What does it mean to truly love someone?

Thing is she was too young to die.

Looks are not as important to me as some people think they are.

Now I was born with a number of genetic gifts....height 6 foot 2 inches....weight...238 lbs of solid muscle....with well above average strength, speed, agility, reflexes, endurance...blah, blah, blah.

And the girls tell me I am very attractive and I got lucky in the intelligence area as well.

But here is the thing.....I attract way too many super hot and shallow types.

Now my 2 fiancees who I really miss were perfect in that they loved me and I loved them and they were both 10 pluses and kind, generous...etc....and I only asked them to marry me because I had turned down many other offers...and YES...I have had 2 different woman ask ME to marry them....but I waited for those 2 girls because they had what I needed.

They had good hearts...good heads....gave good...LOL!!...uhhh...where was I?.....O yeah....they were just good all around and REALLY BAAAAAAAAAAADDD.....in the sack!! LOL!!

That's what a man needs....good girl in the heart....bad girl in the bed!!!

And they can even be bad girls in the heart AS LONG....as both people know what the deal is!!!

But because I attract the super hot shallow types I no longer consider looks as that important.

Good in BED....IMPORTANT!!!

KIND AND LOVING.....IMPORTANT!!!

Knows EXACTLY what to say and do to me and for me which makes my knees weak.....IMPORTANT!!

IN GOOD SHAPE AND HEALTH......IMPORTANT!!

INTELLIGENT.......IMPORTANT!!!

But as far as her looks.....as long as she has all the above and does not have an ea growing out of one of her cheeks....I think I can overlook it!! LOL!!

AA

 

Sometimes ppl meet when they are young, fall in love, and have much in common at that time; but then outgrow each other with different interests and fall out of love. Kids put pressure on the marriage and when they are grown up, the glue which was the kids goes away and each searches for their own identity and what makes them happy in life. Often it doesn't include the other person! They stay friends, have an amicable separation, and then move on...

 

Are you sure that you wernt "too full of yourself?!"

Or maybe you were too active and interested in your activities where they felt left out or 2nd fiddles?

 

I fully admit I have a HUUUUUGE EGO!! LOL!!!

But it is necessary for what I do.

But I can say this....I have NEVER cheated on anyone!!

Now....I have been and still am in an open relationship wit the girls.

But this is agreed upon and that is fine by me.

It's all about respect and love.

AA

 

Maybe you let your intellect get in the way? You said:

"But here is the thing.....I attract way too many super hot and shallow types."

You dont respect them or they 'feel' disrespected..with women feelings are all that counts!!

Here is an interesting link that covers both chemical attraction and behavioural called "The Science of Love"

http://www.youramazingbrain.org/lovesex/sciencelove.htm

Read it and there will be a test on it in the morning..

 

OK...I should probably tell you this.

I was trained and then trained others in PSYOP's.

So I basically know just about everything there is to know about the chemistry and biology.

If I am out on a date I am polite in the extreme.

I do EVERYTHING I can to make the lady feel special and I do all the big and little things.

I NEVER dishonor her by acting like I would rather slice my throat with the butter knife rather than listen to her tell me one more F@#KING Reality TV Show story!!

I open doors....bring flowers.....give her my jacket if she is cold....stand when she is about to get up or stand when she is about to sit down say like if she went to and back from the bathroom.

I LISTEN TO HER.....and let me tell you I have had to listen to some of the most DUMB AS A BAG OF ROCKS S#!# that you could EVER imagine but to this day not a single one of them knows I was within 20 seconds of pouring my own Extra Dry Vodka Martini straight up with 3 olives and a drop of Vermouth put in the chilled glass....swirl it around....THROW IT OUT!!.........20 seconds from pouring my drink over my head and lighting a match to self emulate myself rather than have to listen to why OPRA IS THE MOST IMPORTANT HUMAN BEING WHO EVER LIVED!!

NONE of them ever knew this....nor will they ever know.

AA

 

It's better to have loved and lost.

Much better

Not really a joke if you go by some of the definitions I see here

Really, why do people make things so ****** involved and complicated. Love isn't something you can help in any case. Olivia Newton-John said it far better than I ever could

https://search.yahoo.com/yhs/search...NpQRy78o&param2=NaRcLGBdMax8&type=xy_bda4576f

 

Right now I am thinking more along the lines of J. Giles.

AA

 

Maybe you are not as good about hiding your feelings as you think you are (unconcious eye rolls, etc)

Or

Too good at hiding your true feelings so as not to connect with the other person's soul (inner person,)

 

I am not hiding anything anymore.

My OPSEC restriction has been lifted.

I am officially...Retired.

YAY!!

AA

 

I'd much rather be alone than with someone I have nothing in common with, nor curiosity about the wider world; I've found that those who aren't curious are boring. Which brings us back to 'compatibility'?

 

Some good points there - it sort of makes you realise how slim the chance is of meeting your life partner/soul mate. It must be a chance in many millions. Trouble is that it makes it so much worse when you lose that 'one and only'.

 

lol. Love 'em, but don't marry 'em?

 

Well...yeah...obviously.

AA

- - - Updated - - -

Well.....that doesn't mean one's wife can't do a little shopping for pom poms and skirts!! LOL!!

AA

 

Not me! I do need intellectual stimulation but I can find it online, which is why I join discussions forums. I only have one true friend who lives 80 miles away, and I'd rather have him than a thousand acquaintances.

 

That's essentially my philosophy. I've befriended a couple of individuals over the years only to realise it was a mistake; trouble is that it's easier to befriend someone than to get rid of them if it doesn't work out, or they're 'clingy'. I don't want to be lumbered with someone else's problems.

 

Ah 'first love' eh? There's nothing like it. Reminds me of a film called P'tang-yang-kipper-bang, and it's all there. Now that I've reminded myself of it I'll watch it again one evening soon.

- - - Updated - - -

 

You have no idea what he puts me through!! LOL!!

Middle of the night my doorbell rings....it's the cat!!

I am sleeping and I feel this tightness and weight in my chest like I am having a heat attack....it's my cat sitting on my chest!! LOL!!

He wipes out my super expensive bottle of scotch going after a bug!!
And if I am eating Chinese food...the wings....he will come up to me and just put his paw on my thigh and if I don't give him some he digs his claws into me until I do!!

Yep...little SOB has got me trained!! LOL!!

AA