being wrong, and I dress up my mistakes and ignorance with pretentious and evasive language far more than I would like to, while deep down I know that there are so many things of which my knowledge is pitifully elementary.

 

I always wondered about the complexity of this question, because sometimes you make me feel like a nut, sometimes you don't.

 

Only you are responsible for how you feel.........NO one can make me feel any specific way...I have control of how I feel...and that's as it should be.

 

You make me feel like dancing?
[video=youtube;Bwy1x0-cZaI]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bwy1x0-cZaI[/video]

 

It all depends on the context.

People by their actions can sometimes unintentionally have an effect of other peoples feelings. As individuals we have a responsibility to access whether our feelings are based on reasonable expectations, or even reality in some cases. Conversely we have some responsibility to govern our actions towards others and realize that what we say and do have real effects on other peoples emotions.

btw the thread made me feel mildly anxious and intrigued. Some of the answers made me feel amused. --- Nothing intrinsically wrong with a person being honest about their feelings.

 

One must understand the context thereof, and actually be in that moment to answer this question. Most of the time it is the person that was told "you make me feel". Who is responsible. But not always.

 

She, in turn, made me feel like dancing. (I wanted to dance the night away!)