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Originally Posted by Mem";p="
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Originally Posted by Demosthenes";p="
So, essentially we punish women for having children? We make them choose between having a family or their jobs? That doesn't seem right to me.
-Demosthenes
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I have to choose between my job and a nine-month vacation around Thailand. Am I being 'punished' for taking the vacation?
Why should we be encouraging women to have children when there are millions of people desparate to immigrate here? Is the benefit to society of childbirth so much greater than immigration that we should pay 6 months of a woman's salary (AND keep her old job available) each time she has a child?
Even if you do accept that women should be paid to have children, why should some women get paid a lot more than others for it? The current situation violates "equal pay for work of equal value" - a concept the womens'-rights movement is usually quite keen on. Wouldn't a 'flat rate' paid through taxation be more equitable, and give employers less incentive to discriminate against women they believe will have children?
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As someone who actually has children, I didnt receive paid maternity leave. I worked my ass off pregnant until three weeks before having my children- both pregnancies- and the second go around was a twin pregnancy.
My employer, male, in my second pregnancy was quite harsh with me because I had the audacity to get pregnant (unplanned, as 50% of all pregnancies are, btw) when I was a married 32 yr old female with only one child. There was no BENEFIT of paid maternity leave but I was still asked for commitments of return dates, etc even though twin pregnancies rarely run their expected dates and I was having complications. He was simply angry that he had to hold my job open, by law, for me to return. I was simply angry that I couldnt find another job due to being obviously pregnant ( most employers arent interested in hiring pregnant women, btw, even the crappy minumum wage jobs) and had to put up with him.
My point is that if someone is the discriminatory kind, they will discriminate no matter what.
I dont understand why this is such an issue- it is the choice of employers to offer vacation as a benefit. Same thing with insurance and 401 K plans. Paid maternity leave would be a benefit an employer offered by choice.
Btw, a "nine month vacation in Thailand" and a twin pregnancy are not even comparable and I find it stupid and offensive that you made such a comparison. I WORKED the whole time I was pregnant until a doctor put me on bedrest. Do you forget that you were born of a woman? Do you think of yourself as some great joy ride for your mom? Did your mother HAVE to work to make ends meet in todays economy when she bore you?
Do you have children? Are you a male who has someone else bare children for you? If so, why do you propose to talk about how it is if you have never done it yourself?
I also want to know where the "six months" figure came from- maternity leave is standardly six WEEKS, not months
What does immigration have to do with American, working, tax-paying citizens RIGHT to have children?