Do you believe that man and a woman can be "just friends" or will there always - sooner or later - lead to the development of "sparks" and/or sexual attraction felt by at least one of the two? I can only speak for myself , but I do not really believe it is possible for a man and a woman to be "just friends", infact the only reason a guy would ever befriend a girl in the first place would be if he is interested in her. I can only speak from a man's perspective of course and I feel like a man who has too msny female friends is either closet-gay or a complete and utter romantic failure. If men and women could be "just friends" partners would not be suspicious of their lover for having friend(s) of the opposite sex, right? At most, men and women be "aquintances", but deep and real friendship is something I cannot see develop between the two. There probably are a few psychological studies on this matter, but I am too lazy to look them up and for once I would like a discussion more down-to-earth, personal, emotional and speculative. What's your take? Edit: Ignore typo in poll. Edit 2: Probably the wrong sub-forums too, but whatevs.
I have enjoyed female friends for most of my life without sexual interest. It is important in some cases to "Explain" delicately that if she wishes to maintain the friendship boundaries must remain in place. Only once was it necessary to end a friendship when she tried to cross that line.
OP, didn't vote. I can't speak for others. For me, it would be hard. I could try, but I would be wanting to squeeze and suckle her breasts and get at the rest of her delectable all the time I was with her. If a guy was queer, then they can be successful at a 'friends only' relationship. Now this doesn't mean I can't do it, but it means I would be irritated the whole time I was with her.
I have never tried getting close to a girl unless I have liked her. Why would I? Sure there are people you get to know at school and work, but these do not really count as friends but are more of the "hi, how is life?" kind of relationship. Even when it cones to the girlfriends of my friends, I see no reason establishing close bounds with them at all. Obviously not everyone finds everyone attractive, if both parties find each other ugly, they could be friends. I guess. But I still feel they will never be able to build the same kind of bound as same-sex friends would do. What can a male do with a female friend anyways? Talk about boobs and drink beer? Lols. And what can a female do with a male friend? Go shopping and talk crap about her friends? Lols. It just can't work! If you say this was a too stereotypic representation of the sexes, you are a liar. This is exactly how they are, you are just a reality-denialist. - - - Updated - - - This is what I mean, eventually one of you is going to "cross the line".
Yeah, but she has to feel the same about you. Otherwise she might fall in love with you and that will ruin your friendship and make it all awkward.
If a man is either married or in an intimate relationship with a woman then, he will be taking a big chance with his relationship by having women friends especially if they are not friends with his woman.
Nope, there are many type of women, there the friend material, wife material, and (tooooooooooooot) material. every encounter with them are quite different.
Yup I agree, sometimes they really define how is it to be cumbersome, it's like the British with the EU right now.
I have a very good female friend. I am now good friends with her fiance and her my wife. Im wondering why others have an issue. If youre just trying to bang her then thats most likely the problem as that means you arent really friends. Maybe we should define the term.
Depends on the man. For example I was friends with all the prostitutes in the local red light district where i used to live and it never crossed my mind to bed them, I'd just chat with them on street corners on my way to and from the grocers after dark, and buy them little snacks and drinks and stuff, they were like daughters to me. (cue violins..sniffle) I overheard the girl friend of one of them ask her "Is he a client?" "No" she replied, "a friend". Once I gave one my bed for the night when she came knocking my door in tears gone midnight after a client had beat her up. "You can get in with me if you like" she said in a sweet little shy voice, but I made some excuse not to, and slept on the couch, boy am i weird.. PS- with hindsight I regret not getting in with her and cuddling her til she fell asleep because she needed human love and warmth, so in that respect I let her down (fade out violins) It's a funny old world, one minute I'm an ordinary Joe minding my own business and the next I'm a guardian angel..
Haven't you ever seen the show "Friends"? I suppose you make a kind of valid point though. If you like someone enough to be friends in the first place, that could easily move into the next level. I don't think it's really impossible for men and women to be just friends and never have sexual thoughts about one another, but it's probably kind of rare. I blame you men, of course. - - - Updated - - - It's easier to be "just friends" online, I think though. Probably because there is no physical contact. You never see each other in person, so that makes things a bit more "impersonal" IMO. - - - Updated - - - What do you think you are Don Juan or something?
