How much does religion and politics play in who you date or marry?

My wife has two university degrees plus a Masters Degree. Also several high diplomas. Her salary is well into the six figure bracket. I could say she's one of the most intelligent people I know and just plain smart. She loves what she calls 'trash TV', she also does Facebook and is almost addicted to home renovation shows. These are her timeout, where she can switch off from her very responsible job.

Getting back to AboveAlpha's, my wife and I come from families where religion has no bearing of our lives, we are both totally non-religious and for us, God and gods don't exist. Politically, we both lean the same way, to the left on important issues like health, education and the environment. Fiscally we lean more to the right. We have accrued a fair bit of wealth through hard work and making good decisions. Where my wife gives more head space than I are women's issues. I'd rather ride my motorbike

 

do you have kids?

 

Well...I agree!

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Your a lucky man my friend!!

AA

 

Two daughters and two grandchildren.

 

so you had three girls and yourself in your house while you were raising kids.

 

Personally religion and politics is just something we agree to disagree about. Our relationship transcends that kind of stuff.

 

The dogs we had were also female. Grandchildren are boys.

 

The smarter the woman, the better in bed.

 

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My door swings both ways.

 

you deserve a medal. my wife is the only female in this house and thats enough. sheesh you must have had fun during those teenage years LOL.

I admit a lot of it is me. I am not a real sensitive person when it comes to mundane BS and have very little genuine tolerance for it. i think life has made me a little numb to it all. I am pretty good at acting like I care though but its more an exercise in futility so she doesnt get crazy. it benefits all of us and i consider it taking as hit for my two sons.

 

Not really. You learn how to compromise and back down when you know there's no chance in winning an argument. You also need to find your own space for a bit of solitude. Mine is in the shed tinkering with European motorbikes.

99% of the time my wife and I are on the same page. We'll argue about the little things in life but always seem to pull in the same direction with the big things. The big decisions have always paid dividends for us.

 

sheesh... now i question your honesty. Everyone knows the drunker they are the better they are in the sack. intelligence has about zero impact on how they are in bed.

actually i take that back... if you want to have some real fun... when i was 22 sleeping with a 40 year old and that was probably the most fun i had. yeah she was real religious alright .... kept saying oh god LOL. that was about the extent of our relationship. She was kind of crazy too.

 

yeah your married LOL. space is important. every man needs a cave.

 

Most women I've had are a good deal more conservative and religious than me, at least as far as I've known. It's never seemed to make much difference. I doubt very much that I could get along with a Nazi or a Dominionist but as we don't move in the same circles anyway I don't think I'll ever have the chance. (Besides, I hate elaborate tattoos)

With women I try to discuss food, fashion and art rather than politics and religion anyway. Politics is inherently contentious, religion is the same and can also quickly become depressing.

 

No matter how hot or funny she is, he has to live with her. Differing views on religion and politics can make for a tense life. My wife shares my religious preference and most of my politics. It would be harder to live with her if it were otherwise. I never let the above effect who I was dating, but I've only proposed/been married once, and in that case, we were compatible. A lot of it depends on how important these things are to both spouses.

 

My wife, like me, is a devout Catholic and a fairly conservative Republican. That said, there are still things we disagree with each other on, they just don't happen to be the most contentious things--like religion and politics. There is a reason why polite conversation should avoid those topics.

 

IMO push really comes to shove if you realize your SJW spouse intends to marry your daughter off to a person of a different race and culture based solely on their ideals rather than the practical realities of such a situation.

Or if your knee-jerk reactionary spouse refuses to assist your child with college expenses because it would interfere with their retirement savings plan.

 

Absolutely!!!

Smart women know exactly what it takes to make a man go crazy in the sack.

The hottest sex is of the mind.

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LOL!!

OK Pax...lol.....you are going to have to explain this one to me in a bit more detail!! LOL!!!

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Yeah....I guess I agree.

But Dude....she was HOT!!

LOL!!

AA

 

A lot. After all I don't want to spend the rest of my life arguing with my future spouse and the only thing going for her is she looks pretty. She'll get old and wrinkled eventually.

 

Some things we agree, some things we disagree but we don't let politics or religion get in between. Now could i marry a woman who thinks like Hillary? No , it would never work. But at the same time I couldn't marry a woman who thinks like Ann Coulture either.

 

Well I am able to agree to disagree.

I really don't care what religion my girl is as long as she is not constantly trying to ram her beliefs down my throat.

After all....ramming down throats is my job.

AA

 

With me, none at all. I married a gal from Thailand when I was stationed there and 47 years latter, we are still happily married.

 

Mostly Jews. Politics didn't matter too much, since I didn't care about it when I was dating, unless she was extreme. Marriage had to be Jewish. I got what I wanted😃. Wife leans a bit left while I lean right. Share in the important things even if we cancel each other out in most elections. Hehe


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You know I have dated quite a few active feminists but they have NEVER tried to force their ideology upon me.

Then again I have no issue with feminism.

But even the most hardcore Feminazi would have a very hard time acting angry and self righteous with me.

I guess it's tough for such women to complain to a guy like me.

I live in Massachusetts home to some of the very best colleges and universities on planet Earth and there is an Ultra-Strong Feminist Movement in the area near my home such as in Amherst and Northampton as schools like Smith College, Mt. Holyoke College, Amherst College.....etc....all Ivy League schools with many female students who are very strong into feminism.

There is a few bar/restaurants that I go to in Northampton and Amherst where many female Grad Students and Professors go to and a few times I have had run in's with them as they take one look at me and immediately misjudge me.

In such a bar/restaurant in Northhampton right next to Smith College I was at the bar and as I knew the pretty female bartender who likes me because I am always polite and I tip her VERY well....I asked her to put on the Boston Bruins vs. Montreal Canadians game as I am a big Bruins fan.

I was eating by myself near the end of the bar and the bartender put the game on for me and these 4 women 3 of which were Grad Students and 1 Professor.....all young.....and they were pretty but they dressed very....well like Janeane Garofalo with the square glasses and the drab clothing.

The moment the bartender put the Bruins game on for me they turned and gave me the look of death.

They misjudged me.

All they saw was a 6 foot 2 inch 238 lbs Cro-Magnon who was....."Gasp*"......God forbid....WATCHING HOCKEY!

LOL!!

They made a few nasty comments that they made sure I heard....but I really didn't care and then one of them asked her girlfriend a question that was specific if I was even capable of anything beyond basic breathing.

I understand that many intellectual women like this might have had a hard time in school and perhaps as they were studying hard they did not pay much attention to their personal looks...etc....and they took one look at me and I probably reminded them of say the Captain of the Football Team in High School who they probably had a secret crush on but had never even noticed them or perhaps laughed in their face after they might have asked that guy if he was interested in going out with them...etc.....but I was NEVER like that when I was in school.....but I have the looks and the body that reminded them of their past shame or embarrassment.

So....I told the nice female bartender to buy them a round on me and one of the Grad Students yelled to me from the other side of the bar which was empty as it was snowing outside....'That's OK....we don't need someone like YOU buying us drinks."

Now...if they had just said...."No thank you."...I could have dealt with that but no....they had to make it personal and insulting.

And as soon as that girl said that the female bartender actually made an audible sucking in of air sound as she knows me and she KNEW....I can deal with just about anything but I will NOT allow anyone to be disrespectful and impolite without cause.

So I walked over to them and I do so while giving them....The Stare....which is quite intimidating as I am a very imposing figure and I said to all of them pretty much what I just detailed out above about being disrespectful and impolite for no reason.

I then said to them...."You know....I wanted to buy you a round to make up for putting on the Hockey Game as it was obvious you girls were displeased that it was on and I offered to to this out of politeness as being polite is important to me. But it is obvious your four need to brush up on your etiquette."

And I walked away.

Five minutes later they all came over to where I was sitting...apologized....bought me a few rounds and we all started doing shots and we ended up bar hopping after that.

I guess my point is people should not judge others just on their looks.

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Yahoo!! LOL!!

I dated a Japanese girl for quite some time while I was working in Japan. It took some time for her family to warm up to me but I did learn how to do the Tea Ceremony and her Grandpa really liked me.

But BOY....those Asian Girls know how to take care of a man!! LOL!!

AA

 

Ive been to the north east, lived there for 6 months while doing a hotel revamp. I stayed in Providence but during the time we made our rounds to Boston and NYC. Can't say I was disappointed, other than the fact one day it was a nice summer day and went to the beach, then woke up the next morning and walked outside in shorts and a shirt and got slapped in the face by freezing weather lol.

I really didn't come upon any feminist types during my stay and we went to bars almost every night. This was over 10 years ago and the SJW movement wasn't even going bat (*)(*)(*)(*) crazy like it is today either. But I found most of the women in those cities to be very pleasant and obviously took a lot of time pampering themselves. The first night I got to Providence we went to get some drinks, I offered to buy first so I went up to the bar but the bartender was busy with some customers. All the sudden I heard this voice say "let me buy you a drink" , of course I didn't think it was directed at me so i didn't even turn around or look. Then came a tap on the shoulder and there is this cute blonde and she has this "little boy did you not hear me offer to buy you a drink" look on her face and I was confused as all get out haha. I had to apologize to her and explain that the places I come from, women NEVER just walk up and offer a man a drink out of nowhere, you don't get that unless you are good friends or you have been dating. Anyways she bought me a beer first then we took turns buying rounds for the groups we were with. It was only 6 total so it wasn't a big deal. But man were those some fun conversations and we all hung out a good amount of time during our stay. Not once did a political conversation come up, it was quite nice actually.

Then another time at a bar in Boston there was this gorgeous bartender. I am talking smoking. Brunette hair, half asian half italian so her eyes were amazing, gorgeous smile and everything was just too much for me to keep my eyes off. she had a great personality on top of that and kept many people at the bar laughing or entertained. I happened to be pretty drunk that night but Ill never forget having her alone for a few minutes and we were just talking, small banter with some jokes. I had noticed the wedding band on her finger and let her know it was too bad she was married. She looked at me puzzled at first and then she started laughing, took off the ring and told me she just used that to keep men honest and to keep the creeps from bothering her. Then she asked me what I would have said if she wasn't married lol. That was a great night.

But I guess what i am trying to say is I had an easier time getting along with women in the NE than I have had anywhere else. And no Im not just talking sex, I never went around horn dogging and trying to bang everything that moves, but simply just go out and meet some girls and have a good time drinking and laughing. It was so easy to do up there and i enjoyed the ever loving hell out of it.

But also at the same time I did notice a few things, mostly that there seemed to be a lot of jerkoff guys up there. I mean I can't tell you how many times me and the boys went into a bar and first got dirty looks but then after always had some smart ass trying to start something. That was quite odd. I mean I know bar fights happen, but the guys up there seem to feed off it like they need to constantly prove their manhood. Oh and all these guys must live in a gym. Not trying to sound like a jerk but there were times the girlfriends of these dudes came over to hang with us because we werent acting like complete tools. Of course that alone got us into a few scraps but I feel that is why the women are so open to "outsiders" around those parts is because we were not jerks. Keep in mind it was only 6 months, but I saw a ton of difference in those 6 months in contrast to the cities I have been to and lived in.

You are from there so you might be able to chime in more about this, but thats the exact type of experience I had during my stay. No feminists or SJW's of any kind, and it was pleasant and easy to get along with women But I will say this, the people in Maine DO NOT at all like outsiders and they can be just straight up mean. That is still the only place I have ever been to where I got into a fight because I was having a beer in a bar that supposedly I shouldn't have been in. Seriously, we were just sitting there minding our own business and a (*)(*)(*)(*)ing salt shaker zoomed passed my face and hit my buddies wife square in the forehead. It was really odd. Good fight though, them Maine boys are tough lol.