Dating in the Internet era - Good or bad?

In the contemporary era of loose sexual norms and normalisation of hookup-culture, the dating scene looks much different for contemporary youth than it did for the "Pre-Internet-Generations" - But, is it all really that bad?

Although I am generally a neophilliac and positive to new technologies, my Conservative mindset has made me hostile to the outcomes that online-dating is bringing; in an era of breakdown of the nuclear family, promiscuity and a record-high of single-households, it has appeared to me that "dating apps" are only serving to further proceed this negative trend, making both men and women unhappier as well as lonier.

However, there is empirical evidence showing that relationships that start online transitions into marriage quicker than those that start offline and that it actually serves to increase marriage rates and that it also decreases the racial bias that exists on the dating scene.

What are your thoughts - is onlie-dating good or bad? Does it do society good or is it toxic? Can dating-apps help contemporary youth to enter serious relationships or will it mostly be used for "hook-ups" since the social norms of today are more focused on "hooking up" than it is on commitment? Any other additional thoughts?

Despite the empirical evidence presented in this post, my view remains negative, but I am curious to hear your takes on the matter.

 

Here's my view on it.....American women "I don't need a man....if a man approaches me he must be a pervert". Same American women "I like swiping through men like a meat market.....maybe an occasional dick pic too".

I don't waste my time on American women.

 

I don't think I like it. I've been happily married for 28 years and don't want to find out. Dating histories can be researched with a little social media knowledge. Every stupid thing you do or say is being recorded or discussed. No thanks.

 

That is a defeatist attitude with no real ground in reality. There is no reason to be so hostile and suspicious of women - If you are acting like a man they will respect you.

 

You can have them, be my guest. Experience = Reality. Don't need the headache.

 

32 yrs married.

if I end up alone somehow I'm going to get a dog for companionship, maybe upgrade the porn collection.

problem solved.

 

It does indeed subvert and inflate the dating market and I do think it is making it much worse especially for women and for men who are not doucebags as women will be more cautious, rejecting even nice men and it might make men more insecure and avoidant.

I do not think online-dating has changed things to the positive at all, but - at the end of the day - it all comes down to the individual and the ones who really want a relationship can still find it. Tinder is an app almost entirely centred around "hooking up", but there are also other apps more focused on serious dating with interesting concepts such as matching scores on personality tests and whatnots. But, real love can never be fostered from behind two screens.

 

Being an asocial 'omega' type, who paradoxically would like to have a family, the internet is kinda my best option. Though its still not a very good one. In 5 years, I went out with one woman I met online, and it turned out she was married.

To be fair, though, the woman I found 'offline' turned out be, in my unprofessional opinion, Border Personality Disordered, which is far worse than already married. But I got a stepdaughter out of it, so...

 

I am not even American, but I have heard that same line from MGTOW:s and Manosphere-members in my country; you guys seems to have genuine contempt and hate for "domestic women" for no real reason at all and I hate to be the one to use this word, but much of the narraitve within those circles is pure misogyny.

 

Ouch.

I think being introverted and "anxious" has always been a weakness on the dating-market, but I think it is even worse today since there is no longer such thing as community and people rarely meet the opposite gender at other environments than clubs and clubs are not very friendly places to be if one is introverted and "anxious".

 

I use online dating platforms. I prefer it because I just believe that it is bad policy to date someone in your professional life (also, I know that the chances of me running into someone from work online are low). I also prefer to be with people who are different than I am. Most people tend to only want to date someone who are similar and I just find that boring (although I can see why people wouldn't want to be with others when there is nothing in common).

I believe if you are open-minded, you won't have any issues.

 

What do you mean by 'anxious'?

 

That's right dear, it's ALWAYS the man's fault. Since you're not American, I think I know better than you. You asked an opinion and you got it. If you don't like it, don't ask.

 

I put it in quotations to emphasise my awareness that it is not the correct term and that I am not using it in a literal sense. But, what I was referring was a combinatiion of the traits shyness, insecurity and cautiousness.

 

We are having a discussion, bruv. I simply disagree with you. No need to be salty, hun.

 

My first wife passed away after 49 years of marriage. My new wife and I will be married ten years next year. She said she doesn't want me online dating so I guess that's that.

 

Ah. Im not really any of those. But I am really boring...

 

Most dating apps out there are mostly for hookups. I don't think there is anyone out there looking to meet their future spouse or anything. These days, if you want to find others to escape your comfort-zone, you are participate in a meet up. They're not really dating-oriented, but you don't have to worry about being shy as much.

 

I am all of those and that too. Although I am talkative, I do not like talking to complete strangers.

 

I have a friend who was married for 13 years.
They have 2 kids.
So, this year, in August she left him in a pretty effed up way. I honestly think she was his first woman because me and my buddies used to make fun of him when he was in early 20s and was extremely awkward in front of girls. At first he was telling me he will never find another woman, to which I was telling him that women when they hit 30 are hornier than man (my own wife’s best girlfriend literally tried to seduce me about 4 years ago). So, in the last month he started to tell me that he is surprised at how much attention he gets from women and he already got laid quite a few times and a few even offered to do threesomes. And this is the same generation from when a girl would never call you back in 2005!

If you are pretty young and get frustrated with women - trust me, in about 10 years from now roles will reverse and women start to chase men more aggressively then man chase women. Again, I am in my mid-30s and I find myself often more uncomfortable with women getting too close to me than the other way around.

 

Not surprising. I'm bi and a good portion of the matches I get are from married couples who always seem to want another female to be their third wheel. Most people online are really just looking for a good time but there are diamonds in the rough, just like in real life.

 

Which online dating site do all the emotionally independent, anti-romance, 'quiet-type' women use?

lol

 

The only problem is there are no longer any free dating sites, although some claim they are free, when in fact if you try to communicate with someone you find out you cannot unless you buy a subscription.

 

What happened to the good old fashioned meeting people in person? You don’t need internet to meet someone!

 

Nothing wrong with it, my theory is women who are going out want to be with their friends and decompress. Some rando starting something is a stress. I'm actually really good in a crowd w/ people but can't seem to make the pivot.