My Second Life and other Secrets

His secret is that this thread is about his day-dreams.

 

http://news.wfu.edu/2017/04/19/beetroot-juice-exercise-aging-brains-look-younger/

Wow! Those are some very interesting findings. I'm all over the super foods - carrots, kale, spinach, broccoli, cauliflower, but had never heard a thing about beets before.

Giving up carbs and processed foods, and going to super foods, produced dramatic results. That along with regular exercise was life changing in the extreme.

Oh yes, chocolate is a super food. I make my own sugar free chocolate using dark cocoa. It is loaded with flavonoids and antioxidants.

 

I've been thinking lately about two lessons I've learned. Firstly, he who hesitates is lost. I have learned too many times now that when I meet some young woman who gets my attention, and who I think might be into older men, or when some unique opportunity presents itself, jump when I can because opportunities are fleeting. People change jobs or their routine, or I put someone off for one reason or another, and suddenly the opportunity is gone. Our little threesome recently is the perfect example of the opposite. I could sense that this was a unique moment. 13 REALLY wanted to be in a threesome with another woman, and she had never been with another woman. I set out to find someone to join us with a vengeance. I probably contacted close to 30 women, talked with maybe ten, met three, with the third coffee date being the charm. I met her at the last possible moment almost on a whim. We talked for the first time late Thursday night, met for coffee early Friday morning, and had the threesome Saturday. And it was amazing! 14 and I have talked about this a few times now and it was a night to be remembered. I wasn't really all that fired up about it for me as much as for 13. She had never had the nerve to approach another woman and she was excited. But it turned out to be most memorable for all of us.

And sure enough. There were dark clouds on the horizon. I split up with 13 a couple of weeks later. One thing had nothing to do with the other and it was a surprise to end things so abruptly. But it wasn't going to work. I am glad I jumped when I did and coordinated the threesome like I did. If I had waited another week, it never would have happened. And it definitely goes down as one of the great nights of my life.

Something else that comes up time and time again. It takes me about 6 hours to prepare for a date. Whenever a young lady comes to my place, it is not only spotless, but laced with scents known to be aphrodisiacs, or at least convey the sense of being extremely clean. The smell of clean laundry is an aphrodisiac. So I always do the sheets and pillow cases that afternoon - with bleach. Bleach the bathroom and kitchen. Febreze the critical furniture [Febreze smells mostly like clean laundry]. Oil the wood. Vanilla candles all around with plenty in the bedroom. The sheets are always tight and flat - I still do hospital corners. I even bleach the marble coasters each week. And I would bet at least half the women I've seen have commented on this. 14 was saying last week that it makes it so nice to be here. "It is always so fresh and crisp", she said. I know you can't win a woman's affection with a clean house. But anything less can be a turn off before you have the chance to get beyond the introductions. That along with nice mood music, wine, chocolate, strawberries, etc, and of course red roses, all create a wonderful ambiance. And most of the women definitely appreciate it.

Number One once told me that one big reason she agreed to see me early on, was the way I live. She too said the effort to make this place so nice for her had a real impact. And I remember her freaking out because she said my refrigerator is healthier than hers! When they see that you work hard to take care of yourself, they don't seem to see the age so much. It helps to break down barriers. Probably a third to half the women I've met are extremely fit and healthy. Number One was hardcore. Her workouts sometimes lasted for 3 or 4 hours. And most of the women I've met are vegan or vegetarian.

The only negative I've found. I have read that some women [in their own words] are turned off if a guy is a better housekeeper than they are! LOL! Sometimes you can't win for losing. It usually takes them awhile to notice. But most seem to appreciate the extra effort. And I know it has opened doors.

