I thought it would be interesting to see if there are other people who have tips, insights, funny stories about what to say to people under certain circumstances. I went to a funeral visitation tonight for a relative of a relative who was not my relative. I stood in the line and listened to the people in front of me say the same old things "I'm sorry for your loss"/"They are in a better place" etc. Having been on the other side of these things, I just told them "This *effing* sucks and you are going to find that it is the little and/or annoying things that you will miss the most". The person I told that to really perked up and was like "Oh hell yeah. That is right. This does *effing suck* and the things I am missing already are the stupid things". "I am sorry for your loss" was the most worthless thing somebody said to me. I would rather someone had said "This really *effing* sucks for you." Anybody have any other insights, stories along these lines. Like I never know what is the right thing to say to a pregnant woman or one who just had a baby. "Congratulation" just doesn't seem very interesting.
I wouldn't know. one of my many character flaws is I suck at at small talk. Msotly because at the back of my head I'm always wondering if the person I'm talking to will be some oversensitive pricvk that gets mad at the drop of the hat will get angry at me for having a difference of opinion than him. I've really had enough of those kinds of reactions. It's completely asinine to be like that.
Absolutely agree. Some other of my favourites are "Life goes on" or "You'll get better". Not the type of thing you want to hear in that situation.
