What do women want?

We cling to stereotypes though, because they often reflect an ingrained cultural perspective.

I watched a vlog about pay inequity from a relatively liberal feminist vlogger and was a bit disappointed to hear them defer to the unpaid work argument. This is the idea that women do all or most of the family upkeep jobs so their spouses can devote more time to their career. The problem with the argument is that it assumes these jobs are somehow set in stone that only women should, or will, do them. My experience is that whoever, man or woman, brings in the largest paycheck and has the best chance to further their career is less responsible for family upkeep than the other. If thats not so, we have another argument altogether, about the iresponsibility of men in general. If it is so, the argument puts the cart before the horse, because we have to go back to why (or if) women are paid less than men. Its an argument that totally depends on cultural sexual stereotyping.

My point is that both feminist and bigots depend on stereotypes to make cohesive arguments. They just work them in different directions.

 

The difference is that feminists work to break the stereotyping and bigots wallow in it...

 

A very good post.

Thank you.

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Well....that does happen.

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Are you kidding me???

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That much is certain.

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Well....speak.

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Really dude?

Really?

AA

 

No....I mean Parabolic Calculus.

As in The Theory of Relativistic Quantum Parabolic Calculus Matrix.

LINK....https://extradimensions.quora.com/The-Theory-of-Relativistic-Quantum-Parabolic-Calculus-Matrix

And this theory has been around a lot longer than that movie.

You are thinking of the Characteristics of a Parabola where to define the characteristics of a Parabola you use the quadratic function being y=f(x) where f(x) = ax2+bx+c.

AA

 

Yeah...Dave most women would prefer being with a man.

AA

 

Hey if I was a woman I would want that too!

AA

 

Just to add I am also proficient in performing Multiversal Polymorphic Quadratic Algebraic Equations...and yeah....that is a type of math...Google it....that lead us to the New Form Calculus and unless you understand the New Form Symbology and Syntax you could not perform the math.

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Well Fox if you don't know now...you will never know.

AA

 

dry toast is actually funner

 

does a man have stuff that women don't - aside from a penis?

 

I'm somewhere in between. I wanted the education (got it), but not the 'career' or big salary or Perfect Home in a Good Part of Town Close to Work. I also don't want or need plenty of opportunities to travel anywhere I choose. I want only to participate in hobbies and sports which are family friendly, and don't compromise my time and focus on my kids. And I never get ripped off by mechanics because I learn as much as I can (about the possible problem) before talking to them ... if you use their jargon they treat you with respect.

 

I'm kinda in agreement. Too much 'cherishing' would be nauseating after a while. Women really have no more need of that kind of thing than men do. Men don't need to be told they're beautiful with sincerity, and neither do we. I would much prefer to be told (with sincerity) that I'm funny, or clever.

 

There are some people who are....very capable.

Whether they are men or women should make no difference.

AA

 

deeper happy doesn't come from being beautiful, or told one is beautiful. the men who told me that I was funny, or intelligent, got much higher marks because they were paying attention to the contents of my head, not the package it came in.

 

exactly. so whatever you want is probably what they want. a reasonable companion. adding too many criteria to "breathing, not insane, and with all limbs" will lead to unhappiness. as kids we imagine someone purpose built with us in mind. adulthood teaches us it doesn't work that way.

 

The best thing a person can hope for is to find someone who can actually tolerate then and love them.

AA

 

that's it exactly. if by tolerate you mean 'not punish you for being you'. because some will stay, but begrudge. again though, these are the tendencies of the inexperienced and the dysfunctional. the mission is to stay away from such units

 

I have very advanced and specific training in how to deal and effect people, groups, populations...etc.

What one person might be another person is not and no matter how much they might debate it common ground will NEVER be found.

The best we can hope for is to tolerate one another.

AA

 

Yes, that is the learned skill. Some learn it in childhood, some not until adulthood. When it's learned late, it's a form of arrested development. So dependent are such people on the idea that a 'perfect partner' exists somewhere, or even that a partner ought to meet some ego-related criteria, that when the actual partners fail to be anything other than perfectly human, they are begrudged. This can come in the Seinfeldian form (an endless string of 'not good enough' failed relationships), or in the passive aggressive long termers who silently hate.

 

<shrug> The thread title is a decent question, never mind that it was posed by a clown; and I decided to address it seriously. You don't wanna go down that road, that's your affair.

 

You tend to throw around the word clown when other members do not agree with you.

AA

 

pfft... I'm a better clown than him... no way is he as funny as I am

 

Wouldn't you want it as a male? (See, it's that ""we are HUMANS first and then we are a sex"" thing...)

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Obviously you don't know either ...

 

...hmmm,...
What about the Instinct for Motherhood...?

 

...so ae you suggesting that the female Anima likes to complain,... and uses that as one way to get men to do things for her...?

 

Ask him of he is Gay,..
That makes a difference in "his" perspective...