If I look at a woman with lust, does it make it sexual harassment?

Even if she is mindi g her own business, and I turn my head to my phone when she looks up? To take it further, the male posters will know what I’m talking about, let’s say that lust gives me a stoffy in you know where. Do I become a sexual harassing monster for this, even as I control my five inch hot dog?

A woman coming onto me, wanting a one night stand in scandalous clothing is one thing. For me to grope or kids without consent is another. A woman could say, “I wanna get in the f^ck machine with you” and I still wouldn’t call it harassment. Or the groupies who want to go back to your RV, and test it’s back shocks while making cat noises. Loudly.

It really reminds me of that scene in the Howard Stern film where Howard fantasies a passerby female without a top, in a bra with enlarged breasts. It’s perfextly natural to possibly get a little wet when we are taken over by lust. I’m sure any ninth grade boy in sex ed has done this at least twice on a fellow female schoolmate. They don’t know how to explain it at the time, but it happens.

Thoughts?

 

No looking at someone isn't sexual harassment but unwanted touching on the ass definitely is.

 

honestly I think you're better off practicing for a replacement face in the mirror... some lusty looks are

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Men think about sex all the time. Some studies suggest men think about sex up to 20 times per day. Some men have reported [using clickers] thinking about sex almost 400 times a day. Not all men by any means, but those of us with a strong sex drive think about sex a lot.

Just relax, Try not to be obvious and be respectful. Women think about sex too but only about half as often as men, according to some studies. But women can get down and dirty too - more so than men sometimes! They look at men's butts. They make comments. They talk about stuff men never would.

One big difference is that men are very visual - hence porn. Women, not so much. Our desire for visual stimulation is what causes problems. The truth be told, when I am in bed with a beautiful woman, I could sit and adore her all day. Just sit and look and soak it in like a beautiful sunrise. But I never let them know that!

 

I also suggest losing the word "lust". It connotes the idea of doing something that is wrong. It is part of the stifling anti-sex, anti-male language from primitive religions. It is intended to make you feel guilty for being a man.

It is nature making us do what we evolved to do. It isn't lust. It is life. Sex is life, literally. So lose the guilt and enjoy being a man. Sex is awesome!

 

I think the best way for you to think about this is to imagine how you'd feel if a gay man was doing the same thing to you that you're doing to a woman. If the gay man would make you feel uncomfortable, scared or angry, that's probably how you're making the woman feel.

 

This is excellent advice.

It is also important to understand that how attractive a man is will effect or even define whether harassment is felt. Many women will enjoy attention form an attractive man and complain about the same thing from the unattractive.

 

Good post, and accurate in my view.

 

Frankie Valli says he tells them......Can't take my eyes off you.

 

If she "feels" a sense of being visually molested, yes. Even if your look is without lust. It's her decision, not yours. You may be thinking "how disgusting" she is but if she feels it was with lust ..... you're ****ed.

 

Yeah, every time a woman comes into sight with her skirt hiked up to her azz.

 

There are times when looking lustfully at a woman just happens and you may not be cognizant of it. I don't think that it is sexual harassment, but I suggest that no drooling take place during the lustful moment. And if your wife is with you when this happens,
she will notice immediately and then you must not say anything while she verbally destroys you.

 

If it is a professional and/or work setting, you need to control yourself. A woman should not have to go to work and deal with being the object of someone's sexual interest, even if you are not being overt. She isn't there to fend off or to be made uncomfortable by someone's sexual interest in her: she is there to work. I don't understand why some men have such a problem with this. Social settings are different. If you want to be a lecherous bore in a purely social setting, that's your problem. In a professional/work setting, behave w/o any sexual attitude at all.

 

Good post

 

Showing interest doesn't only mean being a lecherous bore. That is feminist nonsense.

So the standard now is that you can't date anyone who works with you? I know of a lot of marriages that wouldn't exist by this standard.

Hell, I had a very serious relationship with a woman I worked with. And I married another one!

 

You are therefore a repeat offender of "hate crimes". You should be ashamed of yourself!

 

Well it turned out that marrying the one was a hate crime committed against myself.

 

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Sometimes it is difficult to keep your distance on the job, but the theory is a good one. It could have blown up in your face.
I met my wife 32 years ago on the job and we are still going strong---I think.

 

The work place has long been a place to find people with common interests. I broke up with the one girl but we continued to work together without any problem. I even went backpacking with her new bf.

It can be dicey but this practice of vilifying men for being human has to stop! I could go on all day about the horrors of working with women who are on their periods.

PMS has no place in the work place! That is a personal problem. Stay home if you can't act like a decent person. Why should men be subjected to this crap once a month?

 

Umm, you just opened a can of worms, my friend, and will probably get some input from some women about that subject.

 

To the new Democratic puritan values, it does not matter what the man does, it only matters how the woman feels about it. So per the OP if you look at a woman lustfully, whether it is sexual harassment or sexual assault solely depends on how she feels about it. If she is ok with, fine. If not, you are a predatory sexual harasser and assailant who should be held in public contempt, banned from any employment and sued, for which the damages are to set based upon however much she says she has been lifelong psychologically destroyed and crippled for life by it.

 

It is also the trumpist puritan values, based on their reaction to the dems in the hot seat. Actually, I think a woman knows the difference between sexual harassment and sexual assault. Of course, if she is ok with it, fine because there won't be any accusations. Unfortunately, there are so many women coming forward that men better watch their sorry asses because it is like the dam has burst. Without proof, a good litigator is crucial for a successful suit.

 

Most women make me puke. Seriously with all that make up. i avoid women at all costs now. Women are dying for men's attention. Now they wish men would sexualiz them. Now it's women who can't get laid. I know a few men been approached by women but they completely ignore them and just go with their day.

 

Have a good time with the guys there buddy...Lube up.