50%of husbands have hit their spouse at least once.

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  1. Traditionalist

    Traditionalist New Member

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    Do you believe this statement? I came across it when I was reading an article that was about myths and facts regarding domestic violence. Now before the men go getting all defensive, I am not a man hater and not of the belief ''once a hitter always a hitter'', BUT it is not hard to believe. My guess is that if a couple has been married 10 plus yrs, but got married really young, that the ''one time'', could have been when they were still young ''minded'' and or wet behind the ears.

    Do you think 50% is an exxageration or right on the mark?
     
  2. PatrickT

    PatrickT Well-Known Member

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    I think it's an exaggeration. Remember the BS about domestic violence shooting up on Super Bowl Sunday?
     
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    Panzerkampfwagen New Member

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    A higher % of women hit their partners.
     
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    THAT, I'd agree with.
     
  5. perdidochas

    perdidochas Well-Known Member

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    An exaggeration. I would bet, however, that more wives have hit their husbands than vice versa.
     
  6. Smartmouthwoman

    Smartmouthwoman Bless your heart Past Donor

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    Probably no coincidence the divorce rate is about 50%.

    Civilized people don't 'hit' anybody.
     
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    perdidochas Well-Known Member

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    Divorce rate is about 40% for first and second marriages. It's the third, fourth, fifth marriages that skew the stats.
     
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    HonestJoe Well-Known Member Past Donor

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    It could be too low for all I know. It's possible, given all the variations in how the figure is reached.

    A more relevant question is why, given you have a statement of a statistic, you're asking people to guess whether it's right rather than look in to how it was calculated in the first place?

    After all, 76.8% of all statistics are made up on the spot.
     
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    Sadistic-Savior New Member Past Donor

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    LOL! I read that as "50% of husbands have to hit their spouse at least once."

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    Sadistic-Savior New Member Past Donor

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    I definitely think thats accurate. If you include women hitting men as well.
     
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    There are marriages where the man is mentally unstable or sick and beats the woman because he can and with no provacation from the woman needed.

    But...I've seen enough couples where the woman is the initiater... throws things, hits, slaps and then threatens to call the police when the man reacts or even holds her back. I tend to think that scenerio might be more common.
     
  12. spt5

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    What if this is not a gender question? People who are not very secure in themselves, allow their partners to hit them, if they think they remain loved and needed after that. For these "victims", it is the illusion of it that is the most important thing in their lives.

    With that said, men sustain no demage when hit by women, until the woman starts cutting them. So this playing field is uneven.

    I think the victims of domestic violance should be considered perpetrators too, because they insert their children into the pattern for continuation in the next generation. Once that happens, there is no way to save the victim/perpetrator.
     
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    Just remember, all marriages end in death or divorce.
     
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    So being bashed in the head by a heavy pot won't hurt a man? GOOD TO KNOW!
     
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    50%? I think this shows how admirable the restraint is among husbands. As a husband, who knows lots of other husbands, I would say approximately 100% of wives have deserved a good smack at least once.

    :-D
     
  16. spt5

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    Woops, that didn't happen to me yet, kicks with high heels, slaps, and the likes thereof only. Not anything that can be called an assault, or could wind me up, I think. I think a woman is only dangerous if she has something to cut with in her hand. I may be wrong though. I can't imagine being afraid for my safety under the attack of a woman. (Maybe because of her shape or face or long hair.)
     
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    There are some guys my wife has put in the hospital that would disagree with you! Offhand, I can think of two...one with a broken sternum, one with ruptured testicles and a fractured pelvis.
     
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    Actually, one of the simpler ways for a woman to dispose of a dirtbag husband is a simple loop of piano wire or heavy fishing line. A twelve-year-old could kill an NFL linebacker that way.
     
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    It would depend if the comment was referring to globally or of a particular nation. If just an Arab nation, would probably be higher for instance. Globally I wouldn't doubt it, maybe higher as well. Western Europe, America, Canada, or Australia, I'd say extremely lower.
     
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    I realized my limitations at the age of 25.
     
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    I wonder if certain groups commit more slappings ?
     
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    At first I thought it was an exaggeration until I realized I was only thinking about my own country where such activity is frowned upon. When you consider that there are barbarc cultures that still treat women as second-class citizens, it's possible that 50% of the men in the world have hit a woman at least once.
     
  23. Lethal

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    I bet 50% of women have hit their husbands too. Goes both ways.

    Oh, and if you are appauled by the 50% number, go to Greece.
     
  24. Traditionalist

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    I've had quite a few friends who've been hit (some beyond hitting) over the yrs, two of them stayed with me for a couple days. One hit his wife in the head right in front of me, then another time we were on the phone and he kicked her in the leg for something she said. When we talked about him continuing anger mgmt (the Air force made him) all he would say is that he ''wasn't like those men b/c he doesn't beat his wife to a pulp''. She finally divorced him. She was one of the smart ones and got out early.
     
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    ^This is true.
     

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