If a person is bisexual why would they choose to identify as gay?

So commitment and monogamy is your thing

where do "open relationships" fit in to all this?

 

Yes commitment and monogamy have always been my 'thing' MY parents did not use the Bible to teach those values ( one was a Baptist, the other an agnostic) they lived those values for 35 years until death did part them. I as a gay man, absorbed the values I was taught. Mostly, they were just promise-keepers and did not distinguish between professional and personal promises. You were damn careful before you promised, but once you did, you needed to mean it.

'Open' relationships might fit in other relationships/ marriages, as long as no promises were broken and thus there was no betrayal. I suppose if you are a believer in a God, and you took an oath or made a promise that included that God, you might see that promise as compelling with him as well and there may lie your concept of 'sin'.

 

I'm still in love with my son's mother who wants nothing to do with me, even though this awards me no advantage.

 

I was brought up to be with one person too. It just never happened. Looks like others weren't bing brought up well.

 

Sounds like you're very confused. Bisexual means they are attracted to both sexes. So they never HAVE to choose.

 

If you want a monogamous relationship you have to choose.

Some people that are bisexual aren't 50/50 I for example am more around 70/30. To some that makes me gay, I often identify as gay being that I'm in a long term relationship with someone I love of the same sex. It doesn't really matter anymore I'm off the market as it were. Though I do find myself attracted to a select type of woman from time to time.

 

I wouldn't worry about nailing down your percentage of gayness down to an exact number. You don't have to categorize yourself so strictly. So if you are with a woman then you will need to say you're gay because in the past you have been with men. If you want to say you're straight when you're with a woman then that's on you. Honesty and disclosure in a relationship is what matters most so however you describe yourself will effect your partner. If you don't fully disclose that you're bisexual (by being gay in the past) then you may come off to your partner as untruthful. Thats why saying bisexual makes it easy.

 

Well, I'm honest with my partner. And we'll always be. But for all intents and purposes I am gay and identify thusly. If something happens and we aren't together any more than I'll consider it.

 

Why?

If the gays and libs have taught us anything.... it's that gender is fluid.

Why can't your SO be whichever you're in the mood for?


Voila! Monogamous bisexuality.

You're welcome.

 

Do you know what monogamous means? It means with only one person. And one person can't be both sexes.

 

Does it seem that the anti-gay collation has become more sarcastic and vapid since the oberfell decision?
Have they just given up and started rampant trolling? Very few of them seem to have even the slightest desire for rational thought or discussion. It's just a compilation of one liners, whining, insults and manipulation.

Do they feel they are winning support for their views?

 

Perhaps they are angry.

My thoughts are, if you don't want to get married to someone of the same sex, than don't. If you find it sinful and heinous beyond all measure, don't participate.

It isn't like they are being forced to marry someone if the same sex.

 

Can't be both genders?

Good luck telling that to Bruce Jenner....

 

He is both? I'd say he isn't quite either.

 

We've been told by liberals to call him her.

MOD EDIT - Rule 3

 

I call him her, but that didn't make her a woman

 

Oh, you're one of them. Then you already have your answer.

 

Love and attraction is not a matter of choice.

 

That is correct.

 

I just don't care enough about some person's crotch that i will never meet. Why should I?

 

You lose the point of bisexuality. Just because a man or woman that is bisexual is with someone of the opposite sex or same sex, they are still bisexual. To be perfectly honest, most bisexual men I know detest labels period. They do not regard being in a gay or heterosexual relationship, they just regard themselves as being in a relationship.

 

When did you choose to "fit in"? There had to be a magical, defining moment.

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Why are you deflecting? Because you have nothing to add? Okay, gotcha.

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Don't be hard on Micketto. I am trying to understand why she added herself to this thread and has not provided any type of discussion.

 

LMQAO. Really? I have plenty of straight male friends, which they will heavily disagree with your general assessment. Men, however, are sexual, and let's be honest, it really does not take much. Men are men. You blow in their ears and they will jump you like a dead battery in a car.

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More inspiration from Micketto.

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She is sipping the sauce. Don't take her too seriously. Just watch. Friends don't let friends post drunk ramblings...... Apparently, her friends are elsewhere.

 

And to be honest, I would be nervous in this for the fact of attraction. I am not biphobic (if there is such a word). I just would worry that you could sway and find someone of the opposite gender. I can compete with other men, but women, that is different and it is a worry.

 

You are being facetious and glib and extremely disingenuous on this topic. Where the hell do you get off being this way? You are not the expert on sexuality and now you want to act like you have it all figured out, on some grand scheme, and yet, you are so clueless, you will not understand the laws of attraction if it smacked you on the ass.