 

Last Tuesday after dropping my porn star supermodel 18yr old sex toy off at her pole dancing gig for a biker gang lesbian twelvesome video party, I met a Nubile Swedish cosplay nymphomaniac who requested my 48 inch shlong treatment therapy program as seen on the Dr. Oz infomercial. Because I am such a compassionate and giving person I took time from my standard day of God like worship audience to give my attention and benevolent awesomeness to her desperate need for satisfaction, After six hours of intensive therapy she was so impressed and exhausted she bowed before me and performed several acts of submissive appreciation upon waking in her pool of sweaty bliss.
I have decided my presence is required at the U.N. next week to ensure world peace is achieved and Islamic terror banished in favor of Qu'ran inspired pedophilia adaptation. Only with my guidance and example will the planetary stability and Universal perfection be achieved.

Oh...and I made amazing Shrimp rolls for Angelina before using my 12 inch tongue to remove all traces of Cancer.

 

I read through some of the thread. I'm also a woman of advanced age and always liked being married. Think women have too much power now and family suffers from it. But if a man wants to be single and go for young women that is his business. I'm on the conservative side but don't judge those who don't affect my life. Some politics do but men who date instead of marry doesn't, it is their prerogative.

 

A funny twist, here is a fast recap: I got my sb a sb for her birthday. But then I broke up with my sb and started seeing her sb. But now my new sb wants me to get her a sb for her birthday. LOL!!! What have I done?!?! Last night she was telling what she wants - a hot nerdy girl with the thick-rim glasses. She really likes the Alex character on Orange is the New Black. And the funny thing is, so do I! But her birthday is later his year so I have plenty of time.

We have been having a fantastic time. She is very smart and my intellect turns her on. She loves to get into the weird concepts from physics, to which she has almost no exposure. And when I lay a good one on her, some hyper-strange fact from Relativity or Quantum Mechanics, she about flies off the couch! She definitely gets it, and then freaks out. But whatever the topic of discussion, time flies. And the sex is amazing. We are 110% compatible in this area - maybe the best sex I've ever had at times. And it didn't take long at all before we were snuggling and sharing hours of pillow talk afterwards.

So I learned something. I never would have messaged my new sb were it not for trying to set up the threesome with my last sb. Her profile said NSA FWB only and I am looking for more. But once we spent some time, the tone of things changed quickly. We are spending more and more time together, expanding our range of activities, and are definitely developing a close friendship. I have even found that she likes it when I allude to this leading to more. Twice now I've made a little joke about getting her in a wedding dress, which elicited a surprisingly impish response. It seemed to turn her on a bit! LOL! So I really don't know where this is going.

As always, I'll just hang on and see what happens. But our time together is about as good as it gets. She is awesome! She reminds me a lot of number one and she is just as pretty. She is the most beautiful woman I've met since number one. That is definitely working for me too! Wow. She's even the same age as Number One was when I met her - 21. Again, wow. It's Deja Vu all over again!

 

Hey, a brother in the sugar!

 

I just meant that these relationships are generally limited because of the age difference. That doesn't mean I wouldn't try to keep the right one around for good, if I find her. A lot of SDs get very possessive. The bit about acceptance is really a state of mind for my own well being.

One of biggest complaints that I hear about other SDs is that they lose perspective. I make clear in my profile that I get it. Many women have commented on this and said that is why they went out with me in the first place - they like my attitude.

 

This keeps reminding me of one of my favorite moments with Number One. It was my birthday. I don't eat cake and I don't remember what it was, but she came up with some kind of low-carb treat and put candles on it. She said to make a wish. So I did and blew out the candles. I looked at her and said something about being disappointed because I didn't get my wish. "How could you know so fast?" she asked. "You're not wearing a wedding dress", I responded.

That was the only time I ever saw her blush.

 

A note on my previous life, apparently my ex is in trouble. I have been flooded with calls from presumably credit agencies trying to find her, for months.

I laugh in my head every time I get a call. She walked away with plenty of money. Leave it to her to get her butt in a ringer anyway. I long suspected that she was addicted to online gambling or something like that. Over the years, tens of thousands of dollars seemed to just disappear. When I would interrogate her, she always had some excuse. When I went to check the online accounts. for some reason my password never worked. Deep down I knew there was something seriously wrong. But when you love someone and trust them, it is amazing how much a person can overlook.

