It isn't an issue of stereotype, it is an issue of human nature. If the people who "take advantage of you" are only women, if you are only "not allowed" to hang out with certain women, then by definition, it is an issue of sex. If you are more prone, in her belief, to be taken advantage of by a specific sex, then it is an issue of sex, and a distrust of you and your ability to deal rationally in their realm of influence. It is, possibly accurately, a fear of you acting 'not like you would' if it was a big hairy biker... which threatens her. There really is no argument available to you... but feel free to keep trying.
Where did I say it was only women? And I already specifically stated that most of the cases weren't about sex. How is someone using you an issue about sex? It isn't. That is an assumption on your part that the facts do not bear out. Sure there is. You have made a bunch of ASSumptions that just aren't true. So you can keep claiming there is no argument available to me, but we both know that isn't true. But feel free to keep trying to stereotype. It usually shows a distinct level of ignorance when one has to rely on stereotypes, especially ones where one has to make up the stereotype on the fly. Here is a clue. You can't stereotype everyone by pretending everyone acts the same way and then blaming it on human nature. That is a cop out and a pretty (*)(*)(*)(*) poor one at that. There are always going to be exceptions to the rule and sometimes there are so many exceptions that the "rule" is pretty much meaningless. Now, it may be in your experience that it is all about sex 100% of the time. Grow up and realize that your little world is NOT the same thing as reality. Reality is that not everyone's world revolves around sex like yours apparently does. Oh, and I love how you completely ignored the part where I reversed the situation. What's wrong? Don't like it when you have to describe how YOU would react and how with YOU it wouldn't be distrust of your significant other?
I did not see where you said it was NOT specifically women. I read a number of posts, all concerned women... and the title of the thread is... and the OP concerns... If you mentioned men, please reference it. And by the way... your experience has (*)(*)(*)(*) ALL to do with the OP's situation IF that is the case. Completely irrelevant. Your girl just tells you who you can and can't hang out with because you are incapable of making rational decisions. That indicates absolutely nothing about your relationship. It is probably very healthy as it seems to span a good deal of time. You found a good one. If you mentioned men you weren't allowed to hang around because you are incapable of preserving resources for your family... please link it... and I will apologize.
That does not excuse the fact you just ASSUMED it was all about women. BWAAAAHAHAHAHA!!! Your posts have gone from asinine to completely insane now! Since I've already explained this to you in detail, one can only assume you are purposefully lying your ass off to cover the incompetence of your posts. My wife does not tell me who I can be friends with. Period. That is a decision that is completely my own. She also does not tell me who I cannot hang out with. She expresses her concerns as we DISCUSS the situation. I realize this distinction is probably way above that testosterone filled noggin, but it is called communication. I made the decision to end the friendships. Not her. Me. What's that? Your ASSumptions about my relationship have nothing to do with my relationship? On that we can agree. I didn't specifically mention men. I didn't specify it was only women. As for your apology, don't flatter yourself. Not needed and not wanted. One has to have respect before an apology has any meaning.
So you hang out with who you want to hang out with so long as your wife approves... got it. Oh... I see... you already specifically it wasn't about the sex of the WOMEN. That is why you cannot link me to men you aren't allowed to hang out with... Just FYI... http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/sex As you do not seem to understand the use of the word. You are interpreting the definition of sex with a given sex you aren't allowed to hang out with without causing strain on your relationship. Good luck with that.
Wrong yet again. Funny how you can tell some people the same thing over and over again and they're STILL far too ignorant to get such a simple concept. Wrong yet again. Funny how you can tell some people the same thing over and over again and they're STILL far too ignorant to get such a simple concept. Come back when you grow up and finally grow a pair as Jack would say. Until then your posts are a waste of bandwidth. Most posters don't have to purposefully lie their ass off and misrepresent what other posters say in order to somehow stroke their ego. Those that do are a real PITA.
How are either of those wrong? Truth sting a bit? Just kinda lashing out at the messenger? It's ok. You can vent your impotent frustration towards me. Just don't disturb the master. You might get in trouble.
... This thread is getting on my nerves. Typical Ango-American BS about men vs. women... Seriously! Jealousy is nothing abnormal. How each of us deal with it -- is an entire different thing alltogether. If I'm jealous of somebody, I just tell him/her -- and I don't start making-up little stories like that Julie woman as described in the OP.
Hahahaha... Yeah, I guess she's not interested in you at all, Leo. Hahahahaha... Seriously, tell your GF to get real -- although not in those terms ofcourse... Hahaha. Good night, "mein jungen"... hahaha.
You should ask a man who does understand women to explain, not a woman. If you ever want to get a helpful answer, that is. And most likely, no she is not flirting with you - if all you do is help her with her computer that's not really a "romantic activity" anyway so she'd more likely view you as a young friend. Most likely your girlfriend is blindly jealous.
You got that right, Mein Freund, Mrs M is not now, nor has she ever been interested in me in that way, and nor am I interested in her physically. And, LOL, that was a typo on my part - she actually calls me Mein Junge (as you know, Mein Jungen would mean 'my boys'). I see her less often now, as she seems fine with her computer, but I occasionally still chop and stack her firewood. Julie seems to have accepted the situation, but still hasn't told me exactly how Mrs M is allegedly flirting with me. It's still one of those 'a woman knows' things.
To be honest... I thought it was "mein jungen" -- since in Dutch it is "mijn jongen". On the other hand, "mein junge" -- reminds me of "mijn jonge", which means "my young". I've never had German though -- but if one has a functioning brain, and if one's mother tongue is Dutch or English -- German isn't that difficult to understand. All of those previously named languages have a lot in common.
Leo2, A few random thoughts, take them for what they are worth. a. When I was 18, if an attractive 40 year old woman (a former fashion model from Germany, and in terrific shape) were to flirt with me, I would have become her willing boy toy in about two minutes flat. (And unfortunately, that's about how long the the first love making would have lasted.) b. If your girlfriend sensed some sort of attraction and flirtation coming from the Deutsch Cougar, she was probably right. Women, even 18 year old ones, have a way of knowing when somebody is attracted to their fellow. c. In your original post, you stated that the attractive German lady 'could have anybody she wanted, why would she be interested in me?'. This is a telling choice of words, since it indicates that you felt special and lucky, (and how cool is this, this beautiful, sexy lady wants ME) and that you just might want those feeling validated. Had you stated, 'this woman is in terrific shape, but I'm not in the least interested in her, sexually or emotionally', then there would be no such implication. d. A completely different side of the coin; How is Julie when the two of your are around other girls or women? Has she ever acted jealous or suspicious about other girls? If this is a one time occurrence of jealousy and suspicion, then I would say all is probably okay in your relationship with Julie. If, however, Julie has a track record of being psycho-jealous about every other girl you have known, then I would say that your relationship is on shaky grounds. Overly-jealous women can be hell to live with, and you never want to marry one. They will simply drive you crazy in the end. Anyway, I hope things work out well for you. You seem like a nice young fellow.
