People talk a lot about the linguistic things in 1984 but they don't talk very much about the social things. One of the policies promoted by Big Brother in the novel is to teach women to push their husbands away. If you think about it, this is basically what modern feminist and women's rights movements do. Women spend countless hours reading magazines about how they can do things to make men like them, but if a man wants to like a woman, he will flat out tell her what she can do to make herself more appealing. These usually aren't weird things; longer hair, some minor makeup changes and maybe some small things to do in bed. Women spend countless hours reading magazines on how to do this but if a man actually tells them what to do, which is guaranteed to be more effective than reading magazines about what men supposedly want, women are trained to find this "triggering" and to rebel against it. The result this has is that they push their husbands (or increasingly, boyfriends) away. Then the men get attacked for not wanting to commit, even though the women were told explicitly what small things they could do to make themselves more appealing and they refused. It's a sad state of affairs, people could get along so much better if we stopped listening to social deviants just because they presented themselves as victims, a status they only acquired in the first place because of how dysfunctional the behaviors they promote are.