In retrospect it is all so obvious now. But back then, I couldn't bring myself to believe it.

Now I know why she wanted to pay the bills and always got the mail.

 

Everything is going wonderfully with 14. We are talking about a trip to Hawaii. And she just seems to get more beautiful every time I see her. Unfortunately I don't seem to be falling in love. But for now we're having fun. So okay.

For a long time, deep down I thought it would be easy to fall in love again. But not so. 14 should easily steal my heart - she is smart as can be, sweet, gorgeous. enthusiastic... everything a man could want! But it just isn't happening. I love spending time with her but have no incapacitating emotions.

I've noticed that even though I am not currently looking, I am always in pickup mode. I'm not actually trying to pick up anyone but I love trying to get into their heads. The other day I was flying and sitting next to a pretty young woman - late twenties and the wife of a Lutheran Minister! LOL! It didn't take long before we had found a wide range of common interests and were having a great conversation. Before long she was telling me how miserable she is in her marriage.

I am naturally friendly and outgoing - more than most people. The truth is, for a long time I didn't realize that what I consider being friendly, women often see as a come on. Once I realized this, I doubled down and learned to use this to my advantage. Now it has gotten to be a game of seeing how fast I can connect with women. Trying to connect with women 25 or 30 years younger than me used to be a real challenge. But after five years I've gotten pretty good at it.

The wife of the Lutheran minister and I connected on Dr. Who. She had a Dr. Who watch LOL! That's all it took. And to top it off we have the same favorite movie - Metropolis - a silent German film made in 1929. How strange is that?!?!

PS. I don't want to be specific as it would be a definitive identifier, but 14 has been given a great honor for an undergrad - something normally reserved exclusively for graduates and even then a real honor. She was sooooooo excited! This girl is definitely going places.

 

Not true.

Beautiful women can be shallow or deep.

Just because you don't know any deep ones does not mean they do not exist.

They do.

I have known both.

 

Why do you call her 14? Please tell me that is not her age?


No offense, I appreciate your apparent honesty...but you sound REALLY selfish and superficial.
And you are apparently living for sex? At 50? And with women young enough to be your daughter? That is not love, that is lust.

Jeez man...most guys got over that 'sex is everything' obsession by 20 or 21 at the latest.

Not trying to insult you (if everyone is adult, same and consenting - knock yourselves out)...just calling it as I see it.

 

I said 'almost always shallow' the operative word being 'almost'?

 

Fair enough...but you still cannot say that accurately.

For you to be able to accurately say that, you would have to know ALL beautiful women in the world.

Now you only know - at most - an incredibly small fraction of them. So you have no idea whatsoever if beautiful women are 'almost always shallow'. None.

The only factual statement you can make is that 'of all the beautiful women I have known, almost all of them were superficial'.

But speaking for millions of people you have never even met is erroneous...to say the least.

 

You're missing the point - if I'd meant all beautiful women are shallow, I would have said 'all'?

 

Actually, you are missing your own point.

You said 'beautiful women are almost always shallow'.

You did not say 'some'. By simply saying 'beautiful women', you were - like it or not, intentionally or not - referring to ALL beautiful women.

If I say 'men are pigs' or 'Ford trucks are ****' Obviously the statement is in reference to ALL men or ALL Ford trucks. It does not matter what I meant. What I said was a reference to ALL men, ALL Ford trucks, respectively. The statements are all inclusive...intentionally or otherwise.

I am not spending hours arguing this with you. Like it or not, your statement referred to ALL beautiful women. And I am not even the only person in this thread who took it to mean that.
If you don't understand this...that is your problem.

We are done here...good day.

 

Sugar Baby number. It's easier than trying to come up with a bunch of false names.

I fell madly in love with my first - she was the greatest love of my life and it was the most powerful experience of my life. So I know what's possible. Those were the best three years of my life.

I just go for the young ones cause they're the hottest... Okay, and I don't like women my age. My ex wife and family took care of that. Additionally, if I'm going to spend time with a woman, there is no reason for me to compromise. Why should I date down if I don't need to?

I was married for 25 years. You?

Sex saved my life. It stopped me from committing suicide. What do you know about that?

And don't put words in my mouth. It is dishonest and undermines your attempts to look objective.

You obviously haven't even read the first page and are in no position to have an opinion. Speaking out of ignorance will make you a fool every time.

 

Also, if a man 20 or 21 years old has already lost his sex drive, he needs to see a doctor.

Obesity can drastically reduce the sex drive. It also makes you girly due to excess estrogen production. Fat results in increased estrogen levels. Drugs and alcohol can kill the sex drive as well.

 

I may have spoken too soon. We had a REALLY good time this weekend and I'm feeling a little bewitched today.

You never know! I never would have contacted her had it not been for the situation. Now she is turning out to be the best companion I've met since Number One left. We share a deep love of knowledge and learning that is blossoming into a wonderful friendship. And she is so beautiful that I still have to pinch myself sometimes. Until now I wasn't feeling the earth move but I did this weekend.

There is a bit of a backstory here but suffice it to say that I still wasn't completely over Number One. I had to let go. And that opened the door.

 

Another first. 14 likes women as well as men. So I took a guess that she would like lesbian porn. Over the last few weeks I've been collecting realistic [real sex like real people do] porn videos mainly involving two women. I threw in a few well-done couples videos as well. I didn't know if she likes porn or not. But a lot of younger women do and she definitely has a spicy side. I thought it may help enhance the mood. Sure enough. I asked point blank if she would like to watch some porn. She then got a big playful grin on her face and said SURE! LOL! Okay then. And it all worked out great. We both enjoy the same thing - beautiful people doing what people really do. Neither one of us wants to watch the extreme stuff. I had assembled a little over an hour of relatively tasteful videos and she liked them all.

It was so cool!!! I have never sat and watched porn with anyone before; much less a drop-dead gorgeous young woman. And neither had she. Number One and I used to compare notes on hot women in music videos, but never porn. 14 and I were having a blast comparing who we find attractive and why, and what is hot. It was so comfortable and seemed so natural. We were both completely at ease. We were able to discuss in detail what we like or not, and why. It was a level of comfort I've never had with any woman before. It was also successful as a mood enhancer. We had unusually hot sex, which gets better all the time.

She is also showing a great deal more affection these days, as compared to just a couple of months ago. And I am feeling the same for her. You can always tell how things are going by the cuddling and intimacy after sex. We are growing surprisingly close.

I told her she is getting to me. I told her I am developing feelings for her. I told her I want to her to have my children. Then I told her I wasn't using a condom. HAHA. Got her with that one! But we had THE talk where I explain my philosophy. She totally gets it and seems quite enthusiastic.

In short, my philosophy is that there is no reason to hold back on feelings just because we both accept that the relationship is finite. Make the most of it while it lasts. The joy of the time we share outweighs the pain of letting go when the time comes.

 

*******n it. Now I'm getting notifications when posts are made to this sick thread.

 

This is funny. I was watching an interview with Jennie Willoughby, a former wife of Rob Porter, who just resigned his position as staff secretary at the White House due to allegations of spousal abuse. And while she doesn't look a lot like my first sugar baby, her manner of speech, the sound of her voice, her intellect, her understanding of emotional issues, her insights, and her emotional intelligence remind me so much of Number One that I found myself feeling a enchanted just listening to her. Eeesh! When Number One talked, just the sound of her voice made me high.



Man, that really came out of the blue. That really got to me.

 

Everyone who thinks Herewegoagain should reunite with his ex, raise a hand!

*Raises hand*