1. You have no idea what is going on in Mrs. M's head. Do not profess to understand what goes through a womans mind when you open saying you don't understand women. 2. It doesn't matter what is going on in Mrs. M's head. It doesn't matter a lick what SHE is like. It matters who YOU are... and what you would do in any circumstance with Mrs. M. 3. It does not matter if Julie is sharp and you are dull about signals... Julie does not trust YOU. THAT is the core issue, and one that will haunt your entire existence as a couple. She needs to get over that, or you need to start getting over her. The sooner the better. Women are strange animals. I figured out something very early in life. Women are more likely to (*)(*)(*)(*) you because they think another girl wants to (*)(*)(*)(*) you, than because you are "neat". It is a bizarre self validation they go through. It gets particularly volitile across decades of age differences. It is a nuanced game, and it has (*)(*)(*)(*) all to do with you. It is a look shared between them... it is not a "feeling", it is a dance... and men are typically completely unaware it is going on. This revelation got me playing a very different game, very early on, and worked to my advantage in ways you just don't bother talking about... because its the internet.
Thanks for those words of wisdom, did not know women will have relations with a man if they think another women wants relations with that same man but it is definitely something to keep in mind it does make sense because there is a new popular song out on this very subject where the woman sings entirely that
Since when has that been confined to women? Men kill each other in competition for anything. For females, football, work, anything. Their whole raison d'etre is competing, trying to win at whatever is put in front of them, whether it has a point or not. If there is a woman in the room they all compete for attention, it's ridiculous. Like dogs or something.
I think your girlfriend should trust you. If she is worried this woman is coming onto you and doesn't want you to see her, then I don't think she trusts you. You have to make a decision - either keep seeing your girlfriend or continue to see your neighbor friend - your girlfriend cannot tell you who you can and cannot socialise with.
Good advice. My GF would not say anything to me because she understands that people will do what they want. If I were to do the same thing, she is strong enough and secure enough to just walk away but only if I proved myself to untrustworthy.
What all this (*)(*)(*)(*) tells me is that you have figured out nothing at all. What is it with this board and hasty generalizations? Your experience with women (regardless if you're a man-slut or not), is very minute.
Well. I didn't believe it at first...but you ARE Naive. and by the way. With your explanation, kiss julie good bye.
To be fair, he said what many men would say to a young guy in that situation if it were real (sorry Leo, I'm not convinced it is real ). I have heard one guy in particular saying what he said in different words. I think he actually said "Serve your apprenticeship, but make sure you don't sign up for anything"....
Probably not a good idea to constantly be going over there; you might in the future bring Julie with you each time you go over to fix her computer. Might also be a sign that Julie is insecure in the relationship. Food for thought dude.
Since when can't a gf tell her bf how she feels about someone or something? If they have good communication b/t them, she should be able to w/o being accused of being 'insecure' or not trusting him. I never read anything where Julie is telling him who and who not to socialize with - it's just this one particular woman..... Julie is seeing something and IF she's right - and most women are - they can see this subtle flirting in a heartbeat, whereas the guy is brain dead to it - then Leo needs to pay attention to what his gf is saying if he wants to, if he really cares about her... and no, a guy doesn't have to want to marry his gf to pay attention to her feelings about something........
It's just amazing, really, but without fun threads like this, on this forum would be really boring. lol Dude you don't think a lot about your problem, let the events develop in their own way. Everything has its time. Good luck
You really need to get out more often. Your GF is prob right. The woman wants some action from you. I suspect she will eventually get her way with you too. lol
It often happens.... according to the guy, those dang old hormones got in the way. Leo, exactly how old are you?
agreed i tend to lust more for a woman who is with what appears to be an alpha male than one that is not being pursued at all it surely does go both ways... this could work to leo's advantage, if she thinks he's being preyed upon by an ex german fashion model or 'alpha female' her feelings for him will grow stronger.
That's a bit disappointing to me, Viv (especially coming from you). If I said I had all these hot chicls after me, I could understand why you might think I am making it up. But in this situation, nobody is after me, and I see no indication that Mrs M would ever dream of such a thing. Like she is a successful, attractive, middle aged lady who has been married before, and a broke university student is the last person she would be looking for. I am really sorry I asked about this here, because nearly everyone has misinterpreted this as a sort of perverted 'cougar' thing. I am not the hero of this situation, I am just concerned about Julie's misinterpretation of it. In fact, there is no 'situation' as such, but I am disappointed that anyone would think I am making all this up - to what purpose? Believe me, I would come out of this as some sort of heroic figure were it my fantasy.
I'll let you fill in the caption: 1. A woman knows when another woman is flirting. A man usually does not. 2. Your GF is testing you. Go to tea without your GF and you fail. 3. You admit that you're interested in the cougar but you think your GF is paranoid. 4. fill in the caption
I am 18, Hummingbird, and as such, a legal adult, but my age has nothing to do with this situation. I am not after Mrs M (why should I be - I have a beautiful, intelligent, and sexy GF,) nor do I think she (Mrs M) is after me. I have seen no behaviour on her part which would lead me to believe she is hitting on me in any way, which is why I am puzzled by Julie's allegations. Like I said in another post, I am sorry I asked about this here, as many people have misinterpreted the situation, some even to the point of thinking I am making it all up.
