Why Men Don’t Want To Get Married

The divorce courts are the No. 1 deterrent to marriage.

 

Of course why start something when it can be easily ended,
and a reminder, not only men could file divorce women as well.

 

I'm not asexual, but I'm trying my hardest to be. Marriage and sex just aren't worth the time and energy that people put into them.

 

I am never getting married. There is no way I am going to lose a penny to anyone. Even if the financial part can get taken care of, getting married and having children seems like a waste of time. I plan on getting rich not married.

 

You, Sir, are an evolutionary dead end. How are you going to perpetuate your snarling, lupine genes into the next generation without procreating? It's just going to be sheep and rabbits without the wolves, and we all know how boring that can be!

 

Wtf?

Marriage (legal) isn't, sex is worth every penny.

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Good man, I've come to that conclusion myself. Rather be financially sound and unmarried, than poor and broke with kids and a spouce to support.

Maybe if the majority of couples with kids i've known didn't seem angry and miserable with each other 90% of the time, I'd be less biased.

 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

Basically, I'm trying my hardest to avoid attraction and by extension, sex. I spent a good portion of my life worrying about what women thought of me, and I realized one day that I wasn't going to do that anymore. I'm happier being single, anyway.

 

Well if you care what women think of you that's part of the problem.

 

But being attracted to someone and pursuing that person is a non-verbal way of caring what they think.

 

If my posts are ever approved, you'll see me telling you that after entering into a steady relationship, this anxiety one experiences regarding the judgements of others ceases to exist.

 

Ha ha. Yeah, seriously, when I see one of those (*)(*)(*)(*)(*)(*)bags at the mall with the flowery diaper bag I just want to puke. Suckers.

 

Many men are just jaded yes, but I think you are conflating contempt for marriage with contempt for women. I love women. I don't know what some of these guy's problems are (except for the dude that got stabbed, he gets a pass), but I think women are great. I just don't want to be legally bound to one of them. There is absolutely no benefit to me whatsoever. Why not just hang out for a while and keep all of my stuff if it turns sour?

As for hanging up the hat, I thought you said you enjoy your single life. What's with the defeatism?

 

If some of the things that have been put forward in this discussion are true, one would do well to consider very carefully before dining at that table. If one feels compelled to partake, he would be well advised to devise an exit plan in advance.

 

Now you are young and everything is easy, after few years you will become a bitter, cynical man who will have trouble to care for anything outside himself. Women will come and go but you will not remember their names and it will never feel like a relationship. Relations are not worth the trouble but the impact they have to your personality is enormous so try to spend a couple of months every year engaging a woman or two .

 

Clearly, a lot of American men are in agreement with precision. (Post #140)

 

Better than being an old man in a hospital with no visitors or family because he chose a life to himself instead of a lifelong relationship. Married men have more wealth and get more sex than single men.

If that was the case I agree. Most married men I know are pretty happy. I know I am.

 

But it works better. Kids with two involved parents are on the average superior to single parent kids on almost any measure. Parenting is hard to do. I can't imagine doing it single-handed.

 

The ear hair comes whether you are married or not.......

 

Its human nature (and actually animal nature) to want to have kids. Just basic biology.

 

Not if you trim or shave it.

 

Married men on average are richer and have higher standards of living than single men, and much higher than divorced men.

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It's still there.

 

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I am a fit and attractive male who has never had a problem with drawing the attention (and maintaining it) of quality females, am of above average intelligence with a well tuned personality and thus do not carry the baggage other males might.

 

Yes, I currently enjoy being single. I am too busy right now to put the time into a relationship that it would deserve. It would be all about me and my schedule and that wouldnt be fair.

BUT, I hope to find a partner at some point in my life. I would like to find that guy who compliments me and vice versa.

By the sounds of some of the posts, by the time I am ready for that the men my age will be too jaded by past relationships lol.

 

So....why not just enter into a prenup before marriage? I know its like preparing for disaster, but why not iron out all the divorce details before you marry? IF we get divorced, I want *this* amount of time wiht the kids, I will give you *this* amount for child support based on projected earning, if I dont have a job, *this* is what we will do... no, I will not pay alominy.. our stuff is split equally, if we cant agre on who gets what, we sell everything and split the profits..etc.

Would THAT make men more agreeable to marriage?

(yes, I know that the logistics are alot harder than I said above but let's play with me)

 

It's the internet, we're all fit, attractive and intelligent